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At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life I just don't know how to cope anymore. I'm hoping people on here can give me some honest advice on how I can improve things and feel happy once again. I know to some people my problems will just seem trivial, but I am the sort of person who dwells on everything and often overthinks.
My first problem is that I'm in my second year of uni but picked a modulel that has turned into a disaster and as a consequence I think I'm going to fail. It's too late to change course now and I'm wondering how this is going to affect my grade overall as this year actually counts for something. Basically I chose a work based learning module in which i had to find a work placement for 80 hours and then produce 2 reports based on it. I aimed to do this over summer, but a combination of working in my normal job too much and poor communication from the module staff meant I didn't get it done. Since I've been back at uni, communication from the staff has still been pretty poor and i've ended up with a placement at a charity that has only just saved itself from closure and does'nt really have any projects on the go. This means it will be incredibly hard to work 80hrs with them let alone form an academic report. I just really don't know what to do. I don't think I'll be able to find another placement and get the 80hrs done in time and I'm really worried about the implacations of failing a module.
Secondly, my boyfriend of 2 years has just dumped me and so I'm feeling so alone and unwanted. We had an argument and since then he's told me that he doesn't love me in the same way anymore and doesn't want to be in an LDR anymore. This has made me feel really crap as I've put so much effort into the relationship and love him so much. Why am I not good enough? It just seems like I'm heading in a downward spiral and I just don't know what to do anymore. Since going to uni I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to about this and I'm really quite worried about myself.
If anyone has any tips about picking myself back up or what I could do about my uni situation, I'd really appreciate it
Please keep anon or just delete
At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life I just don't know how to cope anymore. I'm hoping people on here can give me some honest advice on how I can improve things and feel happy once again. I know to some people my problems will just seem trivial, but I am the sort of person who dwells on everything and often overthinks.
My first problem is that I'm in my second year of uni but picked a modulel that has turned into a disaster and as a consequence I think I'm going to fail. It's too late to change course now and I'm wondering how this is going to affect my grade overall as this year actually counts for something. Basically I chose a work based learning module in which i had to find a work placement for 80 hours and then produce 2 reports based on it. I aimed to do this over summer, but a combination of working in my normal job too much and poor communication from the module staff meant I didn't get it done. Since I've been back at uni, communication from the staff has still been pretty poor and i've ended up with a placement at a charity that has only just saved itself from closure and does'nt really have any projects on the go. This means it will be incredibly hard to work 80hrs with them let alone form an academic report. I just really don't know what to do. I don't think I'll be able to find another placement and get the 80hrs done in time and I'm really worried about the implacations of failing a module.
Secondly, my boyfriend of 2 years has just dumped me and so I'm feeling so alone and unwanted. We had an argument and since then he's told me that he doesn't love me in the same way anymore and doesn't want to be in an LDR anymore. This has made me feel really crap as I've put so much effort into the relationship and love him so much. Why am I not good enough? It just seems like I'm heading in a downward spiral and I just don't know what to do anymore. Since going to uni I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to about this and I'm really quite worried about myself.
If anyone has any tips about picking myself back up or what I could do about my uni situation, I'd really appreciate it
Can anyone at all help me? I can't stop cyring right now
Don't be so hard on yourself; things can be really, really bad for a while; but pick up again 
I felt I was the biggest failure ever earlier this year; but as they say, if a horse kicks you off, get back on it (Yeah, stupid saying, but you understand.)
Your boyfriend is clearly a ninny, and doesn't deserve you. I know it's easier said than done, but just think "If he treats me like that, should I really care?"
Sorry I can't be much more help; just stick it out, and try to focus on the good stuff
I felt I was the biggest failure ever earlier this year; but as they say, if a horse kicks you off, get back on it (Yeah, stupid saying, but you understand.)Your boyfriend is clearly a ninny, and doesn't deserve you. I know it's easier said than done, but just think "If he treats me like that, should I really care?"
