How to get over fear of uni

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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
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To be honest basically all school leavers feel the same and will be in the same position so don't fret about it too much! The main thing is just make a point of putting yourself out there in the first month or so - even if you then like to stay in and spend time in your own company, you'll be glad to have put in the time to get to know people initially so you can make some longer term connections off the bat, then trying to "break in" later. As above, everyone is in the same boat basically though
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Good opinions above. You can also approach your school's counsellor for more personalised/in-depth help, they usually have plenty of experience with soon-to-be school leavers.
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Good opinions above. You can also approach your school's counsellor for more personalised/in-depth help, they usually have plenty of experience with soon-to-be school leavers.
I'm on a gap year and i dont really have contact with my teachers or any counsellors rn:[
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
What are you exactly worrying about? Socializing/ making friends? Academic problems? Financial issues?
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
We're all in the same boat!
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
Hey there!

This is a perfectly normal feeling before you start, university is such a big step that it is something really worth looking forward to, but a big change like that is also always scary!

If you're able to visit your uni before you start in September then I would recommend that, getting more comfortable with what's around on campus and where, plus what is local in either the town or city, will help make that transition smoother. If you've already been on an open day you might be able to book your own campus tour where a Student Ambassador will take you around the campus again.

You can also try looking on Facebook for applicant groups you can join. These are a great way for new students to start making connections before they've even moved in, but just make sure you join the one for the right year as sometimes previous years get left up so it might look confusing.

As for once you're there in September, during Freshers week there will be lots of social events put on for students to socialise and get to know each other. If you're living in student accommodation, going to these as groups of housemates will help forge those bonds. Usually the first friends you make will be from your accommodation, but then as the semester goes on you'll get to know your classmates better too.

And as always, there will be plenty of clubs and societies for you to join. These are great ways to try something new or keep up with a hobby/passion of yours, but also to meet people outside of your accommodation and course as well.

If you ever get overwhelmed your university will have lots of student support available, such as counsellors and well-being teams, to give you that extra help while you settle in.

I hope this has been helpful! If you have any other questions then feel free to let me know

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What are you exactly worrying about? Socializing/ making friends? Academic problems? Financial issues?
socializing, living and being away from home, i'm pretty introverted and dont drink so I cant relate to a lot of those kind of students..
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
Anxiety is pretty normal & honestly not going to go away until you arrive.

what you can do is channel your energy into the right things, think about what you are excited about and what your really looking forward to.

once you’re at uni, say yes to everything, keep busy & take advantage of all the opportunities that pop up.
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
Hi there!

How you feel is completely normal and very common! It's great that you're excited about uni and that you like to travel and explore new places, but it's understandable that you'd be scared as it is still a whole new experience and environment. Honestly, just go brave! Accept that you are nervous but also remember it's exciting and that being nervous is all simply part of it! When uni actually starts and you get there, all these feelings will even out, trust me. Right now there's just a lot of anticipation as well, but everyone feels similar to how you do and once you're surrounded by similar people, it will all be okay.

I see from your other responses that you're worried about socialising, not drinking and being away from home. I'd suggest joining societies when you get started with uni, they're a great way to meet people and get out there! They let you explore your hobbies and interests and many of them have socials, so you get to socialise with people in a social setting as well. And go to any and as much Fresher's events as you can! That's usually the time and place that everyone is meeting everyone for the first time and everyone is excited and eager to meeting new people and making new friends, so it won't be too hard to find a friendly face!

And don't worry about not drinking, while it is very common with uni students, there are still a few who don't drink. You can still go to all the socials and sip on a soda or water and once you're having fun that's all that matters. A lot of Fresher's events are usually pub/bar crawls or clubbing but you can choose not to drink (I've been to fair amount where everyone drinks beer but since I don't, I usually just get a juice or something and still hang out). There's also a lot of ice breakers, coffee meets and orientations so there are other things that don't involve drinking. And as for flat parties, I'd definitely say still go! I won't lie to you there will be a lot of drinking but you can still go and have fun and bring chaser or snacks (which are always appreciated) and people will be glad for them.

