I share a flat with two friends, it’s three girls in our flat. We all study in the same university and living with them has been really easy and we’ve become close friends. We share kitchen and bathroom.
My brother has recently graduated and is looking for jobs. As he doesn’t live near me and takes a flight to come over. Since September has has come two times to see his friends, staying for a weekend the first time and for a week the second time.
I don’t mind him staying at my flat, however, I am aware that him staying over might be uncomfortable for my flat mates mainly because of the sharing of common spaces. Although he is respectful and considerate, he must understand that him staying affects my flat mates. They have never complained about him and hope that they would have no problem telling me, but I’m not completely sure.
His graduation is in early January and he wants to come a 3-4 days before my parents to see his friends and go out the weekend before his graduation.
I tried to make him understand that this affects my flat mates and coming a 3-4 days before is not right. I also told him that I’d let them know beforehand that he’s coming and I’d talk to them about how they feel with having my family over for a few days.
He did not take this well and told me I’m selfish. He said I don’t need to explain myself to them and that telling him this was rude, but I completely disagree.
This situation has caused a huge argument with him and now I’m having second thoughts about whether I should’ve gone about his differently.
Thoughts? What should I do?