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Looking Young

Hello

Recently i've felt very unhappy (excuse the oxymoron). I am male.
Because i look young, i don't mean 'Young' like my friend looks 17 when he's 18, i mean i look young due to physical development taking its time, so naturally i look about 12-14. This is just a fact.
I'm 17 btw. Now i've researched this and its not that uncommon, but i'm finding it very difficult to live with.
I have delayed puberty and i've started, i can cum. But due to my youthful look, i'm unable to gain a girlfriend...I can't go outwith someone under 16 without being branded a pedophile even though they look my age, i wouldn't want to either.
I can't go out with 17 year-old because i'm unattractive being a 'boy' not a 'man, i am attractive for my look if you understand me. Just not to an older person due to looking young.

So girls are a noNo. I am friends with them ofcourse.

My second problem is embarrasment on revealing my age. I don't go to the cinema anymore despite loving films due to the embarrasment when they ask my age, when i go to see a 12a for example, I don't get ID but i do say i am 14 to ensure they don't ask questions and say 'Omg you look so young' when i reveal i'm 17.

When i see 15, again i am not ID, mostly due to the cinema near me being very loose, i do infact look about 13-14, But i fear they would ID me and then be very surprised i was 17 and would cause me alot of embarrasement.

When these things happen, i can't let them go, they go over and over in my mind and its making me very depressed. I use to go out a lot and i am just starting to hide away now.

When people say 'Omg you don't look 17' at the cinema, i ask how old they are if they are over 20 i say there pathetic to still be working in a cinema. But overall it just makes me feel extremely bad inside, and i'm starting to be unable to take it.

Third problem; parties, when i go to parties with people i don't know, i always feel like they are looking at me, wondering why i am there, as if i'm not old enough. I feel out of place too when i see photos after and notice how young i look compared to everyone else. I use to get off with people at parties, now i don't. (I've gotten off with more than 50 girls by age of 15) It's really drilling having this sub-conscious feeling nagging me everytime i start a conversation with someone.

Fourth Problem; I go to 6th form and on the way to school in my suit i just feel like people look at me and wonder why i am in a suit rather than going to school. I can't help thinking like this.

5th problem; My friends are starting to be 18 and going to the pub with my 17-year old mates etc, i just can't go, they'll pester me for ID which i don't have straight away and i won't be able to stay and buy a coke like others i fear, i fear i'll be chucked out and laughed at... When i am 18 i fear the pub servants will laugh at me after i show them my ID, they'll be looking at me all night, whispering about how young i look. Infact right now it's my best mates birthday and everyone is at a pub celebrating... I just can't go due to embarrasement, even though other mates who are 17 don't get served, i'll just feel really bad about it and well totally unwelcome, i feel others who don't get served don't mind because they look 17 so atleast don't look too out of place. Even in there without alchohal i feel everyone would be looking at me as if i was trying to get underage drink and like i shouldn't be there.

6th problem; Going on holiday to Magaluf in summer and i'm worried i won't get served (even though EVERYONE gets served there) or get into clubs, or when i'm in, others there won't accept me, thinking i don't belong there.

7th problem; When i worked in Somerfield (which i quit) i worked on the tills and everyday people would ask what i'm doing there
'Work experience'
'Nope'
'What are you doing here?'
'Working'
'Ooo i didn't know people could work here under 16'
Grrrrrr....
One day i was putting cat feed up and a gf/bf walked by and i heard her say ' he looks about 12' i seriously felt like beating the crap out of the boyfriend, instead i just sat there feeling extremely self-conscious and crap about myself...I quit that day due to it. I just felt every customer was staring at me like wtf?

8th problem; My mates aren't as good mates as they use to be with me, i think its cause its embarrasing for them too when they are hanging around with a '13 year old', so i don't get invited out as much, mostly they go pub anyway.

9th problem; University in Summer, i don't know how i'll cope, seriously all the students wondering why i'm not going high school, no1 going out with me due to youthful looks (mates i mean)

My biggest fear is going to a pub when 18 and someone laughing at my age, getting another servant, telling them, both laughing at me, me going along like 'haha yeah i know its strange' asking me why i look so young and 'cannot believe it'.

Cause fair enough i do look young, but people are so rude, don't people know some people develop at different rates, don't they realise how much it hurts people when your taking the piss out of something that causes that person to many problems...I can't wait for the day someone fat can't believe i'm young looking, 'You're fat, omg i can't believe your that fat, has anyone every told you, god this is unbelievable' (I know; the hypocrisy)

But i'm as self-conscious about looking young i guess as someone who has no legs or a missing eye!

