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Idiot? Or nice guy?

Right.. this is gonna be a kinda long one, I warn you now!!

Two weekends ago, I was at a charity event that my dad and a few of his friends had organised, kinda like a gig. My dad's friend brought his son along, and I was instantly attracted to him. He's not long turned 18. I chatted to him a little bit throughout the course of the night, but he seemed very quiet and shy, so I wasn't in his face or anything. I spoke to my dad about it later on, as he has met him before, and he said that he was really quite shy, but if I got to know him better, then he'd open up a bit. Anyway, my dad was talking to his friend, and it turned out that his son liked me too =) so my dad passed on my number and we started texting.

*please note that this is the first and only time that my dad has ever and will ever be involved in my love life!* lol

We've been getting on really well, and I'm tempted to ask him to go for a drink or to the pictures or something, but I dont want to scare him off!

However, I've been talking to my best friend, and her boyfriend's brother along with his best friend went to school with this guy, and apparently, he said that he's a total idiot who uses and abuses girls. On the OTHER HAND, my friend's boyfriend's brother's best mate (A mouthful, I know!) and myself had a bit of a fling a few months ago, AND his now girlfriend is best friends with the guy I've been texting.Could he just be saying this because he sees him as a threat?

I don't know what to do... on one hand, the boys have obviously known him longer than I, or any of my family have, whereas, on the other hand, the guys knows my dad and sees him quite often, so surely he wouldn't be too keen to mess me around?

Ahhh! Lol. Sorry about the long post. Any help or advice would be appreciated though =) x

Reply 1

candy x

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do you intend to live your life off the backs of what other people say..... or do you like to make your own opinions of people!!!

if we all listented to rumor and believe everything everyone said we'd get no where!!!!

if i were you id want to make my own opinions of someone before i judged them.

fair enough, take it in mind what others have said, but dont let it hold you back. just be wary of it, keep an eye on yourself and make sure you personally dont get used.

i was in a similar situation.... i fancied someone ALL my friends hated. i gave him a chance, and even though we're no longer together ( and i think he's a prick now ) we had 2 years happily together!!!! im glad i was my own person and not followed my friends like sheep!!!

Reply 2

dougiemacs

if you read your post really fast, it sounds just like vicky pollard...... anyway, just ask him out for a drink, i doubt that it will scare him off, and if he shows signs of being the apparent "idiot" then just stop seeing him.

Reply 3

Hoggster=)

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dougiemacs

if you read your post really fast, it sounds just like vicky pollard......

Pardon me? :eek:

how do you figure that one out?

Reply 4

Hoggster=)

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Jackknifed Juggernaut

Worst thing I have ever read. Kill yourself.

How offensive are you?

If you haven't anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Reply 5

Fleaux

Go for it, definitely. The rumours are likely to be untrue given what you've said, and you may as well get to know him a bit more before making a decision as to whether he's an 'idiot' or not. You'd never know what you could be missing out on.

Reply 6

Hoggster=)

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Fleaux

Go for it, definitely. The rumours are likely to be untrue given what you've said, and you may as well get to know him a bit more before making a decision as to whether he's an 'idiot' or not. You'd never know what you could be missing out on.

I think I might, although I am slightly nervous about actually asking him out!

:biggrin:

Reply 7

Fleaux

Hoggster=)

I think I might, although I am slightly nervous about actually asking him out!

:biggrin:

Ah well that's understandable, but judging by how you weren't sure if he liked you initially - which he did - it seems that you underestimate your seductive power in general. Just keep chatting to him and when you get the opportunity, mention an event or a film or something and then take the plunge.

Reply 8

kmcassley

make your own decisions on him. people told me my boyfriend was a bad guy, but he's so sweet and kind and thoughtful im glad i didnt listen because we've been together nearly 17months :biggrin:

Reply 9

EnchantéeJanvier

Give him some cheek, see if he gives you a slap. Make future decisions on that basis.

Idiot? Or nice guy?

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