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No sex before marriage, your opinions?

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If somebody said they do not want sex before marriage, in your opinion what do you think this should mean? Like, should it mean no physical contact at all (including kissing), or kissing is allowed but no other form of sexual contact (i.e handjob, oral sex etc) or does it just exclude sexual intercourse?
If I knew how to do a poll I would but unfortunately i don't so:
"No sex before marriage means:
1. No form of contact at all (including kissing, pulling etc)
2. Kissing allowed but no other form of sexual contact. (no oral, no handjob, no anal)
3. Kissing and handjobs allowed, but nothing else.
4. Kissing, handjob, oral sex allowed but nothing else.
5. Only thing excluded is sexual intercourse.

Was just wondering about peoples opinions on this? I know it's a random thing to think about but someone said to me that they didn't and yet I know they have done everything but!

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Reply 1

ice_cube

Guys can we NOT let this descend into "no sex before marriage is stupid" or slagging off religion thread, just answering the question pleeeeeease.

Reply 2

Sarahl89

Dont go putting ideas into our heads, ice_cube! (A)

I'd say the first one,, but really does it actually matter? as long as whoever is happy with their personal choices? :s-smilie:

Reply 3

Robbolo

Id say the last one. (refrains from descending into TSR judgemental hell)

Reply 4

Double Agent

I'd say no intercourse, everything else is ok.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

When I was with my ex-boyfriend, I didn't believe in sex before marriage - however, I did do handjobs and oral with him. I'm not sure if that was a good decision or not, and sometimes the thought pops into my head that if I've had oral sex then I'm technically not a virgin, but it doesn't really bother me since I moved away from Christianity, and I still think of myself as a virgin.

Reply 6

Juwel

Why should it mean the same thing to everyone that subscribes to the same broad principle; why not whatever each person wants it to mean?

Reply 7

hang_your_heart

Number 2. I personally think numbers 3, 4 and 5 would be missing the point somewhat.

Five

ice_cube

Guys can we NOT let this descend into "no sex before marriage is stupid" or slagging off religion thread, just answering the question pleeeeeease.

Yup, that's all the blokes do on here, slag off religion...

Reply 10

nolongerhearthemusic

Probably no. 2

I don't see the point in allowing other forms of sex and just excluding sex sex. It's all the same really. Or, rather, there's no meaningful difference.

Reply 11

thanette

umm,prob 2 if I was going to follow this rule I think,cos then the first time/night is completely new and 'sacred'/special; think if you did more than kissing it'd not be that much different to the full whammy (IMHO....!)

imo, 4

Personally, I'd define 'no sex' as 'no sex' - oral and mutual masturbation are still forms of sex. Thus number 2.

Although I don't agree with the idea of 'no sex before marriage' so it's pretty irrelevant!

Reply 14

carrotboy

Juwel

Why should it mean the same thing to everyone that subscribes to the same broad principle; why not whatever each person wants it to mean?

that is what the OP is asking, 'what is everyone's personal interpretation of no sex before marriage?'

Reply 15

Eric Qin

You guy from mid east or maybe islam countries?

Reply 16

Lois_Lane

Whilst I don't agree with no sex before marriage, I'd define it as 2. The point is clearly purity and, since we kiss relatives/friends, kissing is the only form of physical contact, along with hugging, that isn't defined as sexual contact in a relationship.