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im going out with this girl who i'l admit is certainly not the typical fanciable girl (i know im not all that myself before u call me arragant lol) shes quite large with really pale skin and ginger scruffy hair but her personality is so nice

i just love her personality but my mates say shes mingin and distusting cause shes got severe acne and quite greasy hair etc and are laughin but i don't care.

We went in asda yesterday and i noticed people staring at her probably because of her size but depite her cool personality im beggining to agree with my mates and really arn't looking forward to erm 'getting closer to her lol' i hate sounding nasty and shallow but her rating would be about 1 out of 10 and i know its not her fault.

Maybe she needs a more decent guy than me who doesn't care about appearance AT ALL but honestly no other guys that i know will go out with her (even the generous guys)! she has a great personality. i hesitated a lot before saying yes (her friend asked me for her)

can anyone give me any advice what can i do or say. Am i in the wrong? shes 19 like me and im her first bf. :confused:
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Let's see a photo...!
Well, if you are put off of getting closer/intimate with her then I don't think it will work; maybe your feelings will change; do you want to wait and see?
Try not to hurt her feelings please, and do what you want and not as your friends say
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Do nothing, it sounds fine. A person would have to be scum to dump her for... "severe acne and quite greasy hair".
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If you like her then forget what your friend's say about it. If they're true friends they'll accept it and not mock you.

I know people that have great personalities yet aren't the best aesthetically looking people; but still have no problems.
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She reminds me of somebody I know.
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*Thumbs up*

I'm having trouble having unattractive girls even as friends let alone as gfs.
Kudos to you!
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(Original post by saturn)
im going out with this girl who i'l admit is certainly not the typical fanciable girl (i know im not all that myself before u call me arragant lol) shes quite large with really pale skin and ginger scruffy hair but her personality is so nice

i just love her personality but my mates say shes mingin and distusting cause shes got severe acne and quite greasy hair etc and are laughin but i don't care.

We went in asda yesterday and i noticed people staring at her probably because of her size but depite her cool personality im beggining to agree with my mates and arn't looking forward erm 'getting closer to her lol' i hate sounding nasty and shallow but her rating would be about 1 out of 10 and i know its not her fault.

Maybe she needs a more decent guy than me who doesn't care about appearance AT ALL but honestly no other guys that i know will go out with her (even the generous guys)! she has a great personality. i hesitated a lot before saying yes (her friend asked me for her)

can anyone give me any advice what can i do or say. Am i in the wrong? shes 19 like me and im her first bf. :confused:
Uh oh... youre going to destroy some serious confidence here If you weren't 100% sure to begin with you shouldn't have said yes. I know... its difficult to know at the time but you should know what you like. If you're her first bf shes bound to be over the moon with this but I think the only logical option for you and your personal preferences is to call it a day at a suitable point. You're going to have to hurt her I'm afraid whether it's now or even worse... later. If you don't love her to bits in every way, shes not the one for you. No easy way round this one sorry.
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Let's see a photo...!
maybe putting up a photo of a girl who hasn't given consent may be a little insensitive :rolleyes: one of her friends may read and and soon enough she'll be circulating around the net quicker than Pamella A's 'specialist interest' video.
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do you love her? I think that's the most fundamental question?Do you look forward in seeing her? Do you enjoy being wiht her? DO you feel like kissing her?
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(Original post by saturn)
im going out with this girl who i'l admit is certainly not the typical fanciable girl (i know im not all that myself before u call me arragant lol) shes quite large with really pale skin and ginger scruffy hair but her personality is so nice

i just love her personality but my mates say shes mingin and distusting cause shes got severe acne and quite greasy hair etc and are laughin but i don't care.

We went in asda yesterday and i noticed people staring at her probably because of her size but depite her cool personality im beggining to agree with my mates and arn't looking forward erm 'getting closer to her lol' i hate sounding nasty and shallow but her rating would be about 1 out of 10 and i know its not her fault.

Maybe she needs a more decent guy than me who doesn't care about appearance AT ALL but honestly no other guys that i know will go out with her (even the generous guys)! she has a great personality. i hesitated a lot before saying yes (her friend asked me for her)

can anyone give me any advice what can i do or say. Am i in the wrong? shes 19 like me and im her first bf. :confused:
You shouldn't stay with/Go out with the girl out of Pitty that would be horrible. If you like her personality then give her a chance, then if it doesn't work out then tell her "it's just not working out" What's the worst that can happen?
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you sound like the perfect couple, have a few beers and go for it
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*Thumbs up*

I'm having trouble having unattractive girls even as friends let alone as gfs.
Kudos to you!
Ahh that IS mean!
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Uh oh... youre going to destroy some serious confidence here If you weren't 100% sure to begin with you shouldn't have said yes. I know... its difficult to know at the time but you should know what you like. If you're her first bf shes bound to be over the moon with this but I think the only logical option for you and your personal preferences is to call it a day at a suitable point. You're going to have to hurt her I'm afraid whether it's now or even worse... later. If you don't love her to bits in every way, shes not the one for you. No easy way round this one sorry.
I think you're right. If she is having trouble getting bfs then dumping her could wreck her life. If she has a nice personality then isn't that enough? I would rather go out with a girl with a good personality than one which a perfect body buty is a robot.
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Let's see a photo...!
Well, if you are put off of getting closer/intimate with her then I don't think it will work; maybe your feelings will change; do you want to wait and see?
Try not to hurt her feelings please, and do what you want and not as your friends say
hmm thanks i don't have a photo of her sorry we only got together a few days ago, i'l post one if i get one, im 100% sure none of you will say shes attractive unless your taking the mick.
i will do what i want i don't take advice from my mates lol if you knew them you'd know why! Her appearance is gradually making me like her personality less! Shes been bullied loads of times in the past but her low confidence doesn't seem to stop her from asking guys out :confused:
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'beauty is in the eyse of the holder'

why do ppl care sooooooo much about appearances???/
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maybe putting up a photo of a girl who hasn't given consent may be a little insensitive :rolleyes: one of her friends may read and and soon enough she'll be circulating around the net quicker than Pamella A's 'specialist interest' video.
I wasn't serious!
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Ahh that IS mean!
Well I'm sorry but no matter how funny/clever they may be it's actually quite annoying. Much easier to listen to something pretty :/
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*Thumbs up*

I'm having trouble having unattractive girls even as friends let alone as gfs.
Kudos to you!
and who are YOU to do that? Mister Universe or something?
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hmm thanks i don't have a photo of her sorry we only got together a few days ago, i'l post one if i get one, im 100% sure none of you will say shes attractive unless your taking the mick.
i will do what i want i don't take advice from my mates lol if you knew them you'd know why! Her appearance is gradually making me like her personality less! Shes been bullied loads of times in the past but her low confidence doesn't seem to stop her from asking guys out :confused:
Well it must do in a way because she had to get her friend to ask you for her...and she's 19. You've dug yourself a little hole here because you're bound to hurt her whichever way How do her looks make you like her personality less? I don't get that!

PS: I was joking about the photo, sorry, please don't post her photo on the internet it's mean!
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and who are YOU to do that? Mister Universe or something?
I doubt my girlfriends have the same quotas as I do
It's as easy as that...
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