They were both raised as Jehovah’s Witnesses, so yes, they have definitely been influenced by that. My dad is now disfellowshipped, and an atheist, but he’s kept that intolerance and controlling attitude which I think he got from being a JW. My mum’s still religious, and somehow less strict than my dad.
They’re not aggressive or violent. A fair few of my friends have said it’s emotional abuse, but I don’t think it is - they stopped with the name calling, insults, and stuff a while back. They seem to be trying to protect me, but I think they’re taking it too far.
It sounds like your situation was far worse than mine, I’m so sorry about that. I can relate to the lack of privacy and feeling the need to hide things like phones and relationships, though I am allowed out alone or with friends as long as I’m back by dark, which I think is fine. I’m glad you managed to get out, that must have been such a relief for you. I do hope to leave at 18 myself, but I see myself returning home after uni as I don’t think I’d be able to afford to live elsewhere.