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Muslims, do you go to the pub with your colleagues after work?

I'm one of the only Muslims in my team. They go to the pub every 2 weeks and I choose not to go but it feels like I am missing out. Not missing out due to drinking, but the fact that they're all socialising and are way closer as a result.

So a question to the Muslims on TSR, do you go to the pub with your colleagues? If you don't, how do you maintain good relationships with everyone.
I don’t tbh😮*💨 and my colleagues accept that too
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Original post by iqra_xoxoxoxox
I don’t tbh😮*💨 and my colleagues accept that too

Do you feel like that affects your relationships with your colleagues in any way? In terms of being close with them? Mine accept that I don't go but when we're all in the office or in meetings by video call it feels like they have way better banter
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IIts a fine line, do you actually want to be friends? I feel like people confuse alot colleagues and friends. Im all for been nice, but 37.5 hours a weekis enough, i make sure i spend my time out of work, away from work people purposely.
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Original post by Jpogk
IIts a fine line, do you actually want to be friends? I feel like people confuse alot colleagues and friends. Im all for been nice, but 37.5 hours a weekis enough, i make sure i spend my time out of work, away from work people purposely.

I get what you mean. Colleagues don't equal friends. It's just that we have socials during work hours too just to get to know each other and I'm feeling a bit left out because all they ever talk about is what they got up to at the pub.

Tbh I feel like I spend too much time with them too especially since we've been forced to be back at the office.
This thread hits home. My colleagues have never once organised (since the year I've worked at the current place) to do anything apart from going to the pub. One of them was so lovely and did try to push for everyone to go out for a meal but the rest didn't want to (even though they'd still be able to drink at a restaurant anyway). What else can you do I guess? I do feel a bit excluded since the people I mainly socialise with (and by that I mean going to lunch with them most days, we've never socialised outside work hours) have definitely bonded more by going to the pub. Most of them won't even come up to my desk at the end of the day to say goodbye when they leave to go home anymore. It's like I'm gradually becoming invisible.
Original post by Anonymous
This thread hits home. My colleagues have never once organised (since the year I've worked at the current place) to do anything apart from going to the pub. One of them was so lovely and did try to push for everyone to go out for a meal but the rest didn't want to (even though they'd still be able to drink at a restaurant anyway). What else can you do I guess? I do feel a bit excluded since the people I mainly socialise with (and by that I mean going to lunch with them most days, we've never socialised outside work hours) have definitely bonded more by going to the pub. Most of them won't even come up to my desk at the end of the day to say goodbye when they leave to go home anymore. It's like I'm gradually becoming invisible.

Try not to take it personally. :smile:

It's important to remember that the majority of coworkers are not friends and have very little social contact when they move jobs or change shifts.
The majority of coworkers are not closely involved in each other's lives outside of the workplace and do not want to be.

At the end of the day, the main thing that most staff expect from their jobs & workplace is a stable paycheck.
One that funds their lifestyle and is accompanied by a safe average working environment with reasonable conditions when working & a neutral atmosphere during their shifts.
Not a chummy office culture or close dynamic where staff treat each other like best friends & close family members.
20 years from now, you are unlikely to even remember the names or faces of most coworkers from between 2020-2022.

I am not recommending turning down invites to after work drinks with reasonably behaved coworkers at the pub unless it is a rotten venue or very dodgy neighbourhood.
Just highlighting that a stable paycheck and reasonably pleasant working environment during the hours of work are all that is necessary from a workplace.
Good luck!

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