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I don't know what to do...

Please don't de-anon. The person involved is known by people on here, and they'd probably figure it out.

The thing is, there's a girl who I know. We don't ever talk, and we're not even friends. We've probably only spoken once.

Her boyfriend started talking to me by email. He said he had access to her email too. I'd never even met him. He was being really weird.

Then, today (many weeks after the last time I heard from him), I get an email from her. I open it, not thinking anything of it. There's no message but an attached image. My email shows the attached photo in a small image at the bottom. It was of her topless.

Now, I don't really know her. In fact, I don't think she even likes me. But, I don't know what to do.

At first I felt I had a duty to tell her- because he shouldn't have done it and it wasn't fair- whether I get on with the girl or not. But then I got an email from her saying not to open the previous email and it was her boyfriend. She begged me not to open it. However, I already had almost an hour beforehand.

I don't want to admit that I opened it... because it would be awkward. It scarred me mentally and I don't want to face her. The problem is, I can't avoid her. I see her most days. If I don't tell her- I'll feel bad. But if I do, it would be horrible.

I don't see why he sent it. We don't know each other. He knows I'm female... and she's supposed to be his girlfriend.

What do I do?
Wow - that must be really awkward! Personally I think this guys just been a bit of a pillock - think how bad the girl must feel? Its her photo thats obviously been sent around so Im sure she's not feeling to great about it. As bad as you feel, my advice would be to not mention it for fear of further embarassment for both of you and just try to put it out of your mind.
I feel for you though - what an awkward situation to be in!
Reply 2
the guy's an ***, but you need to tell her.

explain, she'll understand
Reply 3
just keep it to yourself
Reply 4
Well, I mean, she knows that he sent it. And she knows he's been a bit weird with me in the past, because he told her he was talking to me. I assume she's still with him. I just don't get either of them. I feel bad for her that he sent it- but I can imagine I'll still see them together this week.

I believe it was only me it was sent to- so I don't understand why he chose me of all people.

He tried to talk to me on MSN just after I got the second email from her. I just ignored him. I didn't want to explode at him because I don't know him- and I'd rather just not talk to either of them.
Reply 5
i still think you should talk to her....
if for no other reason than you'll feel better
Reply 6
I know that I should. But I don't know how to. We don't know each other and she definitely doesn't like me very much.
Reply 7
just be honest, you didn't do anything wrong
just remember - it'll be ok :smile::smile:
Reply 8
wow ask him why did he send u that pic. does he think your a lezbian or something? he shouldnt of even sent it to get u feeling awdward. its her bf fault not yours. tell her the truth. she would prob break up with him, but hes not even worth it. look what kinda guy goes around sending pics of their gf. he is just retarded seriously.
Reply 9
Anonymous
Please don't de-anon. The person involved is known by people on here, and they'd probably figure it out.

The thing is, there's a girl who I know. We don't ever talk, and we're not even friends. We've probably only spoken once.

Her boyfriend started talking to me by email. He said he had access to her email too. I'd never even met him. He was being really weird.

Then, today (many weeks after the last time I heard from him), I get an email from her. I open it, not thinking anything of it. There's no message but an attached image. My email shows the attached photo in a small image at the bottom. It was of her topless.

Now, I don't really know her. In fact, I don't think she even likes me. But, I don't know what to do.

At first I felt I had a duty to tell her- because he shouldn't have done it and it wasn't fair- whether I get on with the girl or not. But then I got an email from her saying not to open the previous email and it was her boyfriend. She begged me not to open it. However, I already had almost an hour beforehand.

I don't want to admit that I opened it... because it would be awkward. It scarred me mentally and I don't want to face her. The problem is, I can't avoid her. I see her most days. If I don't tell her- I'll feel bad. But if I do, it would be horrible.

I don't see why he sent it. We don't know each other. He knows I'm female... and she's supposed to be his girlfriend.

What do I do?


If you lie to her and she finds out later, she'll hate you.

If you tell her the truth (nicely) it might affect you both for a while, but I think overtime, you'll get over it.

I think it would be best to tell her, because it might be that he sends several others on her list these images too, what a d***head!!