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How to find a girlfriend

Ok, so, I am a 16 year old lesbian who's still closeted because of homophobic family members, and I was just wondering how I would be able to find a partner of my age or 17.

Reply 1

hey!! 17 year old bisexual girl(?) here to help. i met my current girlfriend on twitter - i know it's maybe not the ideal or most conventional place but sometimes these things just happen when and where you least expect it. personally i'd say the internet is always a good bet, although you need to be really careful that you know who you're talking to! and also there's the issue of long distance. if that's not a problem then go right ahead, but i know it will put some people off. i live in the UK and my gf is in the US and we make it work perfectly well but LDRs are definitely not for everyone.

are there any pride groups in your local area or community? maybe at school, or in your nearby uni or town hall? it can sometimes be tricky to access these when you're closeted to your family but do give it an effort if you can. otherwise, i'd just suggest the regular ways of meeting people!! talk to new people at school, join some clubs and extracurriculars to find someone with similar interests to yours, ask your friends if they know anyone who might play for your team - if you're out to them, of course.

i'm really sorry your family aren't supportive of you. it sucks and i hope one day you'll be in a safe enough environment where you're free to be who you are. until then, i wish you all the best!! do remember that love can be found anywhere - even on glee stan twitter during lockdown haha :biggrin:
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Reply 2

Original post by franklyfruity
hey!! 17 year old bisexual girl(?) here to help. i met my current girlfriend on twitter - i know it's maybe not the ideal or most conventional place but sometimes these things just happen when and where you least expect it. personally i'd say the internet is always a good bet, although you need to be really careful that you know who you're talking to! and also there's the issue of long distance. if that's not a problem then go right ahead, but i know it will put some people off. i live in the UK and my gf is in the US and we make it work perfectly well but LDRs are definitely not for everyone.
are there any pride groups in your local area or community? maybe at school, or in your nearby uni or town hall? it can sometimes be tricky to access these when you're closeted to your family but do give it an effort if you can. otherwise, i'd just suggest the regular ways of meeting people!! talk to new people at school, join some clubs and extracurriculars to find someone with similar interests to yours, ask your friends if they know anyone who might play for your team - if you're out to them, of course.
i'm really sorry your family aren't supportive of you. it sucks and i hope one day you'll be in a safe enough environment where you're free to be who you are. until then, i wish you all the best!! do remember that love can be found anywhere - even on glee stan twitter during lockdown haha :biggrin:


Thank you!

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