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I get approached from time to time and things usually are ok, we’ll message for a bit then things just die. I find this happens with acquaintances too. No one ever really reaches out to me to hang out and it kinda sucks given I’m at university.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
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I get approached from time to time and things usually are ok, we’ll message for a bit then things just die. I find this happens with acquaintances too. No one ever really reaches out to me to hang out and it kinda sucks given I’m at university.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
I get approached from time to time and things usually are ok, we’ll message for a bit then things just die. I find this happens with acquaintances too. No one ever really reaches out to me to hang out and it kinda sucks given I’m at university.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
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I went out with a girl who kept messaging things like "Hi how are you" so annoying, nothing interesting to say. Do you bring any interesting topics or laughs to the table?
I went out with a girl who kept messaging things like "Hi how are you" so annoying, nothing interesting to say. Do you bring any interesting topics or laughs to the table?
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I think it’s because guys like this usually have a lot of options when it comes to girls ...phone full of girls. You have to stand out from the the crowd somehow and make him want to contact you first.
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Why are you limiting things to messaging? I met a guy at work and we went on our first dates 4 days later. He's now my long-term boyfriend. Why? Because we had real-life, face-to-face interaction! Get out there and do stuff!
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No probably not but I am aware of this. I don’t know how to change it. I generally suck at messaging espc if I don’t know the person
No probably not but I am aware of this. I don’t know how to change it. I generally suck at messaging espc if I don’t know the person
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Is there a reason why you can't pursue someone you like and reach out to them to hang out? If you aren't being asked then don't keep leaving it to the men to ask you. If you don't ask, you don't get.
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There are people who are very attractive in appearance or personality and it’s very easy for them. Then there’s the majority that need to work a bit harder to be a valued partner. Just up your effort a bit
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Variety of possible reasons why.
They are bored and only want some casual chat online then move on.
Chatting with a lot of girls looking for ons or some no strings arrangement backup chicks, your replies give the impression that you are not interested, they realise that there are incompatible dealbreakers or no mutual interest.
They are bored and only want some casual chat online then move on.
Chatting with a lot of girls looking for ons or some no strings arrangement backup chicks, your replies give the impression that you are not interested, they realise that there are incompatible dealbreakers or no mutual interest.
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Variety of possible reasons why.
They are bored and only want some casual chat online then move on.
Chatting with a lot of girls looking for ons or some no strings arrangement backup chicks, your replies give the impression that you are not interested, they realise that there are incompatible dealbreakers or no mutual interest.
Variety of possible reasons why.
They are bored and only want some casual chat online then move on.
Chatting with a lot of girls looking for ons or some no strings arrangement backup chicks, your replies give the impression that you are not interested, they realise that there are incompatible dealbreakers or no mutual interest.
Quite balanced answer.
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Is there a reason why you can't pursue someone you like and reach out to them to hang out? If you aren't being asked then don't keep leaving it to the men to ask you. If you don't ask, you don't get.
Is there a reason why you can't pursue someone you like and reach out to them to hang out? If you aren't being asked then don't keep leaving it to the men to ask you. If you don't ask, you don't get.
They say they fear rejection, to be seen as desperate.
Well how do you think men feel when they have to approach women? That we do not fear to be seen as desperate, we do not fear the rejection? Let's not forget the famous scenario where men will be seen as creeps, sexual predators, RAPIST. With all that, do you actually think that men will still want to bother to approach women?
Op, londonmyst said it best, there a lot of reasons why they might not ask you out.
But asif007 got a good point too. Why do not make a move first? If you are one those women who believe that it men duty to approach a woman, then you must not complain. Do nothing and wait till the kind of man you want approach you.
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I get approached from time to time and things usually are ok, we’ll message for a bit then things just die. I find this happens with acquaintances too. No one ever really reaches out to me to hang out and it kinda sucks given I’m at university.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
I get approached from time to time and things usually are ok, we’ll message for a bit then things just die. I find this happens with acquaintances too. No one ever really reaches out to me to hang out and it kinda sucks given I’m at university.
I’m starting to think I’m socially inept or something.
Just smiling and saying hello can really help you out. Another thing that helps, is group activities and finding people that like the same things that you do. Don't worry you aren't the only one who feels lonely in these places. By doing small favours for people is actually how I found my current best friend. You'll find them eventually
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