my bf did the dead with my mum. is it still cheating?

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let me start by saying im not trying to make excuses for either of them. I'm just trying to figure this whole situation out.

people always say my mum and i look alike. i recently caught my bf of 6 months doing the deed with my mum in my bed. i was initially really shocked and upset, but my mum talked to me after, and reminded me how, as a family, sharing has different rules (e.g. its okay to use the same toothbrush or spoon, when you're family).

this is not an issue about my parents btw - they are in an open relationship.

my bf says it was a one time thing and that he was trying to see how it would feel like having sex with me when were much older because he sees himself marrying me. he says its not technically cheating because my mum and i are basically the same person, just in different periods of our life.

is it still cheating? if so, can we still make it work? i really love him, and i know both him and my mum love me so much.
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Yes. How would it not be cheating? That's manipulation coming from your mum and boyfriend. Don't stand for it.
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No if this is imaginary.
Yes if its not plus your ma's deranged.
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let me start by saying im not trying to make excuses for either of them. I'm just trying to figure this whole situation out.

people always say my mum and i look alike. i recently caught my bf of 6 months doing the deed with my mum in my bed. i was initially really shocked and upset, but my mum talked to me after, and reminded me how, as a family, sharing has different rules (e.g. its okay to use the same toothbrush or spoon, when you're family).

this is not an issue about my parents btw - they are in an open relationship.

my bf says it was a one time thing and that he was trying to see how it would feel like having sex with me when were much older because he sees himself marrying me. he says its not technically cheating because my mum and i are basically the same person, just in different periods of our life.

is it still cheating? if so, can we still make it work? i really love him, and i know both him and my mum love me so much.
this is either a really odd lie, or your completely delusional
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No it’s not
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I really hope this isn't real, but if it is, then yes absolutely your boyfriend shouldn't be sleeping with your mum!!
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Yes this is cheating and also very morally questionable.
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i hope this is a troll... thats vile (that ur bf is gas lighting u to believe that its ok)
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Your bf did the dead with your mum?? Of corpse this is a troll.
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(Original post by SagaciousSag)
Yes. How would it not be cheating? That's manipulation coming from your mum and boyfriend. Don't stand for it.
like i said, my mum explained its the same way families can share spoons when eating from the same ice cream tub but thank you so much for the advice - i really appreciate it and am just really conflicted rn
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No if this is imaginary.
Yes if its not plus your ma's deranged.
hey! while i really appreciate the advice, can i ask that you dont call my mum names - she is still my mum after all.
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could you please elaborate? i know its a confusing story, i just really dont know what to do
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this is either a really odd lie, or your completely delusional
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No it’s not
Thank you! thats what i thought as well, but my friends disagree. can you give me ideas for points to tell them?
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Thank you! thats what i thought as well, but my friends disagree. can you give me ideas for points to tell them?
I think they were joking.
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