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The guy I’m dating has midterms and we haven’t talked in a week, should I text him?

I’ve been dating this guy for around a month and we went out three times. His birthday was a a week ago, so I told him we can go out sometime so I can treat him to something. He said ‘Sureee, maybe Thursday or Friday, because I have midterms all week and next week but we can go out for some time.’ I then suggested Thursday at 7. He said ‘Let me confirm because I’m not sure whether I’ll be free or not. Because University is being extremely draining.’

I said ‘Ok, tell me when it suits you’ and left it at that. It’s been a week, and we haven’t talked since then, except when I replied to his story and he replied like he normally would.

I know that midterms can be draining in his major, especially since he’s ranked 2nd so he obviously cares about grades, and I know that he truly ended up being busy on Thursday (with work) and that he probably hasn’t gone out ever since midterms started because he always posts stories if he does and he hasn’t in a week.

I’d normally leave it be, but he was showing promising signs. The last time we met he let it slip that he told his best friend about me, and how he texts me quickly even though he doesn’t like texting and prefers real life conversations. Also, he told me about his midterms beforehand so he technically communicated. Does it sound like I’m getting ghosted? I’m getting conflicting signals.
(edited 1 year ago)


Because it’s been a longer time now, so the advice to ‘wait’ doesn’t hold as valid anymore, so I felt like I need a new perspective
Original post by alpacashello
Because it’s been a longer time now, so the advice to ‘wait’ doesn’t hold as valid anymore, so I felt like I need a new perspective


In that case, I wouldn't hold your breath.
Let him focus on his midterms? Priorities are priorities.
Yeah he sounds like he's just really busy. He's still doing his midterms now so I think he's just prioritising his studies. I don't think you should overthink it. Maybe he wants to go out after his midterms are finished?

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