Erotomania... with head of my school?

Like a lot of young girls, i like the older man in his thirties, respectable- looking. Men i've dated in the past have been 30s, 40s... Also been relatively successful, a designer, photographer, or just otherwise loaded. Then last year i fell for an interviewer at the application stage, really getting my confidence up i flirted openly and he didn't seem to mind, nor did the other interviewer, who seemed transfixed.

So i go to university kind of with the 'ideal' man in mind. I think I want to get into a serious relationship with ... a lecturer or two there - it really would be the jackpot :yep:

This man i saw seemed to be like a lecturer and i'd taken to him from the offset, and i could tell he liked me - even in a short, strange moment :wink:

Then i had him for my first lecture and he didn't hide he was checking me out (He turned out to be head of the school). So after a few more lectures of him doing the same i wrote a letter to him giving him my number etc to call me. And it was obvious he knew who i was, as he made a reference to me even though i hadn't given any hints..

So he called me to his office and was basically angry. I contemplated it was angry in an 'i'm trying to dominate, be macho' way though, so i still flirted, although cooling it a bit, being slightly confused. My email cleverly implied i wanted him for sex - being the nymph i am :frown:

- and i presume he got affronted.

Weeks in and he's again started to warm to me. I get the work done and he smiles, and once again he gives me obvious signals. I want to make yet another move but stumbled across an erotomania article, which led to me researching it as i display a lot of the symptoms. Although i've always had attention from boys..

But then i found myself researching him up, and not just via google! I'm not about to stalk him but feel that all i can think about is him. Most importantly i know he likes me..

Any insight on my behaviour? I have considered threatening suicide so i can be with him - he is considering his work and marriage.. But i just can't go on and i've had my fill with being bored with boys i'm not interested in.

Reply 1

cillitbang

without sounding rude..don't act on this. go see a shrink.

the attraction towards older men in authority suggests something wrong psychologically, like issues or something. it's not healthy and could destroy people involved. seriously, his marriage?!

Reply 2

jaz_jaz

Older men

better than those boys
but seriously, hes married & he acted all weird... :confused:

Cool it for a bit and see what he does...?

Reply 3

Erradhadh

This seems like a scenario for a pornographic film.

"Anna Leigh, formerly naughty schoolgirl, goes to university. Flirting left and right with the professors, one finally gives her the spanking she deserves..."

Reply 4

Vampyrcorn

14

I reckon him liking you is all in your head. Sorry.

Anonymous

I have considered threatening suicide so i can be with him - he is considering his work and marriage.. But i just can't go on and i've had my fill with being bored with boys i'm not interested in.

Pathetic.

And he's not a naive teenager, the chances are he will see straight through you and tell everyone immediately to cover his back. Anyone with any common sense would avoid getting into a fling with an unstable girl who starts off a relationship with emotional blackmail.

Maybe you should talk to someone about this...

Reply 5

Gimothy

11

Erradhadh

This seems like a scenario for a pornographic film.

"Anna Leigh, formerly naughty schoolgirl, goes to university. Flirting left and right with the professors, one finally gives her the spanking she deserves..."

That sounds fantastic. What happens next?

Seek help.

Anonymous

Any insight on my behaviour? I have considered threatening suicide so i can be with him - he is considering his work and marriage.. But i just can't go on and i've had my fill with being bored with boys i'm not interested in.

Stop acting like a child and grow up. That's a really low stunt to pull, and quite frankly I just find is ironic that you are so determined not to be with boys who are probably more mature than you do.

No offense but you do sound like you have problems, and to be honest I have no idea what to say about that. :s-smilie:

Reply 8

Jarve99

3

I'll be 30 and rich in 12 years. I'll call you.

Gotta love h&r.

OP

Well that's what i'm confused about, is it just in me head? That's what erotomania is... But then it seems so real. Maybe he does like me, i'm not unnattractive and i actually get comments to suggest i'm not deluded at all.

how did he know it was me who wrote to him?

Reply 11

Ariadne

16

Whether its erotomania or not, DO NOT ACT ON THIS. If he has a family, a good job, a wife, a reputation, etc he is not going to get involved with a student. Are you sure he's flirting with you and you're not deluding yourself? If he is, he's incredibly irresponsible - he could get fired for it.

Reply 12

Erradhadh

Gimothy

That sounds fantastic. What happens next?

[ Censored. :p:

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Reply 13

flugestuge

3

You are pretty disturbed.
Get professional help. :shifty:

Reply 14

Liverpool's Number 9

10

Ariadne

Whether its erotomania or not, DO NOT ACT ON THIS. If he has a family, a good job, a wife, a reputation, etc he is not going to get involved with a student. Are you sure he's flirting with you and you're not deluding yourself? If he is, he's incredibly irresponsible - he could get fired for it.

What ideal world do you live in?

Reply 15

falls_whisper

14

Anonymous

Any insight on my behaviour? I have considered threatening suicide so i can be with him - he is considering his work and marriage.. But i just can't go on and i've had my fill with being bored with boys i'm not interested in.

Seek help. That's not normal.

You are psychotic.

ohhhh dear god. you're not right.

Reply 18

vapid slut magician

Anonymous

Well that's what i'm confused about, is it just in me head? That's what erotomania is... But then it seems so real. Maybe he does like me, i'm not unnattractive and i actually get comments to suggest i'm not deluded at all.

how did he know it was me who wrote to him?

yes, it's in your head. you sound like you might have a few personality disorders too (maybe histrionic or borderline). If i were you id go to you uni counselling service.

Reply 19

vapid slut magician

Profesh

You are psychotic.

not sure that's what psychosis is

Erotomania... with head of my school?

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