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One of my FB friends sent this to me when I approached them for advice on socialising (I have
autism so struggle with this).

Do you think that that this (what follows) is good advice, and that they are genuinely my friend? Please could you help me interpret the tone of it? Is it angry? I asked them how they were, but they didn't answer that question, they said the below:

"You knows yourself quite well as we can see from your self-analysis. i talked before about joining clubs. I can see no better start point. A couple of clubs (and one where they do things away from the campus so that they go out on trips for the day...an outdoor activity like hiking, climbing or theatre or..or..or...) at least doing things you are interested in and can then get some personal satisfaction and along the way you will meet people and develop friendships.Ive told you before - Don't try (too hard) Friendships develop slowly. This is another tough one to answer because it takes time. you must also lose the obsession about exam results. You must quit studying at X o'clock every day (except in exam times) and have time to go do things. But get stuck in with people. Don't be afraid to loook stupid when introducing yourself. But dont wait to do it. Friendship groups form quickly and you dont want to interrupt half way through the year. Get to know as many people by name as possible so they are easy to talk to later on. But dont be overly keen as people hate that There's another balance to be found here and its up to you to find it."

What does "there's another balance to be found here and its up to you to find it" mean here? I feel that it sounds a little angry? Have I lost this friendship now? Do you think that they ever want to hear from me again?
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They don't sound angry to me, they've given some good advice and have taken the time to type it all out What sort of clubs/activities are you thinking of joining?
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What does "there's another balance to be found here and its up to you to find it" mean here?
Perhaps a balance between socialing and studying? Not 100% sure here
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Really? That’s good to hear, thanks. I thought they sounded somewhat angry. Do you think that they still are my friend? I thought when they said this that they didn’t want to hear from me again.
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Really? That’s good to hear, thanks. I thought they sounded somewhat angry. Do you think that they still are my friend? I thought when they said this that they didn’t want to hear from me again.
To me they sound factual and honest, which may be why you see it as being very blunt/angry. I think they’re still your friend
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