I have really bad social axiety,how do i fix it

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I have really bad social axiety,how do i fix it

I hardly go out because of it and when i need to go out i get really like panicky and my heart starts beating alot.how can i help this because it makes alot of thing harder to do.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I have really bad social axiety,how do i fix it

I hardly go out because of it and when i need to go out i get really like panicky and my heart starts beating alot.how can i help this because it makes alot of thing harder to do.
This is not the definitive or absolute:

0) You can try nlp exercises, meditation, breathing techniques, visualisation. You can read books on this subject and there is a wealth of resources on the internet, youtube regarding this subject.

1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

6) Ask how they are, how's everything, how's it going, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, their day, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening. You could read up on current affairs.

Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

7) Be passionate about life.

8) In group discussions, relax and talk to someone close or if someone says something you know, you can talk then. Stay relaxed.

9) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

10) You can write things down and come up with a rational reframed response, keep a journal of your thoughts, reach out slowly.
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(Original post by Analyst89)
This is not the definitive or absolute:

0) You can try nlp exercises, meditation, breathing techniques, visualisation. You can read books on this subject and there is a wealth of resources on the internet, youtube regarding this subject.

1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

6) Ask how they are, how's everything, how's it going, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, their day, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening. You could read up on current affairs.

Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

7) Be passionate about life.

8) In group discussions, relax and talk to someone close or if someone says something you know, you can talk then. Stay relaxed.

9) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

10) You can write things down and come up with a rational reframed response, keep a journal of your thoughts, reach out slowly.
Hmm yh thanks,idk if this could help becausr i do kinda suffer through deppression to but ill try.it would be so awkward saying hi to a random person lol
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Hmm yh thanks,idk if this could help becausr i do kinda suffer through deppression to but ill try.it would be so awkward saying hi to a random person
I know it's hard (I'm pretty shy and introvert BUT I actually want to make friends and make social progress... contradictory, right) But remember, if you say 'hi' to other people with enough confidence and pretend not to be awkward yourself, they're likely to just reply back normally and it WON'T be awkward then. It's kind of subconscious: they'll mirror you. And don't worry too much if people do or don't reply, because to most people, they won't remember it anyway. Like I won't remember which boy happened to say hi to me or when someone I passed by at the corridor said hey.
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And also, there are a lot of nice people in the world. And more people are going through the same thing than you realise.
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I'm going through the same thing right now if it makes u feel any better 😭, but the best thing is to try to be happy and social as much as u can. I find it difficult with my social anxiety too but I remind myself that life has a lot to offer and that life is full of possibilities. Try to be positive and make the most of life because tbh u don't know when ur gonna die so try to wake up everyday with a positive attitude to life and put those negative thoughts behind you xx
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