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Hi, I feel so alone right now and would really appreciate any advice/tips/encouragement.

I'm currently in my second year at Aston University studying Politics with International Relations. I've been crying multiple times a day, I constantly feel stressed, tired, overwhelmed.

I have a lot of deadlines coming up for uni work, as well as placement applications and it's all so draining. I work part time too. I feel so lost and I don't even feel as though I enjoy my uni course.

I'm applying for public relations/public affairs/communications roles but I feel a bit out of my depth as I don't have any previous experience in this field- my experience is in legal internships, volunteering and part time work.

I have tried anti depressants before, they didn't work. I have had several counsellors/therapists and have recently signed up to my universities counselling service again. I feel so disappointed with my university experience, I've spent the majority of it depressed/feeling alone.

I started university in September 2019 and am retaking modules from second year as I didn't hand a lot of my assignments in second year due to poor mental health. I also retook my A levels and so I now won't be graduating until 2024. I feel so behind in life and I'm still not fully sure of what I want to do after I graduate. I just feel like the past few years have been so chaotic and draining- I am really and truly tired.
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Hey there,

You're not alone I am currently studying politics and international relations at Coventry (first year) and looked up if anyone had any guidance for multiple deadlines or assignments being due.

I'm not a professional but you should make sure you are talking to people and sharing your emotions and taking time for yourself, because not too long ago i was struggling to acclimatize to uni life and felt as if i had to prove myself to everyone and if i didn't spend time with friends and family i wouldn't of been able to process those emotions.

as someone who has also struggled with mental health i can relate to the feeling of not feeling like anything's working in terms to 'fixing' it but keep trying and hopefully you'll find some strategies to help you manage your depression.

finally its okay to not know where your going yet or if you feel as if you're behind as everyone matures at their own pace just keep working through it and applying and im sure you'll find something that fits


If you need anyone to vent to dm me on here and we could exchange socials if not i respect your anonamity
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Hi, I feel so alone right now and would really appreciate any advice/tips/encouragement.

I'm currently in my second year at Aston University studying Politics with International Relations. I've been crying multiple times a day, I constantly feel stressed, tired, overwhelmed.

I have a lot of deadlines coming up for uni work, as well as placement applications and it's all so draining. I work part time too. I feel so lost and I don't even feel as though I enjoy my uni course.

I'm applying for public relations/public affairs/communications roles but I feel a bit out of my depth as I don't have any previous experience in this field- my experience is in legal internships, volunteering and part time work.

I have tried anti depressants before, they didn't work. I have had several counsellors/therapists and have recently signed up to my universities counselling service again. I feel so disappointed with my university experience, I've spent the majority of it depressed/feeling alone.

I started university in September 2019 and am retaking modules from second year as I didn't hand a lot of my assignments in second year due to poor mental health. I also retook my A levels and so I now won't be graduating until 2024. I feel so behind in life and I'm still not fully sure of what I want to do after I graduate. I just feel like the past few years have been so chaotic and draining- I am really and truly tired.
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Hi, I feel so alone right now and would really appreciate any advice/tips/encouragement.

I'm currently in my second year at Aston University studying Politics with International Relations. I've been crying multiple times a day, I constantly feel stressed, tired, overwhelmed.

I have a lot of deadlines coming up for uni work, as well as placement applications and it's all so draining. I work part time too. I feel so lost and I don't even feel as though I enjoy my uni course.

I'm applying for public relations/public affairs/communications roles but I feel a bit out of my depth as I don't have any previous experience in this field- my experience is in legal internships, volunteering and part time work.

I have tried anti depressants before, they didn't work. I have had several counsellors/therapists and have recently signed up to my universities counselling service again. I feel so disappointed with my university experience, I've spent the majority of it depressed/feeling alone.

I started university in September 2019 and am retaking modules from second year as I didn't hand a lot of my assignments in second year due to poor mental health. I also retook my A levels and so I now won't be graduating until 2024. I feel so behind in life and I'm still not fully sure of what I want to do after I graduate. I just feel like the past few years have been so chaotic and draining- I am really and truly tired.
Hi

I am a second year student of international relations as well and I am so sorry to hear you are struggling. First of all, do not be so hard on yourself. You and I both started university during a pandemic, which was nothing short of easy. Although we are back to normal teaching, the transition from being home for such a long time has been hard for me as well. Combined with the fact that second year is much harder than first year, two part-time jobs and trying to apply for placement we are in quite a similar situation. It is very hard to make everything work, and it can feel draining at times, especially towards the end of a semester, when deadlines are all we think about.
Personally, what is helping me get through it is the fact that I will be going back home for a month where I know I will be able to relax and enjoy the holidays with my family. Maybe thinking of something like this will help you get through this semester as well.
Furthermore, do not feel as if you are 'behind in life', as there is no such thing. I know many people that decided to take one year off throughout their university studies and therefore prolonged their undergraduate education. People who took a gap year and are therefore 'a year late'. There are also mature students and many more that do not necessarily fit the idea of the general student. None of these people, however, are in any way 'behind' and neither are you.
I would also highly recommend getting a journal as if there are times when there is nobody available to talk to, writing what has happened and writing about your feeling can make you feel much better.

Hope this helps you and good luck

Tereza
Coventry University
International Relations Student
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Hi, I feel so alone right now and would really appreciate any advice/tips/encouragement.

I'm currently in my second year at Aston University studying Politics with International Relations. I've been crying multiple times a day, I constantly feel stressed, tired, overwhelmed.

I have a lot of deadlines coming up for uni work, as well as placement applications and it's all so draining. I work part time too. I feel so lost and I don't even feel as though I enjoy my uni course.

I'm applying for public relations/public affairs/communications roles but I feel a bit out of my depth as I don't have any previous experience in this field- my experience is in legal internships, volunteering and part time work.

I have tried anti depressants before, they didn't work. I have had several counsellors/therapists and have recently signed up to my universities counselling service again. I feel so disappointed with my university experience, I've spent the majority of it depressed/feeling alone.

I started university in September 2019 and am retaking modules from second year as I didn't hand a lot of my assignments in second year due to poor mental health. I also retook my A levels and so I now won't be graduating until 2024. I feel so behind in life and I'm still not fully sure of what I want to do after I graduate. I just feel like the past few years have been so chaotic and draining- I am really and truly tired.
Hi there,

It's very normal to feel tired, and as you're feeling all these emotions I hope you aren't putting yourself down for struggling. Don't feel like you're alone, you're not. It's brave that you've opened up to us about this and have also sought out help. I hope the university counselling services are helpful, but if you find you need more help you can always reach out to some self-referral mental health services, the student union, your university personal tutor, even your GP. Prioritise your mental health, look after it and I'm sure everything else will fall into place.
Having so much to do all at once can be overwhelming, especially if you look at it all in one go. Try breaking all your tasks up into sizeable chunks and doing it bit by bit. It'll be a little less daunting that way.
You're taking on a lot as well, so it's not surprising to feel overwhelmed. Just remember that if your current balance and responsibilities don't work for you, you can always reevaluate them and re-prioritize so they don't bring you down.
Do you live on campus? in flats? try socialising with your flatmates to help with the loneliness. If you have friends, organise fun activities with them. There are also loads of events held at the student union to facilitate student socialisation.
Finally, never compare your life timeline with others. You're not behind in life, you're exactly where you should be. You don't have to know what you want to do after graduating yet, nobody really does. It's okay to be unsure, it's okay to be stressed, it's okay to not have it all together. You've got this!

*Ethel
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