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So I really wanna enjoy having sex with my boyfriend and get into saying yes more as I do want to do it more often and not say no just because it’s uncomfortable if you get what I mean but every time I do agree it hurts , ( as it will do as I’m not used to it yet) and that’s why now every time he asks me it’s like I’m put off by it and im anxious as I know it will hurt again but I don’t want to let my boyfriend down Aswell as myself as he wants that type of connection/bond and so do I , and he does understand why I say no also from it hurting. ( just incase you got the wrong impression from my this all thinking he’s pressuring me or something , which he doesn’t at all )

What do I do to over come this ?

any advice would be great thanks x
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So I really wanna enjoy having sex with my boyfriend and get into saying yes more as I do want to do it more often and not say no just because it’s uncomfortable if you get what I mean but every time I do agree it hurts , ( as it will do as I’m not used to it yet) and that’s why now every time he asks me it’s like I’m put off by it and im anxious as I know it will hurt again but I don’t want to let my boyfriend down Aswell as myself as he wants that type of connection/bond and so do I , and he does understand why I say no also from it hurting. ( just incase you got the wrong impression from my this all thinking he’s pressuring me or something , which he doesn’t at all )

What do I do to over come this ?

any advice would be great thanks x
I just reliased it hardly has any commas in it so it’s a bit winded , sorry🤣 xx
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How many times have you had sex? You shouldn't assume that it "will" hurt.
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How many times have you had sex? You shouldn't assume that it "will" hurt.
I’d say 2 / 3 times , I just hate the pain. When does it get easier ? :,)
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I’d say 2 / 3 times , I just hate the pain. When does it get easier ? :,)
Two or three? That's curiously imprecise! 😆

Some girls never experience pain, others only the first time, others more often. Sometimes it's their physiology, sometimes that of their partner. Sometimes it's a matter of preparation and technique. Sometimes part of the pain can be caused by the expectation of it hurting.
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Two or three? That's curiously imprecise! 😆

Some girls never experience pain, others only the first time, others more often. Sometimes it's their physiology, sometimes that of their partner. Sometimes it's a matter of preparation and technique. Sometimes part of the pain can be caused by the expectation of it hurting.
Well let’s just say not that much 🤣🤣
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It'll be better if you guys take it slow, foreplay. Get you relaxed and in the mood properly. It shouldn't hurt. If it continues somethings wrong and you probably need to get it checked out

(Original post by Anonymous)
So I really wanna enjoy having sex with my boyfriend and get into saying yes more as I do want to do it more often and not say no just because it’s uncomfortable if you get what I mean but every time I do agree it hurts , ( as it will do as I’m not used to it yet) and that’s why now every time he asks me it’s like I’m put off by it and im anxious as I know it will hurt again but I don’t want to let my boyfriend down Aswell as myself as he wants that type of connection/bond and so do I , and he does understand why I say no also from it hurting. ( just incase you got the wrong impression from my this all thinking he’s pressuring me or something , which he doesn’t at all )

What do I do to over come this ?

any advice would be great thanks x
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Well let’s just say not that much 🤣🤣
Much as above - slow and foreplay. You might also want to consider position and perhaps lubricant.
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I had this issue too.

Especially cause I’ve got a retroverted uterus (a lot of women do).

Things that worked to reduce pain:
- a lot of foreplay
- pillow under my hips when in missionary
- not going too deep or at least being careful

I had the most pain the first three or four times, I still have pain now when the position isn’t comfortable or something. Try different positions that make sure he can’t go to deep if you feel more pain than comfortable after the 4th time.
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I had this issue too.

Especially cause I’ve got a retroverted uterus (a lot of women do).

Things that worked to reduce pain:
- a lot of foreplay
- pillow under my hips when in missionary
- not going too deep or at least being careful

I had the most pain the first three or four times, I still have pain now when the position isn’t comfortable or something. Try different positions that make sure he can’t go to deep if you feel more pain than comfortable after the 4th time.
Sound advice for the OP, particularly on positions that give her the greatest control of what's going on.
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