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(Original post by Slx.24)
Even if you're less than average people would still notice you
I ain saying I'm attractive but I would defo notice you at least 🤷*♂️
hahah thank u😭
I mean maybe it’s cus I’m with people who are moree attractive, so others would like to look/pay attention to them. But it’s confusing as this also happens when I’m alone 🤷*♀️
I have noticed that people tend to prefer to make eye contact with those they think are conventionally pretty. I guess it’s natural and can’t blame them
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(Original post by jaesix)
i really agree with what these two said. attractiveness definitely comes from the way a person acts. i say this mainly because i used to be that annoying ass kid at parties who got a lot of attention mainly for looks. but as every kid in those parties grew up, a lot of attention i received was lost mainly because every other kid was so much better at socialising, while i was way too unapproachable for being so socially awkward - it’s like i was just there for the purpose of being there, and nothing more.
ughh that’s terrible did people try to approach you? how did they act when you seemed more anti social than they expected
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(Original post by mon166)
hahah thank u😭
I mean maybe it’s cus I’m with people who are moree attractive, so others would like to look/pay attention to them. But it’s confusing as this also happens when I’m alone 🤷*♀️
I have noticed that people tend to prefer to make eye contact with those they think are conventionally pretty. I guess it’s natural and can’t blame them
np
Yeah I get you, Ik too many good looking people lol
I guess... I just look at everyone 🤣
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(Original post by mon166)
yesss I do agree I can be awkward at times 😭😭I don’t think I look the most approachable person but I’m trying to not care if people think that about me
Although all this is a BIG factor, I definitely am unattractive I can’t deny😭😭

thank u for ur kind words!!
Im sure youre being paranoid, but start taking care of yourself and loving yourself, I hope things get better! xx

(Original post by jaesix)
i really agree with what these two said. attractiveness definitely comes from the way a person acts. i say this mainly because i used to be that annoying ass kid at parties who got a lot of attention mainly for looks. but as every kid in those parties grew up, a lot of attention i received was lost mainly because every other kid was so much better at socialising, while i was way too unapproachable for being so socially awkward - it’s like i was just there for the purpose of being there, and nothing more.
Exactly!!
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I can be interested, but you must change colours in different temperatures, thank you.
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Whenever I go outside, if I’m with another person or not, talking to cashiers or strangers no one ever looks at me in the eye. It kinda gets to me cus I don’t understand what im doing wrong. Even when im in a group of other people and someone approaches us, they’ll make eye contact and talk with everyone else.

Family friends and even FAMILY (distant) aren’t interested in me remotely. I have a sister ( who is extremely pretty) and they are much more interested in her than me. They always talk and approach her in gatherings and will completely ignore my existence EVEN THOUGH I’m standing right next to her. This happens everywhereeeee and honestly although her getting compliments and everyone wanting talk to her over me hurts, I think I could live with it if people decided to look at me even. That’s what pains me the most. Being invisible. I just want to be looked at, at least.
When my mum introduces us to people they constantly look at her and ask her questions. I think my mum does take notice to this but there’s not much she can really do. There’s times when my mum has introduced us to people and men would be in awe and take steps back and not even look at me. Family friends never mention me or compliment me, and even distant relatives want to add her to family group chats, reach out to her, wish her well and not even talk to me.
Obviously this isn’t a dig at my sister, she can’t control it and in a way I’m glad she isn’t in my position. It just hurts.

Some people even only talk to me when they have no one or want a favour. I just don’t get what I’m doing wrong I need helpp.

Sorry this is long so if u have got to the end thank u<3
You need to make yourself interesting. Also, don't expect others to always initiate a conversation. They might see you as someone who's quiet, therefore doesn't communicate with you. Try to start a conversation and always engage in group convos/ activities.
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I can relate and it affects confidence
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(Original post by mon166)
ughh that’s terrible did people try to approach you? how did they act when you seemed more anti social than they expected
of course people had to try to at least make conversation, since almost everyone knows each other at these parties/gatherings. for the people older than me, they'd say a bit to me, but because i'm just really terrible at making conversation they eventually move on, while im stuck on my phone again for the next few hours lol. that, and they usually just end up talking about me to my parents instead.

for people around my age, they'll try to make conversation. if nothing clicks, they'll just go to their own friends and once again i'm by myself on my phone. i feel like my personality makes other people think i'm pitiful too - let's say there's a game going on, they'll try to make it easier for me rather than making it equal for everyone, if you get what i mean. i get they're just trying to be more nice, but idk. kinda comes off wrong i guess. some of them point out how "introverted"/"anti-social" i am, which you can probably understand why that would be annoying lmfao. i don't blame them though, i wouldn't know how to make conversation with someone who has awful social cues most of the time.

i guess the way i act affects my confidence in a lot of things too. like not going outside more often, or not exercising enough, or not participating in things purely out of a mix of embarrassment and anxiety - all in all probably affected my level of attractiveness.
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it's over
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