Can't do this - Can't socialise, No Friends, Hate my new job. Terrible family life

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I am 27 and i want an end to this madness i'm living.

I have nobody. I can't seem to learn to call or text people (due to social anxiety). I can't do this, i wanna move out. I barely talk to my family at home. I barely talk to relatives. I cant socialise i am drinking everyday from morning to night.

I hate my new job, i was basically promoted at a *****y college within one week at the job despite i have no social skills, have no interest in discipling students (i look like a student) and basically a **** team player.

What can i do, i can't live like this. I want to move out. I have felt like this since 2011, and when i had covid in december (currently suffering from long covid), my depression worsened and my social awkwardness increased. I can't continue like this i wanna leave the uk or something

Any advice.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am 27 and i want an end to this madness i'm living.

I have nobody. I can't seem to learn to call or text people (due to social anxiety). I can't do this, i wanna move out. I barely talk to my family at home. I barely talk to relatives. I cant socialise i am drinking everyday from morning to night.

I hate my new job, i was basically promoted at a *****y college within one week at the job despite i have no social skills, have no interest in discipling students (i look like a student) and basically a **** team player.

What can i do, i can't live like this. I want to move out. I have felt like this since 2011, and when i had covid in december (currently suffering from long covid), my depression worsened and my social awkwardness increased. I can't continue like this i wanna leave the uk or something

Any advice.
Hi and don't worry you're 27. You still have tons of time left to live find a partner hopefully and get married. Yes social anxiety stops you from talking to people. But answering their calls can really help you make friends especially if you initiate the video call first.

I recommend that you get a job that isn't in a college and also quit the alcohol or drink a bit less (it can make you more depressed) If you can raise enough money or do your studies to get a good job and a stable finance you can meet more people that way. You can also save enough money to move out and maybe rent an apartment of your own or something.

Try not to worry, and I think you will do great at your new job and though you might be new to it, don't bring yourself down.
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Wow so sorry you feel like this. It seems like your going through a lot and it’s sad to hear you feel you can’t talk to anyone about it. With regards to your social anxiety I get it. I didn’t even want to go to school bc I was petrified but I found an escape route. I started journaling and chewing gum weirdly enough. It calmed my nerves and made feel safe. It might not work for you but when your mind is at peace so are you.
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Hi and don't worry you're 27. You still have tons of time left to live find a partner hopefully and get married. Yes social anxiety stops you from talking to people. But answering their calls can really help you make friends especially if you initiate the video call first.

I recommend that you get a job that isn't in a college and also quit the alcohol or drink a bit less (it can make you more depressed) If you can raise enough money or do your studies to get a good job and a stable finance you can meet more people that way. You can also save enough money to move out and maybe rent an apartment of your own or something.

Try not to worry, and I think you will do great at your new job and though you might be new to it, don't bring yourself down.
Well thank you for your kind comment.
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I am 27 and i want an end to this madness i'm living.

I have nobody. I can't seem to learn to call or text people (due to social anxiety). I can't do this, i wanna move out. I barely talk to my family at home. I barely talk to relatives. I cant socialise i am drinking everyday from morning to night.

I hate my new job, i was basically promoted at a *****y college within one week at the job despite i have no social skills, have no interest in discipling students (i look like a student) and basically a **** team player.

What can i do, i can't live like this. I want to move out. I have felt like this since 2011, and when i had covid in december (currently suffering from long covid), my depression worsened and my social awkwardness increased. I can't continue like this i wanna leave the uk or something

Any advice.
I’m really sorry for how you feel, it’s not easy for anyone to be depressed and anxious for so long.
I think you already did the hardest part, which is identifying and accepting that you feel anxious and depressed with the life you currently lead, if you can’t move easily I recommend finding a therapist who can give you the necessary tools to get out of that state you’re in, it won’t be easy but with professional help you can overcome it.
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