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Why don't I like getting wasted & clubbing as much as most people?

Please keep anon.

I would much rather stay in with a dvd with some friends, than go out for the express purpose of getting lashed?

If you enjoy going clubbing, why do you? Because I really need to convince myself why it's fun!! I often get people coming up to me saying "Are you alright?" And I guess it's because I don't look like I'm having a great time.

Any ideas on how I can change this?

Reply 1

Aack

I hate clubbing and have no intention of suddenly liking it! Be yourself!

Reply 2

Dionysus

15

Some people just don't like clubbing, but have you tried different clubs? With different music policies? I hate some clubs, and I go clubbing all the time.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Aack

I hate clubbing and have no intention of suddenly liking it! Be yourself!

Peer pressure, Aack. I wish there was something I could do about it. I go out at least 2x a week, but I still get slammed for it :frown:

Reply 4

RobbieC

15

I go out because I love dancing and socialising with people - new and old friends alike. Alcohol is sometimes a nice ice-breaker for those new meetings, or just serves to make you feel a bit warm and fuzzy, but it's about the balance and the original mood involved. Very tricky getting the balance right I find, but if you get it right, the best nights of your life can be full of drunkenness and dancing.

I wish I was going out tonight now :frown:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

RobbieC

I go out because I love dancing and socialising with people - new and old friends alike. Alcohol is sometimes a nice ice-breaker for those new meetings, or just serves to make you feel a bit warm and fuzzy, but it's about the balance and the original mood involved. Very tricky getting the balance right I find, but if you get it right, the best nights of your life can be full of drunkenness and dancing.

I wish I was going out tonight now :frown:

THANK YOU. I need more of this. You're actually making me want to go out.

Reply 6

The Socialite

14

Ahh, it's the way uni life is unfortunately...going out and getting lashed is the main social thing to do. It's sad, but there we go.

It's a shame that you're spending so much money on tickets/entry fees, drinks and things when you could just be spending £2 on a blockbuster DVD rental. Perhaps you could invite people over a few times a week (different groups of people of course?) or have a house/flat party? There's nothing wrong with having a couple of nights in by yourself either - I'm not going out tonight for Halloween because a) I'm so tired from the past 2 nights b) everywhere is going to be so rammed and expensive and c) I'm going out tomorrow for a Halloween party and have a long journey on Sunday, so I'm just having a cosy night in eating Marmite on toast and watching Grease.

Nothing wrong with that methinks, just don't become a social recluse. If you go out just a few times a week you'll appreciate it more. Going out every night gets boring after a while.

Reply 7

Aack

Anonymous

Peer pressure, Aack. I wish there was something I could do about it. I go out at least 2x a week, but I still get slammed for it :frown:

If clubbing isn't your thing, why not suggest going to a more laid back bar where there is a dance floor, but it is primarily a bar??

I'm sure your friends would be willing to compromise now and again, if you really don't like clubbing. :smile:

Reply 8

carrotboy

2

perhaps start moderately drinking alcohol whilst watching a dvd..? :s-smilie:

i don't know if that would help

Reply 9

RobbieC

15

Anonymous

THANK YOU. I need more of this. You're actually making me want to go out.

Lol, well that's just my take on it all. I've been in a position where I've got wasted on purpose (usually cos I've felt awkward, or just needed a release from stress), but it has mostly ended in pain and bad memories the next day.

The best times you'll have are probably when you are having a good time already, are happy and with friends and then maybe add a little drink into the mixer... but you don't necessarily need to at all. I've been drinking in moderation (dieting too), and have been able to have great nights and get up at a decent time the next day without hangover!

Have a good night, if you do go out!!

Reply 10

Oddball

11

Cripes, don't force it. If you don't like it, don't do it.

Simple.

Reply 11

username198289

4

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2007/aug/13/fashion.comment

This article inspired me. I was like you for ages, hating clubs but trying to force myself to go. I've given in now. It actually makes me sad going to places like that :smile:

Reply 12

Emma512

Anonymous

Please keep anon.

I would much rather stay in with a dvd with some friends, than go out for the express purpose of getting lashed?

If you enjoy going clubbing, why do you? Because I really need to convince myself why it's fun!! I often get people coming up to me saying "Are you alright?" And I guess it's because I don't look like I'm having a great time.

Any ideas on how I can change this?

lol its ok to not enjoy clubbing etc its not the be all and end all of life :biggrin:

I like mixing it up nights in and out.
Don't force yourself to like something you really don't
Be your own person. how is anyone going to respect you if you have no self respect?
The reason so many people like it and you don't is because we are all individual. Lets keep it that way, the world would be boring if we were all generic copies of each other :biggrin:

Reply 13

wizz_kid

16

Peer pressure plays an important role as some 1 mentioned above.

Reply 14

Angrybanana

11

I feel exactly the same as the OP and I am so sick of having to justify myself to everyone. I'm not a recluse, I just enjoy decent conversation with good friends and I don't get that from clubbing. I try to go out sometimes so I don't become a recluse but when I do I always end up in a corner by myself nursing an overpriced drink having tried and failed to join in conversations. Tbh I'm tired of wasting my money on something I don't even enjoy. I notice that some of the replies here suggest the OP should compromise in some way rather than not going clubbing, but why should they? Why does it matter if the OP doesn't like clubbing so long as they have friends and are happy?

Reply 15

Liquidus Zeromus

17

It isn't what I'd call fun. Don't bother. You're better off staying sober and intact.
Granted, I am a tad biased due to my hatred of loud music, crowded places, and unruly behaviour. However, if you really want to put yourself above it all, don't get involved with the decadent crap that they call student "culture".

There are much more worthwhile and sane things to do whilst less mature students get drunk and forget everything they learned the previous day.

Reply 16

Adam G Manning

1

Aack

If clubbing isn't your thing, why not suggest going to a more laid back bar where there is a dance floor, but it is primarily a bar??

:smile:

This is what I prefer.

I dislike "club culture" mainly.

But I like Clubs, and Club Nights. If that makes sense.

Reply 17

SomeNextPirate

11

Adam G Manning

This is what I prefer.

I dislike "club culture" mainly.

But I like Clubs, and Club Nights. If that makes sense.

Sorry not really :p:

Reply 18

kat2pult

18

I don't like drinking, I can't dance, and hate how hot and loud clubs are. DVD rentals ftw!

Reply 19

un4given

Do as i do and go out for dinner/meals or other things that are a little bit more talking friendly. I really hate clubbing so i don't go and if people like me less because of the fact then so be it.

Why don't I like getting wasted & clubbing as much as most people?

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