Do you think your attachment type is accurate, and do you think your type is a direct result by your upbringing? Just curious
Lol mine is no way accurate. It said I’m fearful avoidant. I had a wonderful childhood. I just later developed ocd at 12 which made me really really really anxious about my relationship with my parents and I became really clingy to them and still am. Family is really important to me. But it’s not to do with the way you’re raised. Mental health illnesses can play a part too as it did with me.
Got disorganized/fearful-avoidant...which I certainly knew going into it, the problem is this has plagued every single relationship I have ever had and I do not know how to get better at having any form of relationship
Yes very much my upbringing, my childhood consisted of being brought up in a workaholic household with two siblings with ASD, I am grateful that my parents were there to provide for me physically/materially but they never did emotionally, nor did my siblings due to their condition, so truly lack the understanding of emotions and social interaction, if anything I'm scared of emotions in general.
But it could of been a lot worse, I don't think badly of my parents simply that I want to do a much better job with mine when I hopefully have them, once I find someone I am comfortable with my emotions with.
Apparently I'm "secure", which is nice! And I can believe that that's because my parents were basically there for me.
It's funny how all of that was only implied by the website, though. At the end it didn't really explain what a secure attachment type actually means =/
not sure if this is what you meant, but on the main page it shows you how your attachment type affects you when you’re single, in a relationship and as a parent. The secure type should be there if you scroll down. Hope that’s helpful!
Dismissive/ avoidant- I think it has a little to do with my upbringing because when my (brown… cough cough) parents would punish me I would try to not cry and act like it didn’t affect me which I think now plays a role in me being emotionally distant with anyone… but I also think it probably more to do when I would go to primary school. My “friends” would always leave me out and that made me less naive and more independent. Also taught me that being alone is fine .