How do I get back to studying after death of dad?

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DazzaHatty
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My dad died July last year. I've taken a year out and in that time the plan was to complete all outstanding work.

I haven't been able to do this, before I'd be studying from home and my dad would lay his palm on my shoulder and read what I was doing. Then offer things I could add. Whilst encouraging me I can do it and pushing me further.

Now I try and I don't have any of that and it's near enough impossible for me to encourage myself like my dad would. His encouragement was the only one that every really sunk in. Now that's gone I have nothing there really.

I don't know how to do it anymore.
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(Original post by DazzaHatty)
My dad died July last year. I've taken a year out and in that time the plan was to complete all outstanding work.

I haven't been able to do this, before I'd be studying from home and my dad would lay his palm on my shoulder and read what I was doing. Then offer things I could add. Whilst encouraging me I can do it and pushing me further.

Now I try and I don't have any of that and it's near enough impossible for me to encourage myself like my dad would. His encouragement was the only one that every really sunk in. Now that's gone I have nothing there really.

I don't know how to do it anymore.
Just think your dad is there with you
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First of all I'm sorry for your loss and can understand how demotivated you must feel. No one who has lost someone who has counted enormously for them can just carry on as if nothing has happened, so it's normal to be finding things hard. But, as the above poster has said, imagining his presence and the kind of comments he would be making may help you in getting back into work mode, and if he was implicated in your studies, then the last thing he would want is for you to give up because of his death. Do it for yourself and not for him, but know that he would be proud of you for doing so.
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