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Yeah that’s right. Absolutely no friends. I’m slipping into the doomer lifestyle.

All I do is wake up, eat watch tv go to the gym scroll through Reddit and sleep.

I didn’t go to university yet. I’m working towards going. Going for an access course next September.

Just a loner in the giant city of London.
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Hey listen just focus on your career aspirations and you will meet people just don't focus on the friendship issue at the moment and at university you'll meet new people. Just don't get too disheartened. I am 23 and i have little friends but I've met people at university and i was in this situation but to be honest friendship issues can take a huge toll on your life as you slip and you realise what happens workwise just don't giv3 up and just focus on your own life ambitions at the moment.
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(Original post by MikelArteta812)
Yeah that’s right. Absolutely no friends. I’m slipping into the doomer lifestyle.

All I do is wake up, eat watch tv go to the gym scroll through Reddit and sleep.

I didn’t go to university yet. I’m working towards going. Going for an access course next September.

Just a loner in the giant city of London.
i'm 16 and i have no friends either. i haven't even went to see a friend since last year, and it wasn't a friend as much as it was my neighbor. i was a loner since i was a child, but admittedly there were periods when i DID have friends. to be honest, i've come to realize that most people ain't ****. or if your standards are as high as me, that's what you'll think. and i've come to realize that it's sometimes better to just be by yourself, enjoying your own company. the things "friends" do to each other is horrendous, i've seen people act like they're complete best friends, meanwhile one of them is using the other. there's nothing wrong with having no friends, for many it's the most peaceful way to live.
if you want to make friends though, i would suggest going to the same place every day. wether it's a cafe, park, library, club. be there everyday, consistently. don't just sit around waiting for a friend to pop up, try to enjoy yourself as well. i've found this works online too, if you wanna make internet friends it helps to be in the same zoom hangout room, or same discord server, everyday. eventually you'll become friends with whoever comes to that place often too.

best of luck xx
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Hey listen just focus on your career aspirations and you will meet people just don't focus on the friendship issue at the moment and at university you'll meet new people. Just don't get too disheartened. I am 23 and i have little friends but I've met people at university and i was in this situation but to be honest friendship issues can take a huge toll on your life as you slip and you realise what happens workwise just don't giv3 up and just focus on your own life ambitions at the moment.
My current life ambition is to get my drivers licence and get a six pack by summer lol
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My current life ambition is to get my drivers licence and get a six pack by summer lol
Noice one. Focus on that. Make that your main focus.
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My current life ambition is to get my drivers licence and get a six pack by summer lol
Good luck!

Build things up bit by bit. Get a job, join social clubs, join a running club etc etc.
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I don't have any true friends either, I'm 18. Hopefully university will increase your chances by joining societies and freshers events etc.
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My current life ambition is to get my drivers licence and get a six pack by summer lol
Similar ambition, except I HAVE to pass my test in Jan and I don’t necessarily want a six pack just be more toned, the struggle is real
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The advice my dad has given me is to treat the people you'd like to be treated. I don't have many friends, but the friends I have are as true friends as I can feel.
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I don't have any true friends either, I'm 18. Hopefully university will increase your chances by joining societies and freshers events etc.
Nah I’m not going freshers I’m not a party person I hate clubs. I like the gym
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is there a reason why you "don't have friends"? do you not like socialising? or do you just find it hard to generally approach people??
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Yh bro I’m due to get a cat the second a leave my parents house. They are allergic
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is there a reason why you "don't have friends"? do you not like socialising? or do you just find it hard to generally approach people??
I don’t really find people with the same interests as me. I’m not on social media (tiktok, Snapchat, Instagram) I only use Reddit. My hobbies are going to watch arsenal at the emirates stadium, going to the gym, walking, listening to different podcasts. I don’t really go clubs, parties. I’m more of an introvert. People I meet are usually addicted to their phones on tiktok or something and it’s very off putting
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I don’t really find people with the same interests as me. I’m not on social media (tiktok, Snapchat, Instagram) I only use Reddit. My hobbies are going to watch arsenal at the emirates stadium, going to the gym, walking, listening to different podcasts. I don’t really go clubs, parties. I’m more of an introvert. People I meet are usually addicted to their phones on tiktok or something and it’s very off putting
I totally relate to this. I only use Whatsapp and occasional Instagram. Thing is, I also enjoy being my own company, it's hard for me to feel like a loner. I have a handful of friends from the old school days that I see maybe 3 times a year for birthdays and stuff. That's pretty much enough to keep my balance.
It's hard to find new friends that are ok with not expecting me to be up their ass 24/7, lets go out, lets do this.
You'll be lucky when you find someone on the same level of introvert to extrovert ratio as you. "I can be social but pls once a month max lol"
As you work towards your career, you'll end up being in more diverse surroundings so It's only a matter of time before you find your people.
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I’m 24 (nearing 25 and I also have no friends). I’m also at university which hasn’t allowed myself to acquire any new friendships anyway.

I suggest you start working. People meet friends at work or join a club or something.
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I really feel for anyone who experiences loneliness or friendship issues. Unfortunately, I don't have any easy answers as these have been the toughest struggles in my life. For me, at least, it centres on my own lack of connectedness. I just can't handle the regular commitment friendship requires and only feel comfortable in myself when alone, so I'm caught in a trap. I feel so different to many people and don't understand them. I also get easily frustrated and annoyed when people behave discourteously. Friendships have been hard to find in my case, I just don't think I'm equipped psychologically for them. I used to try all the advice about joining clubs and doing hobbies but few people I've met at such places seem open to new friends, they appeared to already have their own circle which made me feel worse. I feel society has changed a lot since I was young and despite social media, communities have broken down in many places. I have a couple of friends from long ago but don't see them much as they live far away. I'm lucky to have a wonderful husband who accepts me for who I am and that for me has been the best antidote to loneliness. It's not a total solution but the best I've found so far. I wish you the very best and hope things improve for you.
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i'm 16 and i have no friends either. i haven't even went to see a friend since last year, and it wasn't a friend as much as it was my neighbor. i was a loner since i was a child, but admittedly there were periods when i DID have friends. to be honest, i've come to realize that most people ain't ****. or if your standards are as high as me, that's what you'll think. and i've come to realize that it's sometimes better to just be by yourself, enjoying your own company. the things "friends" do to each other is horrendous, i've seen people act like they're complete best friends, meanwhile one of them is using the other. there's nothing wrong with having no friends, for many it's the most peaceful way to live.
if you want to make friends though, i would suggest going to the same place every day. wether it's a cafe, park, library, club. be there everyday, consistently. don't just sit around waiting for a friend to pop up, try to enjoy yourself as well. i've found this works online too, if you wanna make internet friends it helps to be in the same zoom hangout room, or same discord server, everyday. eventually you'll become friends with whoever comes to that place often too.

best of luck xx
I completely agree about the horrendous way some friends treat each other. My colleague has lots of 'friends' but the quality of these friendships is another matter. They all seem to use her and sound like pretty horrible people. I'd rather be lonely alone than lonely with people like that.
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Yeah that’s right. Absolutely no friends. I’m slipping into the doomer lifestyle.

All I do is wake up, eat watch tv go to the gym scroll through Reddit and sleep.

I didn’t go to university yet. I’m working towards going. Going for an access course next September.

Just a loner in the giant city of London.
This sounds so much like myself. And i turn 20 in January
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I'm 20, not much friends.

All I do is eat, sleep, stroll through tumblr, watch YT, and make my eyes ****ing tired and have a migraine.

Definitely in that doomer lifestyle OP, I don't even know myself anymore.
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