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Fingering hurts me a lot

I stay very wet but even when the half the finger is inserted I get an intense pain especially if it's moved around inside and when two fingers were tried to enter I felt I could cry no fingernails it's done extremely gently and I'm very much sexually excited it was my first time and I had bad pain for whole day long is this normal ?
Reply 1
I stay very wet but even when the half the finger is inserted I get an intense pain especially if it's moved around inside and when two fingers were tried to enter I felt I could cry no fingernails it's done extremely gently and I'm very much sexually excited it was my first time and I had bad pain for whole day long is this normal ?
Original post by Coconut9
I stay very wet but even when the half the finger is inserted I get an intense pain especially if it's moved around inside and when two fingers were tried to enter I felt I could cry no fingernails it's done extremely gently and I'm very much sexually excited it was my first time and I had bad pain for whole day long is this normal ?

Talk to your GP, and bring up endometriosis, a friend that has it experienced something similar. I'm so sorry you're going through that :frown: PM me if you need support :smile:
look at nhs website for vaginismus.

see if you can have a chat with your GP for some advice
Original post by CatInTheCorner
Talk to your GP, and bring up endometriosis, a friend that has it experienced something similar. I'm so sorry you're going through that :frown: PM me if you need support :smile:

Thank you for the reply I'll get myself checked
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
look at nhs website for vaginismus.

see if you can have a chat with your GP for some advice

Thank you for the reply
That level of pain is definitely something I'd get checked out by your GP or in a sexual health clinic. I'm so sorry to hear that it happened to you :hugs:
You might find it helpful to look at the NHS advice here https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/why-does-sex-hurt/

I've also merged your threads together for you :smile:
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Original post by becausethenight
That level of pain is definitely something I'd get checked out by your GP or in a sexual health clinic. I'm so sorry to hear that it happened to you :hugs:
You might find it helpful to look at the NHS advice here https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/why-does-sex-hurt/

I've also merged your threads together for you :smile:

Thank you so much I was very hesitant and I thought my thread has been deleted because it's tmi
I'd like to extend I was fingered again in and out a few times about 5 cms and my lower abdomen and vagina hurts badly and I bled.
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you so much I was very hesitant and I thought my thread has been deleted because it's tmi
I'd like to extend I was fingered again in and out a few times about 5 cms and my lower abdomen and vagina hurts badly and I bled.

It's not TMI - it's why we have the forum :yes:

If you're in a lot of pain or bleeding a lot, please call 111 or go to A&E/ambulatory care if you think you need help. Pharmacists can also advise on painkillers and that kind of thing too :smile: If it's only a few spots of blood, could it be that your partner has long fingernails or was too rough, and you could mention that to them? Using a lubricant can help as well.
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Original post by becausethenight
It's not TMI - it's why we have the forum :yes:

If you're in a lot of pain or bleeding a lot, please call 111 or go to A&E/ambulatory care if you think you need help. Pharmacists can also advise on painkillers and that kind of thing too :smile: If it's only a few spots of blood, could it be that your partner has long fingernails or was too rough, and you could mention that to them? Using a lubricant can help as well.

No heavy bleeding I just noticed it once I don't think so I'll bleed again cramps similar to menstrual cramps and the spasmodic pain in my vagina since 3 days
His fingernails are perfectly trimmed, Although gentle on the first try he was a little rough on 2nd time and that caused the pain to recur.
And now even clitoral stimulation hurts the vagina and lower abdomen I'm not sure why it is I'm confused
I was aroused therefore wet but there was no lube because fingering duration was less than 5 minutes each time.
I have tried contacting the doc today but I'm unable to connect I will just try it again in a while I don't want to take painkillers so that we don't start again or else there might be injury
Thanks for the assurance I can now share without hesitation
Original post by Coconut9
No heavy bleeding I just noticed it once I don't think so I'll bleed again cramps similar to menstrual cramps and the spasmodic pain in my vagina since 3 days
His fingernails are perfectly trimmed, Although gentle on the first try he was a little rough on 2nd time and that caused the pain to recur.
And now even clitoral stimulation hurts the vagina and lower abdomen I'm not sure why it is I'm confused
I was aroused therefore wet but there was no lube because fingering duration was less than 5 minutes each time.
I have tried contacting the doc today but I'm unable to connect I will just try it again in a while I don't want to take painkillers so that we don't start again or else there might be injury
Thanks for the assurance I can now share without hesitation

Yeah, it can be tricky to get through to the GP - hopefully you can book an appointment soonish. And there's always the option of speaking to a pharmacist or 111 if you need advice now.

I would definitely consider trying lubricant, as even if you're very aroused that doesn't always mean you're naturally producing enough lubricant - plus, more is always better! It's avaliable in places like Boots as well as specialist shops.

If you're in pain, I would really consider taking a painkiller or if it's a cramp maybe a hot compress? I wouldn't be trying to have sex anyway if you're in pain - it's hardly a recipe for a good time.
Original post by becausethenight
Yeah, it can be tricky to get through to the GP - hopefully you can book an appointment soonish. And there's always the option of speaking to a pharmacist or 111 if you need advice now.

I would definitely consider trying lubricant, as even if you're very aroused that doesn't always mean you're naturally producing enough lubricant - plus, more is always better! It's avaliable in places like Boots as well as specialist shops.

If you're in pain, I would really consider taking a painkiller or if it's a cramp maybe a hot compress? I wouldn't be trying to have sex anyway if you're in pain - it's hardly a recipe for a good time.

I took shower and am feeling a lot better pain is less but it happens while walking and yeah no sex now I feel a little weak after this fingering stuff I think I can't progress and I think it's most likely vaginismus
Original post by Anonymous
I took shower and am feeling a lot better pain is less but it happens while walking and yeah no sex now I feel a little weak after this fingering stuff I think I can't progress and I think it's most likely vaginismus


In that case, it can be treated so :goodluck: I hope your GP or sexual health clinic can help :smile:

There can be lots of causes though so don't worry if they suggest something else.
Yeah thank you for your concern 🙂

Take care !🙂🙂😝

Original post by becausethenight
In that case, it can be treated so :goodluck: I hope your GP or sexual health clinic can help :smile:

There can be lots of causes though so don't worry if they suggest something else.

Sure thank you,
Take care🙂🙂
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah thank you for your concern 🙂

Take care !🙂🙂😝


Sure thank you,
Take care🙂🙂

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