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Do you have any friends irl Ciel? Which city do you live in?
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Do you have any friends irl Ciel? Which city do you live in?
i have a pretty hard time keeping friends/maintaining friendships. usually i just get bored with my old friends, cut them off, then get new ones ones, then i abandon them again |(or they abandon me when they can't put up with me anymore). i do have friends that i go out with etc but not like anyone i actually truly trust or anything like that
and i'd rather not say tbh, i like being totally anonymous on here
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an apartment? no agency would allow me to move into an apartment with a german shepherd. and yes, he does need a big garden because he needs hours of off lead exercise every single day. walking him isn't enough.
and no offence to anyone forced to use the nhs but their mental health care is non existent. tried it once. never again.
it's a potential option but i'm not really supposed to drive atm (meds and other issues). you probably think that i'm making excuses. but i'm not. you make it all sound so easy but it really isn't. how much would i get on universal credit? £1000? that's not even enough to rent a house........

i don't like blogs tbh but you can add me to your ignore list if my posts bother you
Of course some would.
I did say a 'decent sized garden'.

The NHS comment is perfectly valid, I understand that their mental health care is poor. But wasn't it you who is denying help when your bf offered to send you somewhere expensive, and wasn't it you who has said you don't need medication and to come off of them because they make it worse? I dont see the point of you now stating that you need special attention.

You're 1 person and a dog. You don't need to rent a house. Beggars can't be choosers and you can't have everything swing your way in life all of the time. Housing benefit is also available to help you with rent. And I've met a person with a German shephard who was literally renting 1 room in a HMO. You just don't have the will power to change your life. Not everyone does. But I wish you all the best, both with your mental health and your relationship.
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(Original post by Amirahx96)
Of course some would.
I did say a 'decent sized garden'.

The NHS comment is perfectly valid, I understand that their mental health care is poor. But wasn't it you who is denying help when your bf offered to send you somewhere expensive, and wasn't it you who has said you don't need medication and to come off of them because they make it worse? I dont see the point of you now stating that you need special attention.

You're 1 person and a dog. You don't need to rent a house. Beggars can't be choosers and you can't have everything swing your way in life all of the time. Housing benefit is also available to help you with rent. And I've met a person with a German shephard who was literally renting 1 room in a HMO. You just don't have the will power to change your life. Not everyone does. But I wish you all the best, both with your mental health and your relationship.
because i don't want to be locked up anywhere, vip ******** or not
and yeah i had to stop taking the two new ones a couple days ago (antidepressants/mood stabiliser) but i still take anti-anxiety meds/sleeping pills pretty much every day
i'm sorry but i can't imagine staying in a one bedroom apartment with my dog. he would tear it apart.

but maybe you're right. maybe i don't have the will to change anything in my life. i mean, sometimes i can't even bring myself to get out of bed so it makes sense i guess.
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(Original post by Ciel.)
he would get extremely mad so no way, it would just hurt both of us
i get that not everyone agrees with my opinion on this which is fine

an apartment? no agency would allow me to move into an apartment with a german shepherd. and yes, he does need a big garden because he needs hours of off lead exercise every single day. walking him isn't enough.
and no offence to anyone forced to use the nhs but their mental health care is non existent. tried it once. never again.
it's a potential option but i'm not really supposed to drive atm (meds and other issues). you probably think that i'm making excuses. but i'm not. you make it all sound so easy but it really isn't. how much would i get on universal credit? £1000? that's not even enough to rent a house........

i don't like blogs tbh but you can add me to your ignore list if my posts bother you
If he often gets mad at you and vice versa then again, another sign that relationship is toxic.
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(Original post by Amirahx96)
Of course some would.
I did say a 'decent sized garden'.

The NHS comment is perfectly valid, I understand that their mental health care is poor. But wasn't it you who is denying help when your bf offered to send you somewhere expensive, and wasn't it you who has said you don't need medication and to come off of them because they make it worse? I dont see the point of you now stating that you need special attention.

You're 1 person and a dog. You don't need to rent a house. Beggars can't be choosers and you can't have everything swing your way in life all of the time. Housing benefit is also available to help you with rent. And I've met a person with a German shephard who was literally renting 1 room in a HMO. You just don't have the will power to change your life. Not everyone does. But I wish you all the best, both with your mental health and your relationship.
Agreed.
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If he often gets mad at you and vice versa then again, another sign that relationship is toxic.
i think i'm kinda toxic, too
so that''s all i know tbh. i wouldn't know how to be in a 'normal' relationship
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(Original post by Ciel.)
i think i'm kinda toxic, too
so that''s all i know tbh. i wouldn't know how to be in a 'normal' relationship
then why be in a toxic one which is even worst? Your attitude is similar to mine when it comes to life, and it's not a good attitude to have imo.
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then why be in a toxic one which is even worst? Your attitude is similar to mine when it comes to life, and it's not a good attitude to have imo.
toxic or not, i do love him
idk if i could cope with every day life without him too.
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You know you're a toxic wreck, but can't fully admit it.
You have mental health issues, seems borderline narcissistic.
You're a terrible person in any kind of relationship, whether it's romantic, or friendship.
You're essentially leaching off a man so he can pay for your stuff...

