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I feel like I need a childhood and be a kid to be able to grow up and live a fully independent life. You can’t just go from birth to a teenager and adult.
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I'm in the same boat as in I didn't really have a childhood , but for me it made me extremely independent at a young age as I couldn't rely on anyone else for anything.
The feel of missing out on your childhood prehaps is holding you back, you shoukd talk to somone about this, but the reality is that life goes on and having regrets about something that is now out of your control is just going to cause issues.
The feel of missing out on your childhood prehaps is holding you back, you shoukd talk to somone about this, but the reality is that life goes on and having regrets about something that is now out of your control is just going to cause issues.
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It will take time but you cannot use the same argument throughout your adulthood.
Do something about it.
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(Original post by Max1989)
I'm in the same boat as in I didn't really have a childhood , but for me it made me extremely independent at a young age as I couldn't rely on anyone else for anything.
The feel of missing out on your childhood prehaps is holding you back, you shoukd talk to somone about this, but the reality is that life goes on and having regrets about something that is now out of your control is just going to cause issues.
I'm in the same boat as in I didn't really have a childhood , but for me it made me extremely independent at a young age as I couldn't rely on anyone else for anything.
The feel of missing out on your childhood prehaps is holding you back, you shoukd talk to somone about this, but the reality is that life goes on and having regrets about something that is now out of your control is just going to cause issues.
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Yes and no.
It will take time but you cannot use the same argument throughout your adulthood.
Do something about it.
Yes and no.
It will take time but you cannot use the same argument throughout your adulthood.
Do something about it.
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i was sick throughout my childhood and it was serious and my parents had to take care of me, then after I hit puberty we put my health second as we realised it is long term and I had to randomly learn to do things myself.
i was sick throughout my childhood and it was serious and my parents had to take care of me, then after I hit puberty we put my health second as we realised it is long term and I had to randomly learn to do things myself.
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It is pretty normal to be expected to start looking after yourself, including your health issues, when you are a teenager...
It is pretty normal to be expected to start looking after yourself, including your health issues, when you are a teenager...
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I do watch some cartoons now and ask my mum whenever something happens because I don’t know what to do (though I am supposed to know by now) and bare in mind this is 10 years into puberty so I guess that was my childhood and now I am supposed to be an adult.
I do watch some cartoons now and ask my mum whenever something happens because I don’t know what to do (though I am supposed to know by now) and bare in mind this is 10 years into puberty so I guess that was my childhood and now I am supposed to be an adult.
My dad is 56 and he does, so do we.
You need to step out of your comfort and make moves. Otherwise you will regret it when older.
Good luck!
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but most people (girls in my case) hit puberty around 13/14, I hit it at 10, some hit it at 8 and sometimes they go through precocious puberty which is early puberty before 8 for girls, we are expected to look after ourselves after puberty at least. I feel bad for the 8 year olds that went through it.
but most people (girls in my case) hit puberty around 13/14, I hit it at 10, some hit it at 8 and sometimes they go through precocious puberty which is early puberty before 8 for girls, we are expected to look after ourselves after puberty at least. I feel bad for the 8 year olds that went through it.
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Maybe you could try being forgiving of yourself when you struggle but not giving up and once you've tried really hard asking for help and not caring about the weird looks people might give you because they don't understand the circumstances? Obviously you might already be doing this but
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What do you mean by being expected to look after yourself? Surely everyone is expected to look after themselves after puberty?
What do you mean by being expected to look after yourself? Surely everyone is expected to look after themselves after puberty?
I was lucky I was 10 though.
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Interesting.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
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Interesting.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
Interesting.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
I know someone in my primary school who had a different type but she is a full on grown baby who talks and walks like a baby, I look like a normal person and she suffers more than me. Shes fully dependent and I am partially dependent.
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Interesting.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
Interesting.
It has the opposite effect on me. Not having a proper childhood meant i had a lot of responsibilities and pressure growing up. Not being able to do stuff other children were doing and feeling like i couldnt rely on others actually made me independent, perhaps too independent.
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my illness from birth holds me back with independence. These kind of illnesses are rare.
I know someone in my primary school who had a different type but she is a full on grown baby who talks and walks like a baby, I look like a normal person and she suffers more than me. Shes fully dependent and I am partially dependent.
my illness from birth holds me back with independence. These kind of illnesses are rare.
I know someone in my primary school who had a different type but she is a full on grown baby who talks and walks like a baby, I look like a normal person and she suffers more than me. Shes fully dependent and I am partially dependent.
In your case, it's your illness, which is different.
(should say that my degree and postgrad is all about children and childhood which is why i slightly dont agree with the title of the thread)
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but its harder if you have a disability or if you hit puberty as young as 8. People who have a disability or go through puberty that young may find it harder to look after themselves or may not be able to (I heard the youngest parents are aged 5 and 6 in China, not sure if they went through puberty that young)
I was lucky I was 10 though.
but its harder if you have a disability or if you hit puberty as young as 8. People who have a disability or go through puberty that young may find it harder to look after themselves or may not be able to (I heard the youngest parents are aged 5 and 6 in China, not sure if they went through puberty that young)
I was lucky I was 10 though.
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You didn't answer my question.
You didn't answer my question.
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Everyone is expected to look after themselves after puberty but some people can’t, and some parents don’t show them how to do things or tell them to do certain things after puberty so how will they learn without someone telling them? of course theres the internet and friends but still. My parents didn’t tell me what to do after puberty and this could be another reason why I can’t live an independent life, my siblings (apart from my 26 year old brother who is normal and doesn’t have a disability and doesn’t know how to take care of himself) did things without being told, but I have a disability and I am different hence why I need to be shown and told to do it before I learn to do it without being told. We aren’t all the same.
Everyone is expected to look after themselves after puberty but some people can’t, and some parents don’t show them how to do things or tell them to do certain things after puberty so how will they learn without someone telling them? of course theres the internet and friends but still. My parents didn’t tell me what to do after puberty and this could be another reason why I can’t live an independent life, my siblings (apart from my 26 year old brother who is normal and doesn’t have a disability and doesn’t know how to take care of himself) did things without being told, but I have a disability and I am different hence why I need to be shown and told to do it before I learn to do it without being told. We aren’t all the same.
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