The happiness i felt once when i was in Tesco Express and got asked if i had got any petrol - seriously i was over the moon all night, was sooo Happy!!!
And then next day i get refused a lottery ticket despite going there every day lunch and break in my suit and proclaiming i go to 6th form... Seriously all my mates in their suits are buying them and i can't even though the same lady serves me everyday when i am wearing my suit! GRRrrr...

Sorry this is so long, i just wanted to express how i'm feeling and how this is affecting me...

I don't want to know the benefits, when you're 40 you'll look 20 because its not true, my dad had the same problem and he is 40 and looks forty...

I know all this will change over the next few years but i just wanted to talk about my suffering.

Looking young for your age when you're 40 isn't a benefit, because you're already married and in a secure job, not trying to massively impress people and get girlfriends and be accepted, you're already established!!!

I would prefer look 90 when i'm 40, than 12 when i'm 18. So none of that crap.

I'm starting to not give a crap about my appearance (hair/clothes), i realise now that when everyone was 15 with long hair it was because they had embarrasments they were hiding by not caring about everything, i'm trying to get into that role so i don't care about this! But its not working.

If i go the pub right now, i seriously don't know what would happen, but the chances of embarrasment hugely outweigh the fun i may, because the whole time i will sit there feeling bad!

Thankyou, seriously thankyou for reading, any replies? i just want to talk about it really.

Reply 20

strawberry

13

just carry ID on you. If anybody laughs when they card you, ignore them. The reason why you're so miserable is because you're putting so much into what other people think. What you should be doing is putting more into what YOU think. Do YOU think you look good? Do YOU think that you have every right to be in a bar because you're 17? Then to hell with what everybody else says!

Reply 21

GJK208

ok, trust me on this.

Finish 6th form and get a part time job or something, take 2 gap years, save money, and go to the gym makin sure u do weights not just cardio, then go to uni when you are 20. This is the advice i wish i had gotten.

Reply 22

Anonymous #1

OP

GJK208

ok, trust me on this.

Finish 6th form and get a part time job or something, take 2 gap years, save money, and go to the gym makin sure u do weights not just cardio, then go to uni when you are 20. This is the advice i wish i had gotten.

Did you have the same problem as me then? How old are you now - At what age did you look older? Can i see picture?

Cheers, i have actually been considering this... Taking 2 years gap so that i look like everyone else when i go to university - My brother did the same thing but not on purpose, he became depressed and didn't try at school etc, he's 20 now and looks 20, he use to be like me, and he just went Uni.... he went to the gym loads to and got really muscley, he also got a job which he hated and gots lots of money!

Thats actually exactly what mybrother did - i don't think i'm ready for university - i look too Young but theres no way of getting out of it seems, i'm headed for AAB

Reply 23

GJK208

Anonymous

Did you have the same problem as me then? How old are you now - At what age did you look older? Can i see picture?

Cheers, i have actually been considering this... Taking 2 years gap so that i look like everyone else when i go to university - My brother did the same thing but not on purpose, he became depressed and didn't try at school etc, he's 20 now and looks 20, he use to be like me, and he just went Uni.... he went to the gym loads to and got really muscley, he also got a job which he hated and gots lots of money!

Thats actually exactly what mybrother did - i don't think i'm ready for university - i look too Young but theres no way of getting out of it seems, i'm headed for AAB

i had exactly the same problem.

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

OP

GJK208

i had exactly the same problem.

Please explain more, whats your experience, did it get better, did you go university, what happened there?????

Please, i have so many questions :smile:

Reply 25

ElvisAint-Dead

9

Anonymous

When people say 'Omg you don't look 17' at the cinema, i ask how old they are if they are over 20 i say there pathetic to still be working in a cinema.

:laughing:

Try not to be so hard on yourself because at the end of the day there's not much you can do to speed up your puberty. When people say "omg u look so much younger" try not to let it effect you, i used to be told i look younger than i am so much that i ended up ignoring it. For some reason people feel the need to point out when someone looks younger than their actual age.

Anyway, i used to feel the same way as you do, try not to let this affect how you are towards other people. You should act like it doesnt bother you, that way people wont make a big deal and like someone else said, you should also act mature aswell. Remember that theres not much you can do about it so try not to worry too much and there are plenty of people who go through the same thing as you, youre not the only one.

