I hit my mum

Anon or delete. I made a thread last night about hitting my boyfriend and wanting to stop, but the other night in a heated argument with my mum, I ended up hitting her across the face. I didn't mean to do it but she was really getting on my nerves with some of the things she was saying that were totally out of line. We haven't spoken since, so I haven't had chance to apologise, but there's a horrible atmosphere in the house and it's making it really uncomfortable.How can I show my mum that I didn't mean it and that it won't happen again?

Reply 1

Jon7

8

Sit her down, make her a nice cup of something, apologise, perhaps with a card, kiss her, hug, promise it won't happen again.

get help?

You need to get help.

Reply 4

Lisa.22

Jon7

Sit her down, make her a nice cup of something, apologise, perhaps with a card, kiss her, hug, promise it won't happen again.

i agree but say that you think you may need help and you will look into getting it... make an appointment with the doctors then tell you you have done.

Reply 5

Freud

14

Anger management. You shouldn't hit anyone no matter how angry you get :s-smilie:

Reply 6

Misteryom

11

Have you no respect? Hitting your mother? It's you mother's place to talk out of line to you sometimes!

Reply 7

Hygge

Whoa. You seriously need to sort this out, you can't just go slapping anyone who happens to disagee with you or annoy you.

Reply 8

Bangers+Mash

1

Anger issues at all?
short temper? or just felt violent grr.
I think an apology is needed soon, and then maybe find out IF you need help. you might just be having a bad week and decided to resolve conflict by lashing out. Who knows.

Reply 9

username93972

0

10

You need to find a way to properly vent your anger (and believe me I've had a lot of experience with this)... but you need to find a way to do it safely. People always say "hit a pillow" which is just stupid, it doesn't do anything. Hitting things (as you found out...) can release anger, but usually it has to be something that will hurt you, like a wall (I don't recommend this, you get used to pain quickly but it's just stupid). The best way to vent your anger is by screaming. Sure, you look like a total nutter, but walk somewhere isolated, or turn music on really loudly... whatever, just concentrate all your anger into a scream and let it out. It sounds absolutely stupid, I know, but trust me it works.

But yeah it's worth seeing someone about your anger if you can... a counsellor if you can't find anyone else.

Reply 10

username47781

20

Hitting your boyfriend is bad enough but your own Mother, you should be ashamed and aim to seek some help.

Reply 11

princess_sue

14

You cant just hit someone because they get your narked up a bit???

Get help, now.

Reply 12

Toffee_Kid

15

&& by the way, how the hell are you still able to type??? If I hit my mum *I'm sure many will identify* she would have beaten me senseless with every implement in the house by now, and be well into calling up family memebrs to give me the same treatment for being so damned disrespectful!!!

I have no idea how she can take that - you seem to be driving away everyone who loves you with violence..... again, seek help.

Reply 13

Rainfaery

12

You should see a counsellor. :s-smilie:

Hitting someone can never be a healthy outlet of anger, and if you don't change behaviour patterns now, they become set in for life.

Reply 14

Bangers+Mash

1

wow, everyone is dishing out the "seek help" label tonight, the OP might think he/she is crazy crazy.
[sarcasm]I mean c'mon don't lie...I bet we've all hit our mothers...[/sarcasm]

It is disrespectful and hitting is not good at all!!, but you're probably not that crazy.

Reply 15

username42053

7

There's still a chance to apologise. Try to control your anger - when you feel yourself getting angry, tell yourself and the other person and walk away saying "we'll talk about this later" or something.

Though I do believe you shouldn't have hit your Mum just because she was getting on your nerves and saying some bad things. No need.

Reply 16

iGurpreet

8

What was she saying to you so we can try and understand?

Reply 17

NoPurposeTortoise

3

It's really not on to hit anyone. Maybe you should ask yourself why you feel the need to hit the people in your life who mean so much to you.

Unless you can sort yourself out, look into getting some counselling. It's really unfair on everyone else and on you.

Reply 18

*Passion*Fruit*

12

Anonymous

Anon or delete. I made a thread last night about hitting my boyfriend and wanting to stop, but the other night in a heated argument with my mum, I ended up hitting her across the face. I didn't mean to do it but she was really getting on my nerves with some of the things she was saying that were totally out of line. We haven't spoken since, so I haven't had chance to apologise, but there's a horrible atmosphere in the house and it's making it really uncomfortable.How can I show my mum that I didn't mean it and that it won't happen again?

Hey, we all have trouble with our emotions.
I think an anger managment course (nothing to be ashamed of...) and some walk in group therapy would be an idea.
Try your local women centre for some anger management help.
There are also help lines such as the Samaritans to talk about how your feeling etc.
Xx

Reply 19

T.G.O.A.T

8

OP, You naughty naughty girl.

Sorry I haven't got any real valuable input. Maybe apologise to your mum and book into a few anger management classes. It can't hurt I suppose.

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