Living away from home for the first time can be scary, but remember everyone else you're living with is in the same boat, and put yourself out there to knock on someone's door and introduce yourself. They may prefer to be alone or they may be glad for company but you won't know until you try (it's worked out pretty well for me so far!). Bring stuff from home to help you feel comfortable, maybe a throw pillow you always have or plants or posters (lots of unis have poster and plant sales) and spend a bit of money to decorate your room and make it homey since you will be spending a lot of time there. And if you ever do miss home, you can always videocall with your parents or friends, and spend a weekend back there every now and then.

But I just want to reassure you how you feel and the things you're worried about are all very normal, just common pre-uni jitters! Once you get there and get in the swing of moving in, meeting people and going out, you'll be alright. It's just a period of adjustment and right now it's just the nerves but everything will all be fine!

Good luck with your upcoming first year, and if you have any more worries or concerns feel free to post them and I'll be happy to respond!

Jade
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Hi, don't worry, you are not alone. A lot of people will feel both excited and anxious, as it is a big step. Adjusting to living away from home just takes time, so it's common to feel homesick when you first move away. You should just throw yourself into the uni experience, try anything that seems interesting to you, be it: societies; 'give it a go' one off events; events run by the students union; volunteering opportunities; if it appeals to you you could be a course or departmental rep; make use of the universities facilities; you can hold study sessions with peers on your course in the library and lots more. Doing these things will help both with living away from home, and with meeting lots of new interesting people

You should also bring along photos and items that remind you of your family and put these in your room, so they can comfort you if you feel down and miss them. Decorate your room of all your favourite things and get new things, have a fun shopping trip to IKEA! Have your parents visit you in your new place and make time to go see them as well, and meet up with other friends from back home.

In terms of not drinking, you will find there are a lot of students like this, it won't just be you. You can:
- try societies
- sign up to volunteering opportunities set up by the students union; they are free, you'll meet fellow students and you'll feel good after doing some rewarding work
- See what events the students union is holding, take parts in the one's you are interested in, and you'll meet like minded people when you are there.
- The university may hold online events, such as quizzes that you can take part in.
- Go to student quiz/bingo nights
- Go out with friends, do kareoke, go to pub quizzes (you don't need to drink), go shopping, go to the cinema, crazy golf etc there will be lots to do in the city

Often, your really good friends will come from your course or societies, but you will find your people, so don't try too hard to fit in, just be yourself, take part in things that interest you, and you will meet great, like minded people.

In terms of feeling less worried before you actually go, you could make a list of activities to do and places you want to explore in your new city, so that you get yourself excited about moving there. You can also go do a little exploring before your move in date, perhaps go have a day out there with family or friends. You could even go on an open day, and do campus and city tours, and go to the welcome, support, and night life talks so you know more about it.

I hope this helps and that come September your excitement will outweigh your worry.

- Rosie
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one moment i'm excited at the opportunity of going to uni and the next i'm scared shitless and terrified. i'm quite a homebody but i love travelling/exploring new places at the same time. i want to just go for it and not back out last minute. how do i push myself out my comfort zone??
Hi there,

My name is El and I was exactly the same as you! One minute I was excited but the next I was terrified of moving away.

What helped me was that Coventry offered a weekend stay in one of their accommodations for people with disabilities, mental health and are just nervous! This was a wonderful and extremely useful experience as I was able to see what it would be like to live with strangers, cook in a shared kitchen and also explore Coventry as a city by myself. During this, we were also able to get our IDs faster than any of the other students and get other boring Uni stuff out of the way so we didn't have to stress or worry about it on moving in day.
I got this experience through the 'Student Disability & Wellbeing' department; so see what your uni has to offer too!

If not, maybe suggest spending a day or two in a cheap hotel with a friend to just get some independence and explore the grounds of the uni and the city you've chosen.

It may help trying to find who you'll be living with if you are doing student accommodation or a shared house. This helps to just get friendship groups started and also makes you feel safer as you already know a handful of people around you at parties and at freshers.

I hope this helps,

El
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