cant keep up with friends at uni

Definitely don’t let them stop you from finding new friends. First year is suppose to be less stressful hence why it doesn’t count in some unis. Obviously try not to fail but go live your life and enjoy your days at uni!!

i dont want to limit myself, whenever i talk to anyone they idk seem off
maybe it's me
i just want to pass these exams tbh, i knew if i had revised earlier id be able to get much higher than the scraping mark hopefully. i dont want to go from 100% to fail, i think i slacked off in term 2 big time and may came much quicker aha

thanks

in the beginning of the year, i was getting 100%-90% in all assignments. during semester 2 i had some problems, not academically related but i just fell behind and now my friendship group only seems to be interested when they all get above 90%, however i just dont think i want to commit so much to my assignments anymore.

i still do try my best but when they compare, i never did say my exam percentage ig this group is just for high marks i want to be around people that also want to go out maybe.

hopefully i find some others in 2nd year but i do like my current friends. i think i just need to not let them stop me from making/ talking to new people bc i like talking

Hi there,

Honestly, it doesn't sound like your group of friends is the greatest. They should be friends with you, not your marks! They can be great as a study group or people to sit with in class though, as their high standards sound like they would encourage you to push yourself to do well. But it sounds like you're doing amazingly already, 90-100% is really, really good! Above 70% is still a first, so if you don't want to push yourself so hard you definitely have the leeway to take it easy if you want to keep doing well but not overworking yourself.

I personally, when my friends ask about marks, usually just say 'I did well' or 'I'm happy with what I got' without giving a number, even if it's good, just because I don't like feeling as though I'm comparing with their marks (especially if they did not get as high a mark as I did, I don't want to risk making anyone feel bad) so maybe taking that approach can help with avoiding their questions?

But I'd definitely say stay open to new experiences and meeting new people because a big part of uni is socialising and making friends and sounds like you ended up with the few people who are 100% work focused which isn't a bad thing, but it can make for some dull socialising. There's no need to cut those friends out though, the beauty of uni is that you can have multiple friend groups and just divide your time. But don't take their words too strongly to heart if they make you feel lesser than for not getting as high marks as them, you're doing very well! There's lots of people out there who are happy to talk and hang out and not be so work-focused, so go out there and find them!

Jade
Official University of Southampton Rep

You have a 99% of failing tbf. You’re doing so well, effortlessly I feel like you can get a 70% if you’re out here getting 90s. It’s still a 1st so you don’t have to aim for 100%s all the time. As long as you believe in yourself you’ll do great throughout the whole of uni. Have you tried encouraging your friends to go out? Just to eat out maybe?

i fell behind big time on lectures and i havent been spacing my revision throughout the year. cramming the week before exams i dont know if ill get above the pass for my most recent exam anyway.
i have gone out to eat with one of those friends but i dont think we have much in common, idk maybe it's just me and i need to open up more i have not been myself in first year ig it was more to do with personal stuff than uni stuff but thanks! hopefully 2nd im more me and open

How has your grades been lately? I do recommend you go out as much as you can this year so you don’t regret it in your second and third year. Things will get tougher on those years but you’ll have loads of time so try and balance it out.

If you look at it from a general perspective, you’re getting 70s and 90s so 1sts on almost everything. Overall, you’re also going to be getting a 1st hopefully. Though it is first so don’t stress over it.

i think i just need to get out and meet more people maybe, loneliness from not going out much is more concerning to me tbh and my health overall.

thanks again ig everyone rn is just trying to get the best i just need to pass my exams rn

hope your exams go well x

I graduated last yearrr x

ohhh congratssss
u escapeddddd aha

Sadly I have my masters and phd 😭 so let’s struggle together?