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Im a 28 year old male who has no friends and never had a girlfriend, it's been playing on my mind a lot lately and really starting to get to me. Iv always been someone someone who has a lack of confidence and think i'm really ugly and don't fit in so iv always kept to myself.

At the moment all I seem to do is work then come home and sit on my own but I know I need to change but don't know where to start? it would be nice just to have someone who invited me out to do normal things like go for a walk or for some food. I find myself getting more down as I never have any plans and don't know what to do with myselF.

Is there any people here that has experienced the same think sand have any advice for me?

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Hello.

Im a 28 year old male who has no friends and never had a girlfriend, it's been playing on my mind a lot lately and really starting to get to me. Iv always been someone someone who has a lack of confidence and think i'm really ugly and don't fit in so iv always kept to myself.

At the moment all I seem to do is work then come home and sit on my own but I know I need to change but don't know where to start? it would be nice just to have someone who invited me out to do normal things like go for a walk or for some food. I find myself getting more down as I never have any plans and don't know what to do with myselF.

Is there any people here that has experienced the same think sand have any advice for me?

thanks
I'm rhe exact same but a female. I'm trying to work out how to change because I need to do something.

First- be happy in your own company. I am still happy in my own company but at times I do wish I was "going out" just like you.

Maybe start off with your work colleagues, try to go out with them at lunch or sit with them at lunch. Engage in conversation with them. If your work are super proactive with arranging after work stuff then get involved that way.

Dating website?

Family?
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I'm rhe exact same but a female. I'm trying to work out how to change because I need to do something.

First- be happy in your own company. I am still happy in my own company but at times I do wish I was "going out" just like you.

Maybe start off with your work colleagues, try to go out with them at lunch or sit with them at lunch. Engage in conversation with them. If your work are super proactive with arranging after work stuff then get involved that way.

Dating website?

Family?
I just see everyone my own age seem to have great life’s that are fun and mines so boring. It makes me feel like I’m a weirdo.

It’s hard for me to go out and be social with people at work as I work for my dads company so it’s people Iv know my whole life but they’re all
a lot older than me.

I have thought about dating sites but I wouldn't know where to start and I couldn’t see anyone being interested in me as Im not good looking and that makes me really nervous about taking photos of myself.
Like I’m not
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I just see everyone my own age seem to have great life’s that are fun and mines so boring. It makes me feel like I’m a weirdo.

It’s hard for me to go out and be social with people at work as I work for my dads company so it’s people Iv know my whole life but they’re all
a lot older than me.

I have thought about dating sites but I wouldn't know where to start and I couldn’t see anyone being interested in me as Im not good looking and that makes me really nervous about taking photos of myself.
Like I’m not
Ditto couldn't agree more about people our age having a great life but then again the people our age are not going to not show their bad times are they? It's like Instagram/other social media platforms people post pictures etc off only the good times. So your sat at home thinking wow they have it put together which in some cases is not true. Don't compare yourself to others.

Have you thought about getting some mental health support to help with your social anxiety, confidence and self-esteem issues? It will really help therapy. That way you can work on something in your life.

Work situation- but I'm sure you can still socialise with them regardless of age. Is there any opportunity for you to work part time at your dad's place and then do part time say in retail or another similar environment to where you work at the moment that way you can get some other work friends? How about asking your dad, I'm sure he wouldn't mind maybe for 8 months or something.

Dating websites- this is a good option in afraid. It doesn't matter if you think your ugly still take the picture and get yourself a profile.

What I've learnt is you yourself need to be proactive with socialising and dating websites. If you're not known then how do you expect to find friends or be in a relationship??

All the best
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If you can't do it offline, do it online.
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I just see everyone my own age seem to have great life’s that are fun and mines so boring. It makes me feel like I’m a weirdo.

It’s hard for me to go out and be social with people at work as I work for my dads company so it’s people Iv know my whole life but they’re all
a lot older than me.

I have thought about dating sites but I wouldn't know where to start and I couldn’t see anyone being interested in me as Im not good looking and that makes me really nervous about taking photos of myself.
Like I’m not
But if you're having fun in your life then who cares about everyone else's?
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Love thinks times in so much different ways and who have to find someone that loves you for you and always hang out with you because of ur funny personality or ur kindness that takes time and ur not ugly you are beautiful in ur own way what matters is to be ur self all times it don’t matter if you making friends or finding a lover or hang out with someone just be ur self if that person don’t love you for you or don’t want to be friends with you that ain’t worth it as making friends go out and meet new people and find what you interested in what I’m saying is explore ur life and have fun with ur life and makes friends while you still young I’m sure you met the person that you truly love I hope this helps.
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Ditto couldn't agree more about people our age having a great life but then again the people our age are not going to not show their bad times are they? It's like Instagram/other social media platforms people post pictures etc off only the good times. So your sat at home thinking wow they have it put together which in some cases is not true. Don't compare yourself to others.

Have you thought about getting some mental health support to help with your social anxiety, confidence and self-esteem issues? It will really help therapy. That way you can work on something in your life.

Work situation- but I'm sure you can still socialise with them regardless of age. Is there any opportunity for you to work part time at your dad's place and then do part time say in retail or another similar environment to where you work at the moment that way you can get some other work friends? How about asking your dad, I'm sure he wouldn't mind maybe for 8 months or something.

Dating websites- this is a good option in afraid. It doesn't matter if you think your ugly still take the picture and get yourself a profile.

What I've learnt is you yourself need to be proactive with socialising and dating websites. If you're not known then how do you expect to find friends or be in a relationship??

All the best
I guess your right about the comparing myself to others. I always do it and then it seems to play on my mind even more.

I have thought about using dating apps but Iv got such low confidence that I never get round to it. I really don’t like the way I look so I can’t see anyone else liking me either. I’m always really worried about what other people think. I guess I should just try take the plunge, what’s the worst that can happen?

I’m not good at writing down what I’m feeling but it is good to know that other people feel the same way I do too. Thanks for the advice.
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