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There is like 3 of us who like to drink and socialise in our halls but everyone else is so boring and wants to do nothing but stay in their rooms even at weekends, its the same old **** on each night, has anyone else had trouble getting others to socialise?
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There is like 3 of us who like to drink and socialise in our halls but everyone else is so boring and wants to do nothing but stay in their rooms even at weekends, its the same old **** on each night, has anyone else had trouble getting others to socialise?
This is part of the lottery of halls, although you can always speak to people in neighbouring blocks/flats.

I would also not demonise your fellow flatmates; people enjoy different things. Let them do what they want and you can go find different mates and do what you want, your clubbing mates don’t have to be from your accommodation.
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There is like 3 of us who like to drink and socialise in our halls but everyone else is so boring and wants to do nothing but stay in their rooms even at weekends, its the same old **** on each night, has anyone else had trouble getting others to socialise?
Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that this has been your experience. Are there opportunities where you can mingle with different halls / rooms? Alternatively, try and see if you can put a message in a groupchat about your flat organising a pre's / movie night / cocktail night etc. It's definitely difficult when a group of people put together don't have similar interests - but this is all the uni experience! Could you compromise, and do something that both 'groups' like to do?

Alternatively, there are other ways to make friends through societies, seminars etc - so try and see if you can find friends with the same passions as you in these environments.

Hopefully that's helpful, best of luck to you.

Ana
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There is like 3 of us who like to drink and socialise in our halls but everyone else is so boring and wants to do nothing but stay in their rooms even at weekends, its the same old **** on each night, has anyone else had trouble getting others to socialise?
Hi,

This is rather unfortunate, but is the way it is. You are not guaranteed to click with everyone you live with.

Personally, I spend my first two years in halls. In my first year, I loved my flat, I didn't dislike anyone. We all got on and had a great time, even through we were very different in many aspects. It's about finding that compromise. I came to university not as a big drinker but I still went out with my flatmates to nightclubs and, in return, some weeks we stayed in or local watching TV or playing pool at the pub etc. In the end, I still live with some of them and some people from the flat above (a good strategy to expanding your friend group - friends of friends or visiting new flats) but drifted away from a few of them.

In second year, I joined a flat who already all knew each other. They were all big gamers and didn't like to go out (this was during the height of COVID too) or really leave their room much. So, it was a large contrast. Again, I didn't dislike any of them, but I never got close to a lot of them because of the lack of interaction.

To sum up, it is chance who you live with, but it is not chance who you choose to socialise with. You shouldn't restrict yourself to just your flatmates. Try meeting people at the pub, lectures, societies etc. But dabbling in your flatmates interests and trying to organise things is definitely worth a go, and, in return, they may try .

Hope this helps.
Jake (third year at Lancaster University)
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