Sorry I can't be much more help; just stick it out, and try to focus on the good stuff
for gods sake woman, pick yourself up!!!
have pride in yourself, if he dont want you, then you dont want him aswell, think about that situation like that
and in terms of the work placement, just do as many hours as you can their, or if you can't do 80 hours, just see if they will lie for ou, and do like 20 instead of the full 80, get it done now and itll take your mind off everything,
dint mean to be horrilble just u need to be shook into action,...hoep fings work out...xx
have pride in yourself, if he dont want you, then you dont want him aswell, think about that situation like that
and in terms of the work placement, just do as many hours as you can their, or if you can't do 80 hours, just see if they will lie for ou, and do like 20 instead of the full 80, get it done now and itll take your mind off everything,
dint mean to be horrilble just u need to be shook into action,...hoep fings work out...xx
In a bit of a bad spot myself. Sinking fast in my degree, broke up with the first girl I've ever loved last night and to top it all off I'm stuck in my flat on my own.
Only thing that ever really seems to work for me is music. Currently got this on.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=3YDb1mZxQRk
Only thing that ever really seems to work for me is music. Currently got this on.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=3YDb1mZxQRk
OK then dont panic, we'll get you through it.
Lets start off with the uni issue. I think what would be best is if you email the course/module leader, or the student advisor if there is one and get an appointment. It will give you a chance to discuss your concerns with them, and work out a plan to get you feeling happier about the course. Spend a few minutes writing out what you want to ask them so you're nice and prepared. I'm sure it can be resolved, i know its stressful when you feel like its all falling down around you, but it will be ok, just hang on in there and get it sorted out.
Its bound to be difficult having the extra stress of your relationship ending. I dont know enough about the situation to comment to much really, but i think it would be good if you could speak to someone about it, be it a uni counseller (its just what theyre there for) or friends/ family. It will get better in time, dont take it as you not being good enough, ldr can be hard at the best of times, and people change a lot as they grow up. Why dont you go buy yourself a big slab of chocolate and a bottle of wine and have a cosy evening in? Try to totally unwind for the evening, and come tommorow you can get sorting things out.
Lets start off with the uni issue. I think what would be best is if you email the course/module leader, or the student advisor if there is one and get an appointment. It will give you a chance to discuss your concerns with them, and work out a plan to get you feeling happier about the course. Spend a few minutes writing out what you want to ask them so you're nice and prepared. I'm sure it can be resolved, i know its stressful when you feel like its all falling down around you, but it will be ok, just hang on in there and get it sorted out.
Its bound to be difficult having the extra stress of your relationship ending. I dont know enough about the situation to comment to much really, but i think it would be good if you could speak to someone about it, be it a uni counseller (its just what theyre there for) or friends/ family. It will get better in time, dont take it as you not being good enough, ldr can be hard at the best of times, and people change a lot as they grow up. Why dont you go buy yourself a big slab of chocolate and a bottle of wine and have a cosy evening in? Try to totally unwind for the evening, and come tommorow you can get sorting things out.
Thanks for all your replies
Talking to the module leader is easier said than done. I emailed her 2 days ago now to arrange a time to talk to her and she just hasnt replied. My friend had similar problems trying to get in touch about something different. I just feel like I'm running out of time... Most people will have finished their 80hrs by xmas. Right now I just really want to dissapear and give up. Academically, last year went well, now I feel that this one module is just totally dragging me down.
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
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OK then dont panic, we'll get you through it.
Lets start off with the uni issue. I think what would be best is if you email the course/module leader, or the student advisor if there is one and get an appointment. It will give you a chance to discuss your concerns with them, and work out a plan to get you feeling happier about the course. Spend a few minutes writing out what you want to ask them so you're nice and prepared. I'm sure it can be resolved, i know its stressful when you feel like its all falling down around you, but it will be ok, just hang on in there and get it sorted out.
Its bound to be difficult having the extra stress of your relationship ending. I dont know enough about the situation to comment to much really, but i think it would be good if you could speak to someone about it, be it a uni counseller (its just what theyre there for) or friends/ family. It will get better in time, dont take it as you not being good enough, ldr can be hard at the best of times, and people change a lot as they grow up. Why dont you go buy yourself a big slab of chocolate and a bottle of wine and have a cosy evening in? Try to totally unwind for the evening, and come tommorow you can get sorting things out.
