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How do I reconcile being a radical feminist and getting a boyfriend?
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How do I reconcile being a radical feminist and getting a boyfriend?
Sooo why are you a radical feminist? What impact does that have on you finding someone? What problems with being said radical feminist clash with having a problem? What solutions can you think of to those problems?
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Here’s the fun part: you don’t.
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How do I reconcile being a radical feminist and getting a boyfriend?
What do you mean by radical? Are you just really passionate about equality? Or do you think all men are the problem in an anti woman patriarchal society? To you, radical feminist may mean a completely different thing to someone else. A boyfriend is someone you love and respect. If you think he is lesser than you or keep talking about men like they are all bad than you can't possibly respect him, so how can you expect him to like or respect you?
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Sooo why are you a radical feminist? What impact does that have on you finding someone? What problems with being said radical feminist clash with having a problem? What solutions can you think of to those problems?
I think my passion for equality might make it difficult to be in a relationship with a man. Radical feminism has the view that women should be independent and have solidarity with each other and not be dependent on men.
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Here’s the fun part: you don’t.
Thats not much fun.
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What do you mean by radical? Are you just really passionate about equality? Or do you think all men are the problem in an anti woman patriarchal society? To you, radical feminist may mean a completely different thing to someone else. A boyfriend is someone you love and respect. If you think he is lesser than you or keep talking about men like they are all bad than you can't possibly respect him, so how can you expect him to like or respect you?
I'm very passionate about equality. I think that many men have been the cause of inequality and the patriarchal society we live in. Is it even possible to be in a relationship with a man in a patriarchal society. I wouldn't regard him as lesser but would fear that he would regard me as lesser.
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I really don't think the UK is patriarchal at all, recent female MP, a Queen as the head of state, legal protections for gender.
You're throwing mud in the faces of the women who are actually living in real patriarchs.

As a refugee who comes from a country where none of the females in my family are even literate, the UK is very progressive and encouraging for women and girls. Sure nothing is 100%, even men have problems with inequality in some areas of life...but it certainly is not a patriarchal society at allllllll

To answer your question, there are radical male feminists too. You might find a match
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I'm very passionate about equality. I think that many men have been the cause of inequality and the patriarchal society we live in. Is it even possible to be in a relationship with a man in a patriarchal society. I wouldn't regard him as lesser but would fear that he would regard me as lesser.
Yeah 99% of men will leave when you complain about the “patriarchy” on a date. At least you’re self-aware about being radical, try reading sources that aren’t far left to get a balanced opinion?
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Yeah 99% of men will leave when you complain about the “patriarchy” on a date. At least you’re self-aware about being radical, try reading sources that aren’t far left to get a balanced opinion?
I'm not far-left, I consider myself a democratic socialist.
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I'm very passionate about equality. I think that many men have been the cause of inequality and the patriarchal society we live in. Is it even possible to be in a relationship with a man in a patriarchal society. I wouldn't regard him as lesser but would fear that he would regard me as lesser.
The only reason why your boyfriend would regard you as lesser would be if you chose to date a man who regards you as lesser. You seem to speak as though that would he a huge problem. If you dont want to date a sexist man, don't date a sexist man. Simple. If you start dating a man and it turns out he is a bit of a d*ck, stop dating him.
Most men don't regard women as inferior at all and are not sexist. You just respect his opinions if you would like to have him respect yours. So If on a first date you tell them they are the problem in an aggressive patriarchy, it's not going to make a very good impression. I personally have never met a guy who feels superior or privileged just for being Male so telling your boyfriend that they are part of the patriarchy might make you sound a bit silly regardless of whether it's true or not. Keep politics out of dating for as long as possible, ideally for several months.
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I'm not far-left, I consider myself a democratic socialist.
Politics is subjective. While you may see yourself more centre to moderate left, some unplesant people on the far right may see you as a far left extremist. There are people who think just mentioning women's rights makes you far left.
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Just what I needed, a radical feminist.
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The only reason why your boyfriend would regard you as lesser would be if you chose to date a man who regards you as lesser. You seem to speak as though that would he a huge problem. If you dont want to date a sexist man, don't date a sexist man. Simple. If you start dating a man and it turns out he is a bit of a d*ck, stop dating him.
Most men don't regard women as inferior at all and are not sexist. You just respect his opinions if you would like to have him respect yours. So If on a first date you tell them they are the problem in an aggressive patriarchy, it's not going to make a very good impression. I personally have never met a guy who feels superior or privileged just for being Male so telling your boyfriend that they are part of the patriarchy might make you sound a bit silly regardless of whether it's true or not. Keep politics out of dating for as long as possible, ideally for several months.
Thanks for your advice I shall remember this when I start dating.
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Get a girlfriend?
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I really don't think the UK is patriarchal at all, recent female MP, a Queen as the head of state, legal protections for gender.
You're throwing mud in the faces of the women who are actually living in real patriarchs.

As a refugee who comes from a country where none of the females in my family are even literate, the UK is very progressive and encouraging for women and girls. Sure nothing is 100%, even men have problems with inequality in some areas of life...but it certainly is not a patriarchal society at allllllll

To answer your question, there are radical male feminists too. You might find a match
I understand your point about the UK being much more progressed than a lot of countries, but that doesn't mean it's good enough. Just because it's better than other places doesn't mean we should stop until we reach absolute equality. The UK is patriarchal, even though it's somewhat less so than where you're from.
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you just have to find a male feminist is all. indeed they are out there; for instance like all my professors at law school (some even published books and/or journal articles on legal issues from a feminist viewpoint) Barack Obama, Harry Styles, Eddie Vedder, Jon Hamm, Terry Crews to name a few :yep: also my best friend is arguably a radical feminist and has been in a happy relationship with a man for at least 6 years.
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Thanks for your advice I shall remember this when I start dating.
No worries, I hope it goes well
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you just have to find a male feminist is all. indeed they are out there; for instance like all my professors at law school (some even published books and/or journal articles on legal issues from a feminist viewpoint) Barack Obama, Harry Styles, Eddie Vedder, Jon Hamm, Terry Crews to name a few :yep: also my best friend is arguably a radical feminist and has been in a happy relationship with a man for at least 6 years.
I would like to meet a guy who is a radical feminist. Your best friend gives me some hope.
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I understand your point about the UK being much more progressed than a lot of countries, but that doesn't mean it's good enough. Just because it's better than other places doesn't mean we should stop until we reach absolute equality. The UK is patriarchal, even though it's somewhat less so than where you're from.
Can you tell me in what ways it isn't good enough yet?

So are you saying the patriarchy is a spectrum? UK is mild patriarchy, my country is extra hot patriarchy?
In that case there will be no place on earth that's never a patriarch. If there's one area of imbalance between the genders in favour of men, it's still 0.5% patriarchy etc...etc...

With that same note, men die of suicide at higher rates, male mental health isn't taken seriously, divorced men are more likely to have unfair custody of children, less men go to University, higher percentage of young men fall in-between the cracks and enter a life of crime. I can find many ways in which this society is unfair on men.
Does it mean the UK is semi-flavoured misandrist??

Also please never reach absolute equality. That will destroy society. There will always be people who need extra, you can't treat disabled individuals equal to a healthy and fit otherwise they'll risk being discriminated against.
I think you meant balance/fairness/equity
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