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parents pressuring me to wear headscarf
they have put up with me not wearing one for the past years (i stopped wearing it when i was year8) although we have and sometimes still do have fall outs over it but i am starting a new job now at a supermarket and they want me to wear one because family friends will see me . i dont know what to do and if i should just tell my manager i dont want the job anymore
this has really upset me and i dont want to upset my parents
please keep this anon because my friends might use this thanks
this has really upset me and i dont want to upset my parents
please keep this anon because my friends might use this thanks
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Could the reason why you don't want to wear it (which you haven't stated) contribute to any possible compromise?
i.star
your parents only want what's best for you. if they want you to wear one then it's best for you
What are you talking about? she can make her own choices and doesn't need her parents to run and controll her life.
If her parents wanted her to jump off a cliff.. would you think that was alrite? of course not.
oh dear 
u should wear one when you are ready
your parents, if they are devout muslims at all, should know that pressurising someone into wearing the headscarf is not right... the only reason, valid to God is if you wear out of your free will... if you are being forced to, it's not the same thing
i don't wear one, my parents have never pressured me into it... it's just a matter of wearing one when your ready
i've seen plenty of girls who wear one just because they have been forced to yet, they drink, eat haram and all that... pretty hypocritical... and then they try to preach to me about not wearing one... but at least i don't drink or eat haram, food... hmph /rant
don't wear one if you don't feel ready to wear one
u should wear one when you are readyyour parents, if they are devout muslims at all, should know that pressurising someone into wearing the headscarf is not right... the only reason, valid to God is if you wear out of your free will... if you are being forced to, it's not the same thing
i don't wear one, my parents have never pressured me into it... it's just a matter of wearing one when your ready
i've seen plenty of girls who wear one just because they have been forced to yet, they drink, eat haram and all that... pretty hypocritical... and then they try to preach to me about not wearing one... but at least i don't drink or eat haram, food... hmph /rant
don't wear one if you don't feel ready to wear one
Yu sould fight for your right to not have to wear one. Like the dude above me said, comprimise with your parents? And I'm not entirely sure if its mandatory to wear one, I've heard it is but if not then find out actual quotes from your rleigion and then they can't argue that now can they 
i.star
your parents only want what's best for you. if they want you to wear one then it's best for you
Don't listen to this guy.
The truth is your parents don't always want whats best for you. Sometimes parents have no idea. From the sounds of it they're quite strict Muslims, and you aren't. You're a free person in a free country. You can wear whatever you want.
Don't wear it if you don't want to. Are your parents very religious? Sometimes my dad goes on about Mr X's daughter and how "she is very good girl wearing hijab"...so I just tell him how I've seen Mr X's daughter and her bf acting not-very-muslim during Ramadan.
If they've put up with you not wearing it for so long, then maybe you could persuade them to let you go on not wearing it?
If they've put up with you not wearing it for so long, then maybe you could persuade them to let you go on not wearing it?
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Don't wear it if you don't want to. Are your parents very religious? Sometimes my dad goes on about Mr X's daughter and how "she is very good girl wearing hijab"...so I just tell him how I've seen Mr X's daughter and her bf acting not-very-muslim during Ramadan.
LOL classic strategy
OP, like (almost) everyone has said, it's important than you show independence and only do things for the right reason. If you don't feel comfortable wearing the headscarf, then you absolutely shouldn't.
Ignore this advice if you're parents are very strict/potentially violent (I wouldn't want anything on my conscience!): But if I were you I'd question my parents' religiosity and reasoning. They want you to wear it because other people might see you without it? Where's the Islam behind that? There isn't any. They're just being hypocritical and superficial, asking you to do something because they're worried what the nosey neighbours might think rather than what they genuinely believe to be right. Parents like this annoy me more than the parents who believe in the virtues of the headscarf and ask the child to wear it for that reason.
Ascient
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Ignore this advice if you're parents are very strict/potentially violent (I wouldn't want anything on my conscience!): But if I were you I'd question my parents' religiosity and reasoning. They want you to wear it because other people might see you without it? Where's the Islam behind that? There isn't any. They're just being hypocritical and superficial, asking you to do something because they're worried what the nosey neighbours might think rather than what they genuinely believe to be right. Parents like this annoy me more than the parents who believe in the virtues of the headscarf and ask the child to wear it for that reason.
Ignore this advice if you're parents are very strict/potentially violent (I wouldn't want anything on my conscience!): But if I were you I'd question my parents' religiosity and reasoning. They want you to wear it because other people might see you without it? Where's the Islam behind that? There isn't any. They're just being hypocritical and superficial, asking you to do something because they're worried what the nosey neighbours might think rather than what they genuinely believe to be right. Parents like this annoy me more than the parents who believe in the virtues of the headscarf and ask the child to wear it for that reason.
my point exactly...
like i outlined in my post... u need to do it for the right reasons, and should wear it under religious grounds... ur parents should understand this if they were understanding and good Muslims... and i meant that last bit
i.star
your parents only want what's best for you. if they want you to wear one then it's best for you
Don't worry, I saw the irony
Jamezzy
What are you talking about? she can make her own choices and doesn't need her parents to run and controll her life.
If her parents wanted her to jump off a cliff.. would you think that was alrite? of course not.
If her parents wanted her to jump off a cliff.. would you think that was alrite? of course not.
Are you thick or something?! I said her parents want what's best for her and maybe she should consider their advice. Didn't say anything about accepting her parents choice.
The word tasattur, which means the veiling of a woman, doesn't exist in the Qur'an. The Arabic expression humur (mentioned in the hadith) refers to a cover, not specifically a headscarf. The connotation of "humur" in the sense of a headscarf emerged much later, following the interpretation and practices of sectarian scholarship. The Qur'an speaks of the bosom as the part of the body that must be covered, and not the head. The words that correspond to the headscarf worn by Arabs are mýkna and nasýf, you can consult any Arabic dictionary to verify this.
Tell your parents to stick that in their pipe and smoke it.
P.S. I'm not a muslim.
Tell your parents to stick that in their pipe and smoke it.
P.S. I'm not a muslim.
Nadia.R
they shouldnt tell you to wear it just because family friends will see you! i get that (not with the headscarf thing because i wear one alredy and im glad i do, but with the jeans and stuff) but anyway wearing a headscarf is kind of a must for muslim women anyway so you should consider it. and it is hard especially if you used to wear it then stopped but tell them you will when your ready, it does feel wierd at first but then u realise its importance
Totally agree
I don't think that the people who are saying 'just don't wear it' quite realise how difficult it is to go against your parents, regarding religion in paticular.
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