Figure this stuff out because it's ridiculous. You keep talking about "it's 2021". You're right. Get a job, and deal with it like everyone else does. (It's easy to find them these days, so start and quit to your heart's content)

I'm so sick of reading everyone coddling you and your crap, when you're obviously trying to get a rise under whatever coy facade you're putting on. That boy deserves more than you're ever capable of giving, and you know that too.

(Please don't self-harm or anything with my harsh reality check, not tryna go to jail here)
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(Original post by Ciel.)
toxic or not, i do love him
idk if i could cope with every day life without him too.
Your threads seem to show otherwise. You can't be a consistent toxic relationship with someone whilst still loving them (unless you're like Tom and Jerry). What do you love about your BF (anything that isn't materialistic e.g money, big house etc), what good memories have you had with him (don't have to answer this if you don't want to but) just wondering? Hard for me to have any sympathy tbh.
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You know you're a toxic wreck, but can't fully admit it.
You have mental health issues, seems borderline narcissistic.
You're a terrible person in any kind of relationship, whether it's romantic, or friendship.
You're essentially leaching off a man so he can pay for your stuff...

Figure this stuff out because it's ridiculous. You keep talking about "it's 2021". You're right. Get a job, and deal with it like everyone else does. (It's easy to find them these days, so start and quit to your heart's content)

I'm so sick of reading everyone coddling you and your crap, when you're obviously trying to get a rise under whatever coy facade you're putting on. That boy deserves more than you're ever capable of giving, and you know that too.

(Please don't self-harm or anything with my harsh reality check, not tryna go to jail here)
1. Pathetic use of anon (i.e you're criticising the OP with this negativity en masse (Even if it's the brutal truth) whilst not having the confidence to post under your real username). Also namecalling isn't always helpful

2. Damn Daniel this is post hits so hard but I have no choice but to agree it in full pretty much. other than the get a job bit, easier said than done when you have severe mental health issues.
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You know you're a toxic wreck, but can't fully admit it.
You have mental health issues, seems borderline narcissistic.
You're a terrible person in any kind of relationship, whether it's romantic, or friendship.
You're essentially leaching off a man so he can pay for your stuff...

Figure this stuff out because it's ridiculous. You keep talking about "it's 2021". You're right. Get a job, and deal with it like everyone else does. (It's easy to find them these days, so start and quit to your heart's content)

I'm so sick of reading everyone coddling you and your crap, when you're obviously trying to get a rise under whatever coy facade you're putting on. That boy deserves more than you're ever capable of giving, and you know that too.

(Please don't self-harm or anything with my harsh reality check, not tryna go to jail here)
lol, i'm not a 'terrible person. 'leeching off a man'? so like do you have the same view on house wives and stuff? or is it that only certain people are allowed to do that?

i can find a job pretty easily, i have a law degree. it's keeping it that's the problem. and 'that boy' who btw is a grown man (and older than me), is no saint either. it's actually his fault that i'm dealing with permanent damage in my shoulder but sure, he desevers better and i deserve nothing being an evil slut and all. whatevs.
(Original post by Talkative Toad)
Your threads seem to show otherwise. You can't be a consistent toxic relationship with someone whilst still loving them (unless you're like Tom and Jerry). What do you love about your BF (anything that isn't materialistic e.g money, big house etc), what good memories have you had with him (don't have to answer this if you don't want to but) just wondering? Hard for me to have any sympathy tbh.
we do have a lot of good memories. a lot of them are pretty old tho. when we first got together my mental health was a lot better tbh
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(Original post by Ciel.)
lol, i'm not a 'terrible person. 'leeching off a man'? so like do you have the same view on house wives and stuff? or is it that only certain people are allowed to do that?

i can find a job pretty easily, i have a law degree. it's keeping it that's the problem. and 'that boy' who btw is a grown man (and older than me), is no saint either. it's actually his fault that i'm dealing with permanent damage in my shoulder but sure, he desevers better and i deserve nothing being an evil slut and all. whatevs.

we do have a lot of good memories. a lot of them are pretty old tho. when we first got together my mental health was a lot better tbh
What changed then? What did he have before that he doesn't have now? And you're the one who cheated on him so I don't see how your BF is the main blame here. I think that both sides are being toxic. Oh well looks like you want to stay with him but as others are saying, don't think that's a good idea. You do you mate but I personally would hate to be in a toxic/Tom and Jerry style relationship with someone. Going to have to agree with all the other people in this thread unfortunately.
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What changed then? What did he have before that he doesn't have now? And you're the one who cheated on him so I don't see how your BF is the main blame here. I think that both sides are being toxic. Oh well looks like you want to stay with him but as others are saying, don't think that's a good idea. You do you mate but I personally would hate to be in a toxic/Tom and Jerry style relationship with someone. Going to have to agree with all the other people in this thread unfortunately.
time i guess. he used to have way more time for me.
sometimes he also drinks too much which often leads to arguments
oh btw i'm not saying that he is the main blame here. it's probably me. all i'm saying is that he's not completely innocent, like some people are suggesting
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time i guess. he used to have way more time for me.
sometimes he also drinks too much which often leads to arguments
oh btw i'm not saying that he is the main blame here. it's probably me. all i'm saying is that he's not completely innocent, like some people are suggesting
Yeah I get that.
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and now the end is near
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and now the end is near
at least i'm not lonely, unlike some people
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at least i'm not lonely, unlike some people
no need to mock me
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