The Student Room Group

Is it okay to have no freinds at university

i struggle to make friends
Original post by Anonymous
i struggle to make friends

When you sttruggle to make friends, I recommend you socialise with the people that you feel comfortable with: i.e. the pupils in your class. I'm sure you can make good friends but it does take time to get used to feeling welcome. Even I find it a hard time making friends and don't have many myself (probably because people don't like me).
depends what you mean by "okay"

if making friends at uni is something you have no desire to do and you're happy without , then that's completely okay.

if it's something you do want but struggle to find then there's nothing shameful about that. there are things you can do that may help with this. :smile:

What in particular makes it a struggle? :smile:
Original post by Obolinda
depends what you mean by "okay"

if making friends at uni is something you have no desire to do and you're happy without , then that's completely okay.

if it's something you do want but struggle to find then there's nothing shameful about that. there are things you can do that may help with this. :smile:

What in particular makes it a struggle? :smile:

Well i am not really an talkative person to people outside of a select few people because i just dont feel comfortable with it i sometimes struggle to even hold a convo when i do its just pretty awkward and tense and doesn't tend to last long
Original post by Anonymous
Well i am not really an talkative person to people outside of a select few people because i just dont feel comfortable with it i sometimes struggle to even hold a convo when i do its just pretty awkward and tense and doesn't tend to last long

I see, do you think that feeling anxious talking to people would be an accurate assessment of your situation. If so, I totally get that. what sort of thoughts go round your head that make it uncomfortable? perhaps that people are negatively judging you in a particular way? or is it just a general sense of feeling uncomfortable? or something else entirely?

and with conversation, is it a case of just genuinely not knowing what to say? or something else?...



Don't want to seem like I'm pawning you off to a link but this website: https://www.succeedsocially.com/articlecategories. is so good in regards to dealing with social anxiety and awkwardness, conversation making, etc!
Reply 5
I've always found it hard. I'm my own worst enemy, have low self esteem, but I'm good at making others think I'm confident. But when it comes to conversation I either rabbit on, often lose track (fibfo, lupus and menapause!!), I get lost, by the time I manage to get 'a turn' I've forgotten what I was going to say or the others are about 3 subjects ahead of me. Been surviving depression for longer than I can remember. I don't like me so why should I expect anyone else to. Have always craved that 'bestest friend' security.
Original post by Obolinda
I see, do you think that feeling anxious talking to people would be an accurate assessment of your situation. If so, I totally get that. what sort of thoughts go round your head that make it uncomfortable? perhaps that people are negatively judging you in a particular way? or is it just a general sense of feeling uncomfortable? or something else entirely?

and with conversation, is it a case of just genuinely not knowing what to say? or something else?...


Don't want to seem like I'm pawning you off to a link but this website: https://www.succeedsocially.com/articlecategories. is so good in regards to dealing with social anxiety and awkwardness, conversation making, etc!

yes id say that is quite an accurate assessment of the situation as with people im quite familure with i dont have this issue some of the thoughts i get is "he/she thinks im weird " or "i should stop embrassing myself " are quite common

Quick Reply

Latest