:console:

Reply 26

ANM775

20

I can sympathise somewhat,

upto about age 14 I actually looked older for my age,
...but from about 15 things changed and i started to look young, ..

i'm 23 now, ...and most people on appearence just automatically assume i'm a teenager around 17 ish.

gets annoying when you go for a job and people keep asking "is this your first job?" ..
people are usually surprised when they learn my true age or think i'm BS-ing them.

but the thing that annoys me most ..is how this effects girls.
in terms of looks ..without being arrogent ..i am on the goodlooking side ....and sometimes (it dosen't happen all that often ..) i'll be walking down the street ..and i'll overhear a comment, see a girls body language suddenly change or see a girl nudge her mates, ...then they all turn and look at you and it's clear it's because they find you attractive, ....but whenever this happens they always seem to look too young like they're 14 or something..

girls who look my age (23), ..i don't even think i'm on thier radar to be honest.

i think girls are most attracted to guys a little bit older than themselves so that probably figures..

dunno what to suggest for you OP other than if you can grow some facial hair try and keep it,

also try to act more mature than your average 18 year old. you are 18 right?

i notice when i act more mature ..and people then find out my age ..they are still generally surprised but they can actually see it because i'm acting more mature

Reply 27

Ivanka

16

Well, I have exactly the same problem. Despite being 17.5 at the moment, people usually guess I am 13-14.

I really hate shop assistants calling me a ,,girl´´. My 14 years old friend bought herself a glass of alcohol, I decided to do so and they unfortunately asked me for ID :frown:

I know it is illegal to sell spirits to people under 18 in my country but the more annoying fact is that they did it to someone even younger than me without asking for ID...

When I went by bus for the last time, I was purchasing tickets, the driver asked me if I wish the child fare. I said no and he sighed with the words ,,I am so sorry, I have just charged it, so you will be 15 tomorrow.´´ That is the only advantage of it :P

Reply 28

scarfaced

ANM775

I can sympathise somewhat,

upto about age 14 I actually looked older for my age,
...but from about 15 things changed and i started to look young, ..

i'm 23 now, ...and most people on appearence just automatically assume i'm a teenager around 17 ish.

gets annoying when you go for a job and people keep asking "is this your first job?" ..
people are usually surprised when they learn my true age or think i'm BS-ing them.

but the thing that annoys me most ..is how this effects girls.
in terms of looks ..without being arrogent ..i am on the goodlooking side ....and sometimes (it dosen't happen all that often ..) i'll be walking down the street ..and i'll overhear a comment, see a girls body language suddenly change or see a girl nudge her mates, ...then they all turn and look at you and it's clear it's because they find you attractive, ....but whenever this happens they always seem to look too young like they're 14 or something..

girls who look my age (23), ..i don't even think i'm on thier radar to be honest.

i think girls are most attracted to guys a little bit older than themselves so that probably figures..

dunno what to suggest for you OP other than if you can grow some facial hair try and keep it,

also try to act more mature than your average 18 year old. you are 18 right?

i notice when i act more mature ..and people then find out my age ..they are still generally surprised but they can actually see it because i'm acting more mature

hahaha I get that exact same thing all the time

I often wonder if the girls think theres a fit older guy like as if they think they are looking at some older boyband boyish guy or if they actually think its a cute guy their age

Rececnlty I was on the bus and 2 girls prob about 14 were sat behind me. 1 off them started saying stuff like hi boy and pulling my hair and trying to annoy me..I really think they thought I was their age...they were waving to me and stuff

And the other day I went into the doctors and 2 like 13-15? year old girls were behind the reception desk dancing to the radio (must be receptionist daughters) and as soon as I walk up they start looking at each other and smiling and smiling at me

I really dunno what these girls think?

Reply 29

Tom.

Anonymous

Hello

Because i look young, i don't mean 'Young' like my friend looks 17 when he's 18, i mean i look young due to physical development taking its time, so naturally i look about 12-14.

I'm 21 and i look about 18 and i have to say it doesnt bother me at all, i can't even grow a full beard yet :giggle:

. Live with it, you wont look young forever. Just think when you're 25, you will look about 20/21 ergo you can pull younger girls. Advantages are in the future. ding ding.

Oh and if anyone makes fun say "Yah i look young, but i will grow eventually. unfortunately for you, the whole bulldog chewing a wasp thing will last forever. loser"

Reply 30

Anonymous #2

OP I'm 24 and in my first year of uni and literally my social life revolves around 18 year olds because I don't pass for 24.

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