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How bad is it if a girl is 17 years old and guy is 23 years ola?

How bad is it if a girl is 17 years old and guy is 23 years old

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gingur
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kinda dodgy... what does a 23 year old want with someone who hasn't even finished school yet. Inb4 people start screeching that "it's legal so it's okay", just because the 17 y/o is over the age of consent, doesn't mean it's ok. The maturity gap between a 17 yo and a 23 yo is too big for it to be healthy.
i would say that is quite bad with only that context.
What about 18 and 23? I'm not OP btw.
As long as nothing illegal is going on, both people are happy together and everything is consensual- it is fine.
More a question of compatible ambitions & personalities and mutual attraction.
I dunno, 5 bads out of 7?

Still an adult and schoolie yea?
Original post by Anonymous
What about 18 and 23? I'm not OP btw.


I don’t feel like 18 and 23 is bad because if you think about a 18 year old is legal adult.
the only sorta age gap that's reasonable for a 17yr old is 2 years above and 1 year below. Nothing else. 23 and he's chilling with a 17yo??? :iiam:
I wouldn't say it's automatically bad, but I'd raise an eyebrow to it.
I'd be worried by it yes, because there will be a large financial and life experience gap, which makes it more likely, and more easy, for abuse to occur.
A 17 year old is still a child.
Original post by londonmyst
As long as nothing illegal is going on, both people are happy together and everything is consensual- it is fine.
More a question of compatible ambitions & personalities and mutual attraction.


being a bit dim if you think a 17 yo has the life experience to make this sort of informed consent
Bad imo. What does a 23 year old have in common with a 17 year old? Why that large age gap?

One of them is still in school and the other is a full-on adult. Not a good idea imo.
The age gap is too big someone who is still in high school and a adult
Original post by Anonymous
being a bit dim if you think a 17 yo has the life experience to make this sort of informed consent

I did and know plenty of other 16-19 year olds who did.
I think it ultimately comes down to personal ambitions, maturity, personality and the individual's life experiences.
Apart from the minimum legal age of consent, it is more a question of able to find a reasonably compatible partner with shared ambitions & mutual attraction plus being able cope with being in a relationship with the older person and all the most forseeable consequences of agreeing to the relationship.

The oldest guys I dated as a 16-17 year old were in their 50s and 60s.
My maternal grandmother eloped with a religious ultra-traditionalist almost three times her age when she was 17 and has no regrets more than six decades later.

P.S Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:
Original post by Anonymous
What about 18 and 23? I'm not OP btw.

Also fine- as long as nothing illegal is going on, both people are happy together and everything is consensual.
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MoJam
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Original post by londonmyst
I did and know plenty of other 16-19 year olds who did.
I think it ultimately comes down to personal ambitions, maturity, personality and the individual's life experiences.
Apart from the minimum legal age of consent, it is more a question of able to find a reasonably compatible partner with shared ambitions & mutual attraction plus being able cope with being in a relationship with the older person and all the most forseeable consequences of agreeing to the relationship.

The oldest guys I dated as a 16-17 year old were in their 50s and 60s.
My maternal grandmother eloped with a religious ultra-traditionalist almost three times her age when she was 17 and has no regrets more than six decades later.

P.S Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:

50 and 60 what the hell, u sure u werent being groomed?
I've been there with 17 and 24 and it didn't end well. Not the case for everyone, of course there are exceptions. But be aware they will know you are more innocent and be master manipulators! Don't want to sound harsh but you are probably more into a version of them you made up in your head than the real person. Also imo it's not worth getting heartbroken over
Original post by londonmyst
I did and know plenty of other 16-19 year olds who did.
I think it ultimately comes down to personal ambitions, maturity, personality and the individual's life experiences.
Apart from the minimum legal age of consent, it is more a question of able to find a reasonably compatible partner with shared ambitions & mutual attraction plus being able cope with being in a relationship with the older person and all the most forseeable consequences of agreeing to the relationship.

The oldest guys I dated as a 16-17 year old were in their 50s and 60s.
My maternal grandmother eloped with a religious ultra-traditionalist almost three times her age when she was 17 and has no regrets more than six decades later.

P.S Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:


girl u a victim
Original post by MoJam
50 and 60 what the hell, u sure u werent being groomed?

50s and 60s.
I have never been groomed by any guy that I dated and won't give creeps the time of day.
Nor any guy with a criminal record or any criminal history beyond speeding/motoring connected issues.
Original post by Anonymous
girl u a victim

Nope.

P.S Why are you posting through the anonymous feature? :confused:

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