i dont know what to do about my mum drinkingWatch
before my mum and dad split when i was 7, they used to drink a lot together. i have lots of memories of being at a pub, or my parents having friends around, drinking and smoking weed infront of me. i remember one night having to steady my parents walking up my street because they were so drunk, me only being about 6 at the time. i also remember my mum being drunk and crashing our car into the neighbours wall, the police came, there was a lot of shouting and it made me really upset. i was in year 4 then.
my dad is definitely an alcoholic, but i dont see him much so it doesnt bother me. my mum has, either one or 2 pints of beer a night or a bottle of wine. and now im older i absolutely cant stand to see her drinking. the lack of control she has just pisses me off for some reason. i dont know if its because i expected after my dad to be gone it (alcohol) would have been solved, but i hate that i cant have a genuine conversation with her in an evening.
ive tried bringing this up with her multiple times before and she gets really defensive and mad at me saying that im trying to control her. then when she says she is going to cut down on it, she promises, she always breaks it the week after and im starting to lose my trust in her.
i dont really think she has an addiction because she used it to relax but i feel so stuck. i cant stand being around her when she's drunk it just makes me want to cry, and i dont know what to do about it. everyone ive talked to has said im being controlling and nobody seems to listen to how it makes me feel, not even her.
sorry for this but if i could have some advice or someone who can sort of relate that would be great. i feel awful