Lets start off with the uni issue. I think what would be best is if you email the course/module leader, or the student advisor if there is one and get an appointment. It will give you a chance to discuss your concerns with them, and work out a plan to get you feeling happier about the course. Spend a few minutes writing out what you want to ask them so you're nice and prepared. I'm sure it can be resolved, i know its stressful when you feel like its all falling down around you, but it will be ok, just hang on in there and get it sorted out.
Its bound to be difficult having the extra stress of your relationship ending. I dont know enough about the situation to comment to much really, but i think it would be good if you could speak to someone about it, be it a uni counseller (its just what theyre there for) or friends/ family. It will get better in time, dont take it as you not being good enough, ldr can be hard at the best of times, and people change a lot as they grow up. Why dont you go buy yourself a big slab of chocolate and a bottle of wine and have a cosy evening in? Try to totally unwind for the evening, and come tommorow you can get sorting things out.
Talking to the module leader is easier said than done. I emailed her 2 days ago now to arrange a time to talk to her and she just hasnt replied. My friend had similar problems trying to get in touch about something different. I just feel like I'm running out of time... Most people will have finished their 80hrs by xmas. Right now I just really want to dissapear and give up. Academically, last year went well, now I feel that this one module is just totally dragging me down.
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
Anonymous
Thanks for all your replies
Talking to the module leader is easier said than done. I emailed her 2 days ago now to arrange a time to talk to her and she just hasnt replied. My friend had similar problems trying to get in touch about something different. I just feel like I'm running out of time... Most people will have finished their 80hrs by xmas. Right now I just really want to dissapear and give up. Academically, last year went well, now I feel that this one module is just totally dragging me down.
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
Talking to the module leader is easier said than done. I emailed her 2 days ago now to arrange a time to talk to her and she just hasnt replied. My friend had similar problems trying to get in touch about something different. I just feel like I'm running out of time... Most people will have finished their 80hrs by xmas. Right now I just really want to dissapear and give up. Academically, last year went well, now I feel that this one module is just totally dragging me down.
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
If your module leader doesn't respond, you could try going to the uni counsellor, explaining all your problems and that your course is stressing you out etc, and maybe he/she would be able to speak to your module leader for you.
It sounds like you could do with talking to someone about your problems anyway so you may aswell go to the counsellor, as you don't feel like there's anyone else you can turn to. Just talking with someone might make things a bit better.
About this uni placement, if you can't get another placement sorted, you could concentrate on helping to sort this charity out, as it doesn't have any projects going you could ask to set some up, or to start getting the charity into the public eye, do some fundraising etc.
Anonymous
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
I have never felt so down in my life. We were together 2 years and he was by best friend as well as boyfriend. I feel like I have absolutely no one to talk to which is why I'm posting here. I don't have many close friends anymore since leaving for uni last year and I just don't feel comfortable talking to family about it. I just don't know how I'm going to get over this. I just want to give up.
you will get over it in the same way that everybody else does. Relationships end all the time, peoples lives don't end just because the relationship does, even if it seems like your life has ended temporarily. I'm sure you survived pretty well before being in a relationship so I'm pretty sure you can handle yourself now you're single. It's about keeping things in perspective and not letting mole-hills turn into mountains. It will take time but things will improve.
The best thing to do is busy yourself, fill your life up so you don't have the time to be worrying, distract yourself. Put more hours in at work, throw yourself into studying, do voluntary work, do anything, just do something. A busy bee has no time for sorrow.
Anonymous
Talking to the module leader is easier said than done. I emailed her 2 days ago now to arrange a time to talk to her and she just hasnt replied. My friend had similar problems trying to get in touch about something different. I just feel like I'm running out of time... Most people will have finished their 80hrs by xmas. Right now I just really want to dissapear and give up. Academically, last year went well, now I feel that this one module is just totally dragging me down.
What's the worst that can happen? you fail the module or you fail the year. You will handle it. Plenty of people fail modules or fail years at university and then go on to repeat a year and pass it. It's not ideal but it's not the end of the world. That's the worst case scenario. You still have a chance of grasping the best case scenario and passing it.
Anonymous
Hi
Please keep anon or just delete
At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life I just don't know how to cope anymore. I'm hoping people on here can give me some honest advice on how I can improve things and feel happy once again. I know to some people my problems will just seem trivial, but I am the sort of person who dwells on everything and often overthinks.
