Why don’t guys ever like me beyond sex?

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I’ve got with guys and kissed guys but none of them seem to want to pursue anything they either ghost or gravitate away and I just can’t be bothered with disappointment anymore. How do I tell if they want more than a one off? Idk how girls meet guys at parties and end up dating them because it never goes further for me than at the party . What am I doing wrong?
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Don't offer sex too quickly or easily, that'll help you sort the wheat from the chaff.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’ve got with guys and kissed guys but none of them seem to want to pursue anything they either ghost or gravitate away and I just can’t be bothered with disappointment anymore. How do I tell if they want more than a one off? Idk how girls meet guys at parties and end up dating them because it never goes further for me than at the party . What am I doing wrong?
a. lower your standards
b. stop just having sex with guys at parties if the outcome upsets you
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I don’t think being free spirited when it comes to having sex on a first date or after a party can be the only reason. If you’re having sex before you build a connection AND the sex was not great then maybe it can explain why.

How many times/guys did it happen? Do you mind sharing what happened during sex?

Of course there are some guys that are after a one off but a lot of guys would love few repeats when it’s nice, some guys would want a deeper relationship.. I guess it all depends on the demography/age etc
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You are choosing the wrong guys and need to refine your dating dealbreakers.
Probably making the mistake of accepting the advances of the hot guys who are only looking for hookups or no strings sexual arrangements.
Or guys that are looking for a relationship but have incompatible lifestyle & values to you, realize this within half an hour and never contact you again.

Be clear about your dealbreakers, ambitions and relationship preferences.
Focus on understanding the type of guys that you are most attracted to, want to date and your relationship ambitions.
Then make yourself interesting to them so that they will want to get to know you and you will have access to a large dating pool compatible with your basic dealbreakers.
Good luck!
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(Original post by Mikkio)
a. lower your standards
b. stop just having sex with guys at parties if the outcome upsets you
Well said bro. Unfortunately most girls will react to being told to lower their standards as if you told them to stop breathing. One thing that girls refuse to do is settle or compromise on their standards. That is, until it's too late.
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Well said bro. Unfortunately most girls will react to being told to lower their standards as if you told them to stop breathing. One thing that girls refuse to do is settle or compromise on their standards. That is, until it's too late.
Can you blame the girls who are aspiring to be the next super wealthy divorced trophy spouse like Melissa Miller, MacKenzie Scott or Jocelyn Wildenstein?
Never mind the significant number of girls with no standards beyond he must be able to buy them a fish&chip meal from the chippy within the next 15mins and not currently incarcerated in a prison/secure unit facility. :rofl:
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Can you blame the girls who are aspiring to be the next super wealthy divorced trophy spouse like Melissa Miller, MacKenzie Scott or Jocelyn Wildenstein?
Never mind the significant number of girls with no standards beyond he must be able to buy them a fish&chip meal from the chippy within the next 15mins and not currently incarcerated in a prison/secure unit facility. :rofl:
PRSOM
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Can you blame the girls who are aspiring to be the next super wealthy divorced trophy spouse like Melissa Miller, MacKenzie Scott or Jocelyn Wildenstein?
The fact that so many girls aspire to this just proves the point that men build and create while women extract. It's how we are wired biologically. None of these women you mentioned earned a single penny of their divorce settlements by themselves, and none of them would be rich now if it weren't for the men they used to stand beside. My only regret is that none of these super-wealthy husbands signed pre-nups to protect what they earned from being given away in a divorce. A wise man builds his wealth before marriage, then any woman who wants to share his life can sign a pre-nup or leave. Also raises an interesting point - once a woman divorces, she refuses to lose the standard of lifestyle that her ex-husband afforded her and she always wants better. So when your ex-husband is the richest man in the world, where do you go from here? Lol

Think I read something recently that said Mackenzie Scott is donating a big chunk of her divorce settlement to charity. Obviously she has no need for this kind of money because men are not selective about income as much as women are.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
Can you blame the girls who are aspiring to be the next super wealthy divorced trophy spouse like Melissa Miller, MacKenzie Scott or Jocelyn Wildenstein?
Never mind the significant number of girls with no standards beyond he must be able to buy them a fish&chip meal from the chippy within the next 15mins and not currently incarcerated in a prison/secure unit facility. :rofl:
hahah +1
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(Original post by Mikkio)
lower your standards
(Original post by londonmyst)
raise your standards
This thread will go far.
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(Original post by asif007)
The fact that so many girls aspire to this just proves the point that men build and create while women extract. It's how we are wired biologically. None of these women you mentioned earned a single penny of their divorce settlements by themselves, and none of them would be rich now if it weren't for the men they used to stand beside. My only regret is that none of these super-wealthy husbands signed pre-nups to protect what they earned from being given away in a divorce. A wise man builds his wealth before marriage, then any woman who wants to share his life can sign a pre-nup or leave. Also raises an interesting point - once a woman divorces, she refuses to lose the standard of lifestyle that her ex-husband afforded her and she always wants better. So when your ex-husband is the richest man in the world, where do you go from here? Lol
Do you feel the same way about Diana Jenkins or Katerina Tikhonova?

In the words of Baroness Hale "which does the husband more value, the trophy wife or the workaday wife? The trophy wife, of course."
I believe that Melissa Miller could have been independently wealthy if she had remained unmarried or never met her ex.
Before her marriage and brief era as a "Harvey Nichols" trophy wife, she owned a property and was earning £85,000 a year.
Alan Miller's foul manners in the courtroom, refusal to heed his legal team's advice or consider addressing the judge & other legal professionals in a calm and civilized manner were also a factor in the size of the divorce settlement & legal costs bill made against him.

I dislike pre-nuptial agreements in theory and practice, ancient relics of an unpleasant and two faced religious system.
Post-nuptial agreements are equally distasteful to me but more likely to be upheld by the British courts, assuming no allegations of violence or coercion.
The law firm I work for specialises in high value divorces and religious adr, the client base is mainly 'divorce tourists' that come to England wanting to take the last million/drop of blood from the ex.

In the uk, within the secular arena pre-nuptial agreements are not automatically considered legally binding as they are in france, germany and much of the middle east.
For every lawyer that has established their reputation raking in very high fees drawing up "watertight" client pre/post nuptial agreements, there is another who specialises in decimating such agreements.
Quite a few to the extent that they offer a payment guarantee conditional upon success, if they fail to break the agreement they won't be paid any fee.
Some lawyers are even willing to tip off legal fee earner friends acting for the other spouse as to the loopholes or best points of challenge in relation to the terms of pre-nuptial agreements that they themselves originally sold to a client as "watertight and immune to all legal challenges". :rofl:
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I don’t think being free spirited when it comes to having sex on a first date or after a party can be the only reason. If you’re having sex before you build a connection AND the sex was not great then maybe it can explain why.

How many times/guys did it happen? Do you mind sharing what happened during sex?

Of course there are some guys that are after a one off but a lot of guys would love few repeats when it’s nice, some guys would want a deeper relationship.. I guess it all depends on the demography/age etc
Well this one guy I hooked up with, actually searched up my Instagram the next day to message me because he didn’t get a chance to say bye and then he started a conversation asking me questions etc. But then a rumour spread that I’d been saying we were dating so he unfollowed me and kissed another girl and ignored me. It’s so strange because he seemed to be the one more interested
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