I don’t attract men it’s as though they think I’m creepy

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I’m female and rubbish when it comes to dating etc. I’m very quiet people say I’m quirky. I don’t know if it’s true or a myth that women have no problems getting men but it’s not the case for me. I get rejected a lot.. is this normal? For example I asked a guy I used to attend a sports club with if he wanted a catch-up (he had weeks before mentioned that we should have one). I asked him when I saw him and he looked put off and declined

I suppose I’m not great at communicating. I don’t know how to communicate in a normal way.

I’ve joined a dating site and get several messages but I tried sending a message to a new guy in a joking way. His height was listed at 6ft4 and mine is much less. I said ‘just curious is it true that tall men want woman to be a certain height lol’ he blocked me. I then realised it could have come across as rude though I didnt intend it to. I simply meant it to mean would he mind a short girl if he is so tall. I thought what a soft …. for blocking me lol

I’m older than a most people on here too I’ve had tons of practice but am no good at acting normal. I’m very much a witjdrawn introvert who lives alone in my own world but when I make an effort I come across as weird. My past collegue once asked if I was ok and said ‘I mean you are a bit weird anyway arnt you’, I looked and he said ‘well you are though arnt you’

Not sure what the …. I can do though
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My genuine advice would be to be yourself. Way you described sounds that you are putting a lot of effort into this and while a person puts effort others can see it and it makes person putting effort look abnormal or un natural. Just try be yourself and communicate with your date as you would communicate with your friends and that should solve the issue
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The thought that you are inherently socially inept or awkward is only going to make things worse. Firstly, there's no point trying to be something you're not. You aren't the only person in the world to have been called quirky or to find communication difficult.

I would suggest trying to work on your social skills. Here is a website with some good advice (as a start): https://collegeinfogeek.com/social-skills/ . There's a ton of stuff online, including YouTube videos on this.

There'll be someone out there for you, it just requires patience.
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