My first problem is that I'm in my second year of uni but picked a modulel that has turned into a disaster and as a consequence I think I'm going to fail. It's too late to change course now and I'm wondering how this is going to affect my grade overall as this year actually counts for something. Basically I chose a work based learning module in which i had to find a work placement for 80 hours and then produce 2 reports based on it. I aimed to do this over summer, but a combination of working in my normal job too much and poor communication from the module staff meant I didn't get it done. Since I've been back at uni, communication from the staff has still been pretty poor and i've ended up with a placement at a charity that has only just saved itself from closure and does'nt really have any projects on the go. This means it will be incredibly hard to work 80hrs with them let alone form an academic report. I just really don't know what to do. I don't think I'll be able to find another placement and get the 80hrs done in time and I'm really worried about the implacations of failing a module.
Secondly, my boyfriend of 2 years has just dumped me and so I'm feeling so alone and unwanted. We had an argument and since then he's told me that he doesn't love me in the same way anymore and doesn't want to be in an LDR anymore. This has made me feel really crap as I've put so much effort into the relationship and love him so much. Why am I not good enough? It just seems like I'm heading in a downward spiral and I just don't know what to do anymore. Since going to uni I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to about this and I'm really quite worried about myself.
If anyone has any tips about picking myself back up or what I could do about my uni situation, I'd really appreciate it
Please keep anon or just delete
At the moment, so many things are going wrong in my life I just don't know how to cope anymore. I'm hoping people on here can give me some honest advice on how I can improve things and feel happy once again. I know to some people my problems will just seem trivial, but I am the sort of person who dwells on everything and often overthinks.
My first problem is that I'm in my second year of uni but picked a modulel that has turned into a disaster and as a consequence I think I'm going to fail. It's too late to change course now and I'm wondering how this is going to affect my grade overall as this year actually counts for something. Basically I chose a work based learning module in which i had to find a work placement for 80 hours and then produce 2 reports based on it. I aimed to do this over summer, but a combination of working in my normal job too much and poor communication from the module staff meant I didn't get it done. Since I've been back at uni, communication from the staff has still been pretty poor and i've ended up with a placement at a charity that has only just saved itself from closure and does'nt really have any projects on the go. This means it will be incredibly hard to work 80hrs with them let alone form an academic report. I just really don't know what to do. I don't think I'll be able to find another placement and get the 80hrs done in time and I'm really worried about the implacations of failing a module.
Secondly, my boyfriend of 2 years has just dumped me and so I'm feeling so alone and unwanted. We had an argument and since then he's told me that he doesn't love me in the same way anymore and doesn't want to be in an LDR anymore. This has made me feel really crap as I've put so much effort into the relationship and love him so much. Why am I not good enough? It just seems like I'm heading in a downward spiral and I just don't know what to do anymore. Since going to uni I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to about this and I'm really quite worried about myself.
If anyone has any tips about picking myself back up or what I could do about my uni situation, I'd really appreciate it
OP i'm currently going through the exact same thing so i really can sympathise. have you ever been in the LDR society? even if you have broken up, everyone in there is really really nice. they have helped me cope so much, i really dunno what i would have done without them all.
for the placement, have you actually looked around for another one? or are you just assuming you won't find one? have you tried telling your lecturer about this?
Hiya,
How are you doing now did you get everything sorted? I hope you're ok and feel better. I'm recovering from a mentor attacking my commitment to my role and she really has pulled me to pieces on things. I think she is very unprofessional, however, I know I am a much stronger person than that and I know I don't need to attack people to get them to understand my message. I am going to assess student counselling next week and as far as the lecturers are concerned they are probably looking for you to start really hassling them about meeting them. This is something I have had to learn the hard way. I hope you still look on here, would be great to hear how you are.
How are you doing now did you get everything sorted? I hope you're ok and feel better. I'm recovering from a mentor attacking my commitment to my role and she really has pulled me to pieces on things. I think she is very unprofessional, however, I know I am a much stronger person than that and I know I don't need to attack people to get them to understand my message. I am going to assess student counselling next week and as far as the lecturers are concerned they are probably looking for you to start really hassling them about meeting them. This is something I have had to learn the hard way. I hope you still look on here, would be great to hear how you are.
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