Am I wrong to stop my boyfriend contacting his ex?

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benj99
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I know that they'd been friends since they were 5 but I just think it's highly inappropriate to carry on contact and it really gets right up my gash when I see her name pop up on his phone. She's always liking his photos as well on Insta and I wouldn't put it past her to be sliding into his DMs.

I've told my boyfriend what I think but he said I need to accept he's got friends outside the relationship. What he needs to understand though is that he hadn't previously been shagging any of those friends. I really feel like just messaging her and telling her what a fat ***** I think she is and to find someone who goes for fatties and leave us alone.

I know it would be a bit mean but I'm really sick of her.
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honestly I feel for you on this, he needs to respect your relationship which is much more important than this girl trust me. He needs to ditch the ***** and the fact she’s hanging around is also respectful her end. You’ve not been mean at all I would be digging my heels in
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I just don't trust her at all.
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Not only are you wrong, you are jealous (and worse). Carrying on as you are will be the quickest way to break up your relationship.
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I completely get that, one thing I have learnt is it’s not whether you trust the other girl but whether you trust him, if he’s just for you that’s all that matters. He’s with you and not her, she’s nothing compared to you
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The best way to hold on to a partner counterintuitively is to be totally non-possessive. I would definitely not send a spiteful message of this type
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Yes, it would be wrong. It would be controlling to try and stop him contacting her. You will also make yourself look like a dreadful person if you send that message to her.

My girlfriend is still in regular contact with her ex-fiancé (as well as two of her other exes). They're more or less best friends and she even wants us to meet someday. I fully trust that she is loyal to me so I don't worry about their contact.
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There is probably a cream for that.
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