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    Please keep anon

    For some time now my friends have been leaving me out, i don't get invited to anyones house anymore, no one tells me when they're going shopping or just going out to chill. They don't tell me things anymore, i found out the other week my one of my friends had a boyfriend, and they're weeks/months into the relationship (she was like my best friend like a year ago) and it seems she has replaced me with someone else from college. Fair enough friends drift apart but i feel really left out. We all used to share secrets but no one talks to me about things anymore; i haven't done anything wrong to any of them but yet they still make me feel like an outcast. Don't know what to do
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    maybe you need to invite them out and stuff, then they will return the favour
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    Talk to them, or toalk to one of them that you feel closest to. Dont be accusing them of leaving you out, that will only cause more problems, but tell them how you feel. Keep referring to yourself and how you FEEL. they can't very well argue with what you;re feeling. Sometimes people just drift apart. Perhaps thats happened. perhaps they aren't as good frinds as you thought they were.
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    I agree if you start inviting them up and coming up with plans, not just following theirs, then you won't end up being left out!
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    Hmm. I dunno you shouldn't exclude yourself talk to them about it. Personally, I'd probably shout at them [I'm a **** though, don't follow my lead! :P] Maybe invite them all round to yours, not leaving anyone out from your group and see how things go. If it's obvious your 'connection' isn't there anymore maybe it's time to move on.
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    make some new friends , life is short. Sustain those friendships, these other friends don't seem like they value you.
    g'luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    make some new friends , life is short. Sustain those friendships, these other friends don't seem like they value you.
    g'luck.
    That's a lot easier said that done though. If the op is still at school people will have their 'friendship groups'
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    arg, im in the same situation. My friends all came back from uni this week and they have met up almost everyday, going out and going to others houses etc. They havent invited me to any of these, yet all but one of them denied it when i asked them had they met up. theres no reason as to why either, we were great friends before they left and nothings happened that meant we 'split up'. I just feel really **** about this so i can sympathise OP
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    This happened to me all the time when I was younger. Now I don't give a damn. If people wanna leave me outta things, so be it. I'll find other people to hang out with .
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    arg, im in the same situation. My friends all came back from uni this week and they have met up almost everyday, going out and going to others houses etc. They havent invited me to any of these, yet all but one of them denied it when i asked them had they met up. theres no reason as to why either, we were great friends before they left and nothings happened that meant we 'split up'. I just feel really **** about this so i can sympathise OP
    Im in the A2 year at college btw, its just so heartbreaking, considering some of these friends are people i've known since year 7 at school, but now im being pushed away and replaced by people we've only just met at college
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    Im in the A2 year at college btw, its just so heartbreaking, considering some of these friends are people i've known since year 7 at school, but now im being pushed away and replaced by people we've only just met at college
    I'm experiencing this now, just finished college and as soon as i finished they stopped inviting me to things, such as meals, pitch and put, to the pub, camping, and even when I've text to meet up with them they come up with pathetic excuses to not see me and it turns out they met up with my other friends and went to the pub or something. And I have invited all of them to many things I've organised. I just don't understand
 
 
 
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