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Now this is from my own experience with the sheets of smiley faces but share your own experience down below whether you agree with me or not (try to persuade me).
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It can be. But the person having the counselling has to be keen to open up, realistic and patient.
Having a counsellor won't magically make you feel better, they're people not miracle workers.
I think it's important to be realistic about what you actually want the counselor to do, how you want to be helped and what you want to change in your life.
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Why does anyone need to persuade you?
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You can’t expect it to be a magic wand. However in my experience IF you hit a bit of rapport with your counsellor it can be helpful
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It can be. But the person having the counselling has to be keen to open up, realistic and patient.
Having a counsellor won't magically make you feel better, they're people not miracle workers.
I think it's important to be realistic about what you actually want the counselor to do, how you want to be helped and what you want to change in your life.
My counsellor was nice. But I realised that I was wasting my time when I realised having a counsellor is just basically me talking about my problems and them saying ‘yes uhm yes aww don’t be like that’. I spent 9 months in counselling if you’re wondering and I did my absolute best to get the most out of it. But as a young child, I thought that’s it, mental health support is only that much. I wasn’t aware of therapists and psychiatrists coz nobody had the professional idea to refer me to someone. Although when they did, the treatments were very unprofessional and underfunded.
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You can’t expect it to be a magic wand. However in my experience IF you hit a bit of rapport with your counsellor it can be helpful
My counsellor was nice and that’s it. She didn’t know how to tackle my problems and just listened. I didn’t want someone to just listen. I wanted someone to understand and actually help me with becoming better from my illness. But they decided it wasn’t that serious or important. That’s just the nhs sometimes.
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Why does anyone need to persuade you?
Basically I’m trying to see the other side of things but I want to mainly talk with people who’ve had the same horrible experience as me just to listen to their stories.
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Basically I’m trying to see the other side of things but I want to mainly talk with people who’ve had the same horrible experience as me just to listen to their stories.
I have no horrible experiences to share, I'm afraid.
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I have no horrible experiences to share, I'm afraid.
That’s fine. Honestly, it’s good hearing stuff like this. It feels like there is still hope and that not all people suffer.
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That’s fine. Honestly, it’s good hearing stuff like this. It feels like there is still hope and that not all people suffer.
I've never had counselling
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Counselling should compliment an overall wider solution to a problem you're facing personally, coupled with your own work as an individual on your own mental well-being, support from family, friends, colleagues and setting realistic goals for you to achieve.

Counselling alone will seldom be the answer.
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Counselling should compliment an overall wider solution to a problem you're facing personally, coupled with your own work as an individual on your own mental well-being, support from family, friends, colleagues and setting realistic goals for you to achieve.

Counselling alone will seldom be the answer.
Yessss I like this idea of what it should be like. But unfortunately I didn’t have this experience because tbh I think my counsellor didn’t have this view and the right knowledge to help people.
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I had a therapist and counselor that unfortunately weren't very helpful. The world is just kinda *****y
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I had a therapist and counselor that unfortunately weren't very helpful. The world is just kinda *****y
Yeah I know
Hopefully it changes in the future and therapists and counsellors actually take their jobs seriously rather then just feeling sorry for us.
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Why would anyone want to argue about it when its such a personal thing and your mind is so utterly made up?

I mean, in ones experience it is **** but plenty of people swear by it and if nothing else its handy to have a notionally nonjudgmental talking board.
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My counsellor was nice. But I realised that I was wasting my time when I realised having a counsellor is just basically me talking about my problems and them saying ‘yes uhm yes aww don’t be like that’. I spent 9 months in counselling if you’re wondering and I did my absolute best to get the most out of it. But as a young child, I thought that’s it, mental health support is only that much. I wasn’t aware of therapists and psychiatrists coz nobody had the professional idea to refer me to someone. Although when they did, the treatments were very unprofessional and underfunded.
In my experience the most useful therapist was a psychotherapist I paid for privately.He had a actual action plan of how to help me and also did offer opinions about what I was saying.I saw quite a few sympathetic smiley faces before him.Many years later I found a useful counsellor.At that time I did need someone to listen but she was also pro active with ideas and challenging my thinking.Look at qualifications and if they are no good after 6 sessions ie not working in the right way for you find another one.
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My counsellor was nice and that’s it. She didn’t know how to tackle my problems and just listened. I didn’t want someone to just listen. I wanted someone to understand and actually help me with becoming better from my illness. But they decided it wasn’t that serious or important. That’s just the nhs sometimes.
i had therapy on the nhs, and my therapist was such a nice person. however, one of her suggestions for me to try was having a hot shower? like i get it's relaxing but how is a shower going to help my problems lol
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Depends on what you want to get out of it, the rapport you have with your counsellor and how much effort you're willing to put in
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Depends on what you want to get out of it, the rapport you have with your counsellor and how much effort you're willing to put in
It also depends on how much the counsellor has experienced and effort that they’re willing to put in as well
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It also depends on how much the counsellor has experienced and effort that they’re willing to put in as well
I was taking that as a given
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