What do I do??

I need a little help in figuring out what to do here.
Long story short:

I've met a girl at uni, instantly liked her, and have flirted with her a fair bit. And despite making a passing comment about how she isn't looking for anyone right now a few weeks ago, she has flirted back a fair bit.

I have no idea where I go from here. Do I just carry on flirting and see where it goes, or try something a bit more direct?

Thanks.

Reply 1

tom_tom_tom

I would personally continue with the flirting and see where it goes, and then try something direct, however it is up to you totally which ever one you feel most comfortable doing i guess.

Reply 2

The Master

i dont pretend to be a "love guru" but you have shown to her an interest and if you just carried on with the flirtations she will eventually get bored

Reply 3

SugarExplosion

I've been in pretty much this situation with my bf not very long ago. I didn't want a boyfriend, I'd been in relationships all the time for the past few years and just needed to kinda be me for once. We spent a lot of time together, lots of flirting etc and I just kinda decided that because I liked him so much, the fact that I initially didn't want a bf was now just irrelevant. He knew I wasn't looking for anyone etc but he still carried on being very close to me, flirting etc and if he hadn't I don't think we would be together now and I've never been happier. Just keep on with what you're doing so that she knows you do like her and when she's ready and realises you'll be good together then it should all work out :smile:

Reply 4

Adalia

tom_tom_tom's right, she may get bored

test the waters with something more direct.
if that gets a neg reaction, tone it back a little and chill :smile:

if you get reeeally frustrated, tell her how you feel in a non-let's-date-NOW kinda way :smile:

Reply 5

Evenstar

I'd say carry on flirting...but maybe increase the intensity and see how she reacts.

Then, as others have said, you really will need to make a move (unless she surprises you and does it first :smile:

) otherwise the relationship will never move onto the next level.

Reply 6

The Master

Adalia

tom_tom_tom's right, she may get bored

*cough* *cough*

Reply 7

Adalia

The Master

*cough* *cough*

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

i'd say continue to flirt and stuff. if it still isn't going anywhere just ask her if she wants to meet up for a drink sometime or something?

Reply 9

Anonymous #3

try something more direct, ask her out and see where it goes from there.....nothings more frustrating than continual flirting without it going anywhere....well, thats my opinion to be honest...