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Friend crying on the phone

About me, he was in the call to my other friend and I saw him just crying. He was talking about me, the whole plethora of the conversation was he doesn't like the way I've been speaking, it was me me swearing was offending him but I didn't ever swear at him. All I might have said maybe yesterday evening I think I called a college staff member a c*nt, I said the club I support are **** at the moment, that's what he's got offended by, that what he was upset about he was crying on the phone that I called a college staff member a c*nt. I thought maybe the staff member might have been related to him or friends with him in some way etc but no, it's neither of them, the staff member is not associated with him in any way apart from a teacher to him. The fact my friend was crying and upset he was just upset that I "keep swearing" and it offends him. I knew he was offended by swearing but I never swore at him, I just called a staff member a **** and knew he would start crying about me swearing.


He's sensitive, he cries to a lot of minor things, once I remember just had a glass of Jack Danniels out on a video call, he looked at me like I just was doing drugs or something and was telling me to put it away acting just like it was actually illegal drugs. If I listed everything he's been offended by it would be a big list and like now he's crying because I swearing.
he seems like hes been sheltered his entire life
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
he seems like hes been sheltered his entire life

Kind of
Is this the same guy who begs his mother to come round to your house to harass you into agreeing to socialise with him and demand that you apologise for him being offended by almost everything that you do & say? :confused:

If so- tell your parents that you are fed up and will not interact with him or any member of his family ever again.
Then cut all contact and don't allow them to commit any further harassment, particularly not in your family home.
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Original post by londonmyst
Is this the same guy who begs his mother to come round to your house to harass you into agreeing to socialise with him and demand that you apologise for him being offended by almost everything that you do & say? :confused:

If so- tell your parents that you are fed up and will not interact with him or any member of his family ever again.
Then cut all contact and don't allow them to commit any further harassment, particularly not in your family home.

Yh I've got to stay friends. I blocked him for a bit and was getting told I'm going to get in trouble by our other friend and I didn't want him round again with his mum so unblocked. If I fall out with him he'll het his mum on me


I'll have to try
Original post by Anonymous
Yh I've got to stay friends. I blocked him for a bit and was getting told I'm going to get in trouble by our other friend and I didn't want him round again with his mum so unblocked. If I fall out with him he'll het his mum on me


I'll have to try

Are you going to spend the rest of your life being ruled by him and his mother?
Even in your own family home.

He and his mother use these type of tactics to always get their own way- by allowing him to bully you into obeying them you are showing them that their appalling tactics work.
Instead of persuading your parents to protect you from their harassment and keeping a record of all pestering calls & text as proof in case you decide to get the police involved in telling him & his mother to stop contacting you one day.
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Original post by londonmyst
Are you going to spend the rest of your life being ruled by him and his mother?
Even in your own family home.

He and his mother use these type of tactics to always get their own way- by allowing him to bully you into obeying them you are showing them that their appalling tactics work.
Instead of persuading your parents to protect you from their harassment and keeping a record of all pestering calls & text as proof in case you decide to get the police involved in telling him & his mother to stop contacting you one day.

I don't get my parents to protect me though. Maybe if it gets worse I might tell the police
Original post by Anonymous
I don't get my parents to protect me though. Maybe if it gets worse I might tell the police

First ask your parents to protect you and stop allowing him & his mother to set foot in your home again.
Make it crystal clear that you don't want any more contact with either of them nor any meetings.
That you have have ended the friendship and won't change your mind.
His mother is old enough to know not to harass you, regardless of how much her son tells her to.

If you tell the police that you are fed up with being harassed and don't want any more contact with either of them- the police will add this to their records.
Then issue them both with harassment warnings and warn them not to contact you or try to come to your home again.
If they do- they risk being arrested and facing criminal charges.
Keep copies of all emails and texts harassing you- so that you can give them to the police as proof of the history of harassment.
Reply 8
Original post by londonmyst
First ask your parents to protect you and stop allowing him & his mother to set foot in your home again.
Make it crystal clear that you don't want any more contact with either of them nor any meetings.
That you have have ended the friendship and won't change your mind.
His mother is old enough to know not to harass you, regardless of how much her son tells her to.

If you tell the police that you are fed up with being harassed and don't want any more contact with either of them- the police will add this to their records.
Then issue them both with harassment warnings and warn them not to contact you or try to come to your home again.
If they do- they risk being arrested and facing criminal charges.
Keep copies of all emails and texts harassing you- so that you can give them to the police as proof of the history of harassment.

My mum let him in not knowing about anything but I've said a bit. I've just blocked my friend now on everything now and I'm probably not going to unblock again

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