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I love and care about my family, and I want my family to be well and healthy.

My dad, and my two brothers have all tested positive with covid.

My dad is doubled jabbed and also had his booster, he's been going to pubs, restaurant's, and football matches - where I don't think there isn't any social distancing or mask wearing.

My older brother is only double jabbed and I told him that it's good to get the booster. He's similar to my dad going to restaurant's, meeting up with his friends.

My younger bro is at uni and he only had his first jabbed, he's one of those anti vaxxer's and didn't get his 2nd dose or even his booster.

I've been double jabbed and also had my booster. I also been taking supplements like Vitamin D and also Cod liver oil to improve my immune system. I have a low immune system and I don't really go to any social events because of my condition.

I just wanted my family to be healthy and I'm just frustrated that no one in my family is doing their best to keep safe. I believe and respect everyone's or my family decision of taking or not deciding to take a vaccine or a booster...but at least do something else to not get ill.

I know it sounds harsh but Am I meant to feel sorry for my family for getting Covid? I don't believe any of my family were keeping social distanced or wearing masks.

I told my older brother some time ago before he caught the virus that its good to take a booster, just to protect yourself a bit more. He never listened to me.

I just wanted my my family to be healthy because I care, but they all caught the virus and I'm just frustrated to be honest.


Am I meant to feel Sorry for them? Any advice
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a.planet
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Its sad that they caught COVID but they purposefully overexposed themselves to the virus. If it were me, I wouldn't feel sorry cause you can only lead a horse to water, but no one can force it to drink. You warned them, they didn't listen, they've got Covid as a result...
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Er you know that booster or not they would likely still have got the virus?
I imagine they can do without your condesention though, especially as you are in no position to think you have the right to pity them anyway..?
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Its sad that they caught COVID but they purposefully overexposed themselves to the virus. If it were me, I wouldn't feel sorry cause you can only lead a horse to water, but no one can force it to drink. You warned them, they didn't listen, they've got Covid as a result...
Where did the op say that? :lol:
You sound like a charming person though :rolleyes: 'they went outside so they deserve to have an illness'
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Where did the op say that? :lol:
You sound like a charming person though :rolleyes: 'they went outside so they deserve to have an illness'
"My dad is doubled jabbed and also had his booster, he's been going to pubs, restaurant's, and football matches - where I don't think there isn't any social distancing or mask wearing."

if you are going to crowded spaces and not wearing a mask, regardless of the vaccines, you will probably get covid. the vaccine reduces symptoms but doesnt stop transmission. So yes, if you don't follow proper protocol when out, what do you expect?
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"My dad is doubled jabbed and also had his booster, he's been going to pubs, restaurant's, and football matches - where I don't think there isn't any social distancing or mask wearing."

if you are going to crowded spaces and not wearing a mask, regardless of the vaccines, you will probably get covid. the vaccine reduces symptoms but doesnt stop transmission. So yes, if you don't follow proper protocol when out, what do you expect?
So basically everyone should get the vaccine but still have life remain as it has been for 2 years? That's not a life worth living for decades to come you just have to move on. There are thousands of illnesses out there already.
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So when will we get back to normal? After all the jabs and boosters were had because they promised this. There are millions of children under five years old who are terrified of standing too close to another human being, they even separate their Playmobil in the doll's house!! I don't think we have even the smallest inkling of the damage we are doing to the next generations mental health and ability to interact socially in a normal way.
So maybe your father and brother did catch COVID, but they at least did what was reasonable to protect the NHS from becoming overloaded again. If they have tested positive but have no symptoms more dangerous than a normal winter virus, then they isolate, avoid infecting others, and then get on with living their lives, hoping that they've just boosted their immunity to the virus and its next variant.
Living in perpetual fear inspires more pity from me than a vaccinated person who catches COVID but has few symptoms.Living entails taking calculated risks. If you ask an elderly person today who has had ALL their jabs and boosters if they want to continue going to their clubs and activities i.e taking those awful risks you're talking about, or sit at home, often alone if they've been widowed, protecting themselves from COVID, waiting to die of old age ALONE, guess what many would reply.... Quality over quantity wins every day!
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Er you know that booster or not they would likely still have got the virus?
I imagine they can do without your condesention though, especially as you are in no position to think you have the right to pity them anyway..?
I mentioned in the post that I respect people's decisions of taking or not taking the vaccine. I think it's unfair for me and others in similar situations that my parent brang the virus in the house where they haven't been social distancing and now I have to change the way I live in my own house by wearing a mask so I don't catch the virus.I probably had the virus anyway idk...BUT I don't want to be sick because my immune system is low, what don't you understand.
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If only they had their chris whitty talisman and purifying wreath of herbs when they went to the pub all this could have been avoided.
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I mentioned in the post that I respect people's decisions of taking or not taking the vaccine. I think it's unfair for me and others in similar situations that my parent brang the virus in the house where they haven't been social distancing and now I have to change the way I live in my own house by wearing a mask so I don't catch the virus.I probably had the virus anyway idk...BUT I don't want to be sick because my immune system is low, what don't you understand.
Correction: The way you live in THEIR house!! But I find it difficult to believe that if your immune system was as seriously weak as you are trying to make us understand that your parents would put you at risk.
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I mentioned in the post that I respect people's decisions of taking or not taking the vaccine. I think it's unfair for me and others in similar situations that my parent brang the virus in the house where they haven't been social distancing and now I have to change the way I live in my own house by wearing a mask so I don't catch the virus.I probably had the virus anyway idk...BUT I don't want to be sick because my immune system is low, what don't you understand.
That it isnt your house for a start.. :lol:
And how do you know they havent been 'social distancing' plenty of people who have done that have caught the virus.
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"My dad is doubled jabbed and also had his booster, he's been going to pubs, restaurant's, and football matches - where I don't think there isn't any social distancing or mask wearing."

