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Hey guys I’m struggling on trying to tell my mom I don’t wanna wear the hijab until I’m in college I’m 14 right now and I’ve been struggling with not being comfortable wearing it. So it would help and tell me how to tell my mom so they won’t hate me or like idk how to say it but like I’m not ready for it.
Hey there I am a hijabi too and Ive been wearing it since I was around 11 and right now Im in college. Mashallah for intending to wear it in future but Im sorry you don't feel comfortable wearing it right now. When I wore it when I was young I wore it for the sake of it but then a few years later I understood why and the beauty of hijab. You can even watch inspirational hijabi videos on youtube and really explore your relationship with modesty and the hijab. If even after all that you still feel uncomfortable talk to your mum about it and tell her nicely or tell her to motivate and teach you. I wish the best for you sister <3
Original post by emyy0.0
Hey guys I’m struggling on trying to tell my mom I don’t wanna wear the hijab until I’m in college I’m 14 right now and I’ve been struggling with not being comfortable wearing it. So it would help and tell me how to tell my mom so they won’t hate me or like idk how to say it but like I’m not ready for it.

Why you don’t want to wear it? Because of others? What is it stopping you?
Why are you posting in here and not asking a sister with more experience? :smile:
Anyways, I’m not religious but if you believe your religion then logically, you would follow what you believe. So, once you understand why you don’t want to wear it then you will able to have a honest conversation with your mother.
Always trust your gut instinct and listen to what your common sense is telling you. :smile:
How do your parents usually react to hearing an alternative viewpoint from young relatives?
Are your family very strict about family traditions or religion?
What is their attitude to seeing the young female followers of islam who choose to wear secular western clothes while some other members of their household choose to follow traditional religious fashions?

If your parents are very strict and either are in the habit of insisting upon all female relatives & visitors to their home are always wearing religious fashions with their hair to shoulders fully covered- you won't ever be able to change their mind.
Wait until you are 18, have financial independence and access to a stable pay check.
Then move out and wear whatever you like.

Never forget that you have the freedom to choose your own fashion sense, beliefs and the direction of the future life that you want.
Always put your health and physical safety first.
If there is any tradition of violence or verbal aggression within your family tree- be very cautious.

I was raised in a toxic and controlling household surrounded by unreasonable people in the habit of imposing their collection of bizarre rules and harshly punishing all disobedience.
I got caught and have to cover the scars with makeup or photoediting for the rest of my life.
My mother's violent reflexes were triggered by the complaints of her vile pals and the moral outrage of religious traditionalists who were triggered by what I was wearing.
My friend was filmed doing compulsory sports on wednesday afternoon wearing a loose fitting grey tracksuit from the lost property section and her brutal mother used that as an excuse to attack her with two kitchen knives.
Her fundamentalist church don't allow females to wear trousers or shorts.

While my best friend's family are a lot more balanced and welcoming of reasonable people with alternative opinions.
They are followers of the liberal shia islamic sect led by the aga khan.
For the last few generations they have all chosen to wear secular clothes in public places, mostly wearing western outfits when they are socialising at home or working.
They never impose their traditions or religious beliefs on anyone.
Original post by emyy0.0
Hey guys I’m struggling on trying to tell my mom I don’t wanna wear the hijab until I’m in college I’m 14 right now and I’ve been struggling with not being comfortable wearing it. So it would help and tell me how to tell my mom so they won’t hate me or like idk how to say it but like I’m not ready for it.

is there a reason for not wanting to?
maybe have a one to one with her
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