Is it okay that guys don't approach me

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I am not interested in dating but guys don't approach(i don't really care most of the time but sometimes i think about it). I am a muslim (female, if that matter). When I was in my country, i don't things were not like that but when i came to london nobody ever approach me( again i am not into to dating thing or something like that).I have being in LOndon for 2 years plus. so before when i was in my country, i used to be outgoing but when i came this country i became quite , i don't really have friends so i don't go out.I am 16 yrs turning 17 this year. My question is that is it normal.
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It's a good thing that you don't get approached at that age. London is an antisocial place, even making eye contact with a stranger feels like a crime.
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(Original post by hungrysalamander)
It's a good thing that you don't get approached at that age. London is an antisocial place, even making eye contact with a stranger feels like a crime.
yeah it is
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(Original post by hungrysalamander)
It's a good thing that you don't get approached at that age. London is an antisocial place, even making eye contact with a stranger feels like a crime.
Agree 100%.

A couple of times last month, while walking in a London street, doing my "ting", i locked-eyes with a couple of girls.

I don't know what it was about it, but I found the intensity terrifying (even though it was only for a split second). And I didn't dare look back
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(Original post by hungrysalamander)
It's a good thing that you don't get approached at that age. London is an antisocial place, even making eye contact with a stranger feels like a crime.
London is hardly antisocial when you grow up here, have friends who live here and you have some attachment to the city. That's completely different to public transport etiquette in which you generally don't talk to strangers you're travelling with on the tube. People from outside London don't understand this. IMO if someone wants to talk to randomers without getting strange looks, they should stay in Yorkshire or whatever ridiculous place they come from.
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Hi all,
I am not interested in dating but guys don't approach(i don't really care most of the time but sometimes i think about it). I am a muslim (female, if that matter). When I was in my country, i don't things were not like that but when i came to london nobody ever approach me( again i am not into to dating thing or something like that).I have being in LOndon for 2 years plus. so before when i was in my country, i used to be outgoing but when i came this country i became quite , i don't really have friends so i don't go out.I am 16 yrs turning 17 this year. My question is that is it normal.
Yeah in London it's a lot of just minding people's own business, I'm pretty sure.
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London is hardly antisocial when you grow up here, have friends who live here and you have some attachment to the city. That's completely different to public transport etiquette in which you generally don't talk to strangers you're travelling with on the tube. People from outside London don't understand this. IMO if someone wants to talk to randomers without getting strange looks, they should stay in Yorkshire or whatever ridiculous place they come from.
Who said that I didn't grow up in London? Most of my friends moved out for uni anyways, it is quite antisocial unless you go to venues specifically for socialising such as bars or clubs.
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What country are you from also do you wear a hijab that may influence it?
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Who said that I didn't grow up in London? Most of my friends moved out for uni anyways, it is quite antisocial unless you go to venues specifically for socialising such as bars or clubs.

Which is why most students in London do exactly that. I went to uni outside London but made stronger more supportive friends in London than anyone I met outside. People who live in London but stay at home all the time and don't put themselves out there can't complain that it's antisocial when there are so many things going on every night of the week in the capital. Every taste is catered for.
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What country are you from also do you wear a hijab that may influence it?
Nigerian and I wear hijab(jilbab most of the time)
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If you are not interested in dating, then why does it matter?
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Yes- it's a very good thing.
Hopefully you will never be groped, pestered or sexually harassed by anyone in London.
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If you are not interested in dating, then why does it matter?
I just think about sometime and don't know if it is normal
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Hi all,
I am not interested in dating but guys don't approach(i don't really care most of the time but sometimes i think about it). I am a muslim (female, if that matter). When I was in my country, i don't things were not like that but when i came to london nobody ever approach me( again i am not into to dating thing or something like that).I have being in LOndon for 2 years plus. so before when i was in my country, i used to be outgoing but when i came this country i became quite , i don't really have friends so i don't go out.I am 16 yrs turning 17 this year. My question is that is it normal.
you're 16, why do you want men's attention??
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I just think about sometime and don't know if it is normal
Yes, it's normal.
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you're 16, why do you want men's attention??
If you read it properly then you would notice that she merely asked whether it was normal or not. And you're saying "men" like she wants 20+ years old men to stalk her.
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If you read it properly then you would notice that she merely asked whether it was normal or not. And you're saying "men" like she wants 20+ years old men to stalk her.
I don't remember asking for your moderation.
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I don't remember asking for your moderation.
And I don't remember OP asking for your animosity. I can tell from your response that you're not going to want to listen so don't bother replying to this.
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You wear the hijab and I'm pretty sure that one of the reasons it is used is so that guys aren't as sexual with you...

I don't see why you would expect men to approach you.
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You wear the hijab and I'm pretty sure that one of the reasons it is used is so that guys aren't as sexual with you...

I don't see why you would expect men to approach you.
I know but I don't mean it that way and I am not saying that i want that okay. I am just asking a question.
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