if you are going to crowded spaces and not wearing a mask, regardless of the vaccines, you will probably get covid. the vaccine reduces symptoms but doesnt stop transmission. So yes, if you don't follow proper protocol when out, what do you expect?
OP didnt say theyve been deliberately exposing themselves dear... they also have no clue on whether a mask is worn or not.
No idea why youve included the bolded bit given anyone and everyone, distanced or not, can catch it :lol:
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I mean...you can feel any way you like about things but that doesn't mean people have to change what they're doing. Technically speaking, your family are allowed to socialise, go out and choose not to get vaccinated as they please. You don't have to feel sorry for them.

If you are immunocompromised and the outcome of you contracting COVID could be very serious for you, then I understand a little more, and if you're anxiety is justified based off of this then perhaps a proper sit down, serious discussion with your family is important to agree on some new precautions that keep everyone safe.
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I mentioned in the post that I respect people's decisions of taking or not taking the vaccine. I think it's unfair for me and others in similar situations that my parent brang the virus in the house where they haven't been social distancing and now I have to change the way I live in my own house by wearing a mask so I don't catch the virus.I probably had the virus anyway idk...BUT I don't want to be sick because my immune system is low, what don't you understand.
Firstly unless you own the house then it is up to them and secondly masks are pretty much worthless because they aren't designed for this so it's just to delude people into thinking they are more protected.
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I love and care about my family, and I want my family to be well and healthy.

My dad, and my two brothers have all tested positive with covid.

My dad is doubled jabbed and also had his booster, he's been going to pubs, restaurant's, and football matches - where I don't think there isn't any social distancing or mask wearing.

My older brother is only double jabbed and I told him that it's good to get the booster. He's similar to my dad going to restaurant's, meeting up with his friends.

My younger bro is at uni and he only had his first jabbed, he's one of those anti vaxxer's and didn't get his 2nd dose or even his booster.

I've been double jabbed and also had my booster. I also been taking supplements like Vitamin D and also Cod liver oil to improve my immune system. I have a low immune system and I don't really go to any social events because of my condition.

I just wanted my family to be healthy and I'm just frustrated that no one in my family is doing their best to keep safe. I believe and respect everyone's or my family decision of taking or not deciding to take a vaccine or a booster...but at least do something else to not get ill.

I know it sounds harsh but Am I meant to feel sorry for my family for getting Covid? I don't believe any of my family were keeping social distanced or wearing masks.

I told my older brother some time ago before he caught the virus that its good to take a booster, just to protect yourself a bit more. He never listened to me.

I just wanted my my family to be healthy because I care, but they all caught the virus and I'm just frustrated to be honest.


Am I meant to feel Sorry for them? Any advice
I’m really sorry everyone in your family has covid, I hope they can get out of that virus soon, they did what they could, got vaccinated and had the booster, but they can’t live their lives isolated, sadly we have to learn to live with this virus among us. If we live in fear, without leaving our houses because of the virus, the years will pass, and we’ll get more and more isolated, it’s not about going out to get infected, but I think everything has a balance and back then it caused us so much fear that we spent months locked down, now we all want to kind of get our lives back and forget a little everything we’ve been through with this pandemic, which definitely changed our lives.
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What i think is... Firstly, its sad to hear that your family got covid. But as you said everyone had been vaccinated so if they catch it they move on, whether you're vaccinated triple double or whatever or not at all you can still catch it anyways.
So anyway, the other part that they went to the pub in my opinion is quite irresponsible as they at least could think of others in your family that are trying to not catch it by nit going? . I mean if they go to the pub they are most likely not to care about others, they are just there to have fun and drink away.so there's nothing to do about it. Its either go and risk cathing it or not going at all. They are men. Most of them don't care.
Its about living with covid now.
I mean for me, i dont just stay at home, i have work where i meet a lot of people not even a meter apart as i work in a bakery. i still wear mask as i know im in contact with loads of people so as a precaution, few of the customers are too but majority don't.On the buses as well when i enter shops as well and on transport, so i am reducing my chances of cathing covid, but if im outside in the park...at open air i dont. (im not jabbed, havent got covid so far)
But with your dad and the pub it was foreseeable as its most likely to be the a crowded space and it was his decision. It should be all about accessing the situation. So i think you shouldn't feel sorry for them as they brought it on themselves.
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If my dad was dying of lung cancer I'd still feel sorry for him even if he'd smoked his whole life
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get down off ur high horse. Yeah it feels unfair that they should get sympathy when they could have avoided getting sick, but it's a bad look to be all 'I told you so' about it'. It'll make you look like a mean saddo
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