How often do you meet someone that you'd consider good enough for a relationship?

14

I've met three in my life, and I'm 20. I don't think I have stupidly high standards, but I just find that either they sleep with me and then I become disinterested (because if they would sleep with me so easily, surely I could do better?), or they just simply aren't pretty enough or engaging enough. I don't really feel like I have many "problems with women" as people say, just can't find a good one.

Maybe the negative attitude is self-enforcing, I don't know.

How many people do you meet that you'd really consider a relationship with each year?

Reply 1

Double Agent

18

Maybe 1 every 18 months? Something like that.

Reply 2

username158373

18

I've met 2 and i'm 18.

First one, we were together for over a year. And the second one, we were together for 8 months. Still best friends with both after splitting up.

Every word you just said, is exactly the same as i feel. Though i've never really singled it out before.

Reply 3

Mattaf

5

Every 10 minutes apparently... I'm never right of course... :frown:

Reply 4

Profesh

20

Seriously? One or two a year.

Reply 5

caroline147

14

I've met four & I'm nearly seventeen. Apparently I'm too picky :frown:

.

There's nothing wrong with having high standards though.

Reply 6

georgia

14

Well I've never done the whole relationship thing so I guess none? I'm 18.

I'm not sure if my standards are too high, or I just have appalling luck with guys. It also does seem to be the case that any of the 'good ones' that I come across already have girlfriends which just puts them off the radar because I have no interest in being 'the other woman'.

The guys I'm interested in are never interested in me (or if they are they're painfully shy about it so it doesn't go anywhere) so it never gets to the point where I'd consider someone good enough for a relationship because I simply don't know them properly. It's a vicious cycle.

You're cute, by the way.

Reply 7

lolimemma

15

Not very often. About 1 person a year at a push?

Reply 8

frank01277779

1

Redemption

I don't think I have stupidly high standards, but I just find that either they sleep with me and then I become disinterested (because if they would sleep with me so easily, surely I could do better?), or they just simply aren't pretty enough or engaging enough. I don't really feel like I have many "problems with women" as people say, just can't find a good one.

Agree with a lot of that.

The "sleeping with" issue isn't really an issue imo though. Don't think it really changes my opinion of someone, if I was going to properly like them I still would...

I do sometimes wonder if my standards are too high, possible they're more specific than "high" actually.

Looks thing tends to be the first/main issue. I really don't think I'm that picky, I just don't meet genuinely good looking girls...No idea where they hide. I suppose the "not engaging enough" thing tends to happen because I've already ruled them out in that way...Then you get to know some of them as friends, realise once you've got to know them that you might like them but they're just not good looking enough for you to be interested in a proper relationship...That irritates me a lot at times, that I can't get over the looks issue...Suppose it's not my fault as such that I'm shallow though. Is it even shallow? It's just what I find attractive...

I've had 3 relationships of over 14 months, so I guess that's 3 people (although looking at 1 of those people now I'm sure I wouldn't go for her, another one I have no real clue, not seen her for 5 years...) Another girlfriend of only 4 months but I was genuinely into her, we just weren't a good match relationship-wise. Can't think of anyone in the last 2 years who has "got away" as such...

My current issue is probably that my last girlfriend was perfect (for me) in a lot of ways, and other girls just can't match up...Don't think this is a bad thing as such either though. I don't wanna lower my standards, it's not like I've become a worse person in that time so I should be able to find someone as good/better, it might just take some time...

I rambled.

When I was 17 there were loads of girls I'd consider though...I guess the older you get, and the more relationships you've been in, the better you know yourself, the better you know what you like/works and therefore the likelihood of meeting someone who meets those more specific standards will naturally decrease...

Reply 9

RedRiotRoses

9

Incredibly rarely.

Reply 10

*AllyBaba

12

I'm 17, almost 18 and I've found one person who I truely want to be with 100%

Reply 11

A is for Awesome

2

I don't know really. I've just gotten out of a 3 year relationship, and in that time I buried any feelings of attraction I had to other girls. Since I've been single I haven't really met any girls I would want to pursue a relationship, or even just fool around with.

Reply 12

allieRAWR!

14

I wouldn't use the phrase "good enough", but "right enough".

Ummmm, I'm seventeen. And to date, two.

One in at the beginning of this year
One at the beginning of year 9 (I was.....13) Lasted a LONG time.

Reply 13

afua12

15

None. It's never worked out with any of the guys I've dated - I always seem to just get involved with the wrong ones. My friends tell me that I should raise my standards, but I don't think they're right. I've just sort of given up. When I meet someone, I'll meet them. In the meantime, there are many more things to life :smile:

Reply 14

Redemption

OP

14

Here I mean I've actually only met two or three people in my life.

Not that I've found more and couldn't get them. They just haven't turned up. And as for the sex, it really does k.o. any chances of a relationship with me. They need to hold out for at least like a month or two.

Reply 15

username158373

18

Redemption

Here I mean I've actually only met two or three people in my life.

Not that I've found more and couldn't get them. They just haven't turned up. And as for the sex, it really does k.o. any chances of a relationship with me. They need to hold out for at least like a month or two.

Agreed. Depending how often you see each other.

Reply 16

Ang|ophi|e

12

Not that often. I've only ever liked 2 guys and I had relationships with them. For me to really like someone, there has to be something different about them from the rest. They have to stand out. And that's hard to find these days lol.

Reply 17

*HullaBaLoO*

19, and so far just the one.

Who unfortunately doesn't want a relationship :frown:

Reply 18

username113355

7

*HullaBaLoO*

19, and so far just the one.

Who unfortunately doesn't want a relationship :frown:

It sucks, doesn't it? Finding someone who you really connect with but them not being interested in you that way...

Oh well, we'll find someone soon, I'm sure.

Reply 19

*HullaBaLoO*

the_inept_one

It sucks, doesn't it? Finding someone who you really connect with but them not being interested in you that way...

Oh well, we'll find someone soon, I'm sure.

Indeed. Probably worse than being stuck in the friends zone. He likes me, but I'm leaving here in Decemeber and won't be back until February and it's too far and long for him.
I'll just stick with his company for the time being.

And yeah, we'll all find someone...hehe but when!

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