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I really wanna date older guys , I’m 17 but when I’m 18 I’m tempted to look at dating apps etc . My high school was so small and everyone in my year knew everyone. It literally just ended since there’s our a level exams now. But what I mean is I could never form a relationship in this school because if you hadn’t found an connection with anyone in it it was never gonna happen. So sometimes I feel upset that I’m single and lack a lot of experience there but there was a reason for it I guess. And my job outside school isn’t exactly the place to really make lasting friendships or a bf etc. but I find older guys attractive I just do I guess . Whether this is related to daddy issues idk . I don’t have a strong male influence in my life maybe I’m wrong it could be that who knows. Either way how would I even go about dating someone older there must be 18 year olds that do but it seems kinda impossible I don’t know
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(Original post by Apolina66)
I really wanna date older guys , I’m 17 but when I’m 18 I’m tempted to look at dating apps etc . My high school was so small and everyone in my year knew everyone. It literally just ended since there’s our a level exams now. But what I mean is I could never form a relationship in this school because if you hadn’t found an connection with anyone in it it was never gonna happen. So sometimes I feel upset that I’m single and lack a lot of experience there but there was a reason for it I guess. And my job outside school isn’t exactly the place to really make lasting friendships or a bf etc. but I find older guys attractive I just do I guess . Whether this is related to daddy issues idk . I don’t have a strong male influence in my life maybe I’m wrong it could be that who knows. Either way how would I even go about dating someone older there must be 18 year olds that do but it seems kinda impossible I don’t know
If you are dating older guys because of deep rooted issues- get therapy, before any relationship, trust me.

But also there’s nothing wrong with dating older guys when you’re both consenting adults, however you are still young and I would be cared still of older man taking advantage of younger women, especially since you’re inexperienced in the dating word- remember grooming can happen at any age.

I wouldn’t necessarily recommend dating apps, but I mean it’s not like you’d be in the same circle as older guys, so I guess that’s kind of the only way
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It is fine to prefer to date older guys or only date guys much older than you.
But never consider doing so because your self-esteem depends on male attention, you are lonely or are desperate to have a male protective influence in your life.
Any of these things will only make you very vulnerable to abusers and a magnet for bad apples of the male variety.
This comes with a very high risk of trapping you in at least one toxic relationship with a criminal or a vicious cycle of verbally abusive and controlling older males who will bring little but negativity into your life.

You will have no problem attracting plenty of attention of older guys when you are 18 and using online dating sites or regularly going to nightlife events.
Try to refine your dealbreakers so that you know exactly what type of partner and relationship you are looking for.
Along with all the things that you absolutely do not want in a potential date or partner.

Widen your social circle to increase the number of adult guys that you are friendly with & often socialise with.
Gain some experience of the work world and widen your hobbies & skillset.
Choose your personal and financial ambitions for the next 2-5 years.
Improve your finances and work towards building the happy future life that you want.
Good luck!
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