Is St. Andrews literally unsuitable for introverts?

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I have been here for 9 months as a PGR, jealous of folk having so wonderful night life, be them at the DRA bar or in their quarters.

Whenever I have dinner at the DRA bistro with folk from the same building (i.e. hallmates), I am the one talking the least. To some extent, I am a good speaker, but am so shy that I'd rather be a passive listener. Neither do I blend in nor am I able to intercede in conversations. I feel literally detached for no reasons.

I am angry with myself not being able to socialise as normally as others do. If I'm the type of straight A students getting 20/20 for every module, I'd have no problem with being a recluse - sadly I'm not.

I pass through the hall & campus everyday like a L'Étranger. I already made the grave mistake of shutting myself off during UG elsewhere, I'm repeating it now, how miserable it is!
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I have already been here for 9 months as a PGR, jealous of folk having so wonderful night life, be them at the DRA bar or in their quarters.

Whenever I have dinner at the DRA bistro with folk from the same building (i.e. hallmates), I am the one talking the least. To some extent, I am a good speaker, but am so shy that I'd rather be a passive listener. Neither do I blend in nor am I able to intercede in conversations. I feel literally detached for no reasons.

I am angry with myself not being able to socialise as normally as others do. If I'm the type of straight A students getting 20/20 for every module, I'd have no problem with being a recluse - sadly I'm not.

I pass through the hall & campus everyday like a L'Étranger. I already made the grave mistake of shutting myself off during UG elsewhere, I'm repeating it now, how miserable it is!
Sorry for missing a word
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I have been here for 9 months as a PGR, jealous of folk having so wonderful night life, be them at the DRA bar or in their quarters.

Whenever I have dinner at the DRA bistro with folk from the same building (i.e. hallmates), I am the one talking the least. To some extent, I am a good speaker, but am so shy that I'd rather be a passive listener. Neither do I blend in nor am I able to intercede in conversations. I feel literally detached for no reasons.

I am angry with myself not being able to socialise as normally as others do. If I'm the type of straight A students getting 20/20 for every module, I'd have no problem with being a recluse - sadly I'm not.

I pass through the hall & campus everyday like a L'Étranger. I already made the grave mistake of shutting myself off during UG elsewhere, I'm repeating it now, how miserable it is!
There is no ‘normal’ students, perhaps your group yet?
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There is no ‘normal’ students, perhaps your group yet?
Sorry, I don't get what you mean
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Sorry, I don't get what you mean
The stereotype of a normal student doesn’t exist as a general cohort, there may be a few but there’s other people with other interests. Tbh I don’t actually know what a normal student is :lol:

I missed out a word what I meant was perhaps you haven’t met your group yet. Join societies that’s normally a good start
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The stereotype of a normal student doesn’t exist as a general cohort, there may be a few but there’s other people with other interests. Tbh I don’t actually know what a normal student is :lol:

I missed out a word what I meant was perhaps you haven’t met your group yet. Join societies that’s normally a good start
Because I am really abnormal
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I have been here for 9 months as a PGR, jealous of folk having so wonderful night life, be them at the DRA bar or in their quarters.

Whenever I have dinner at the DRA bistro with folk from the same building (i.e. hallmates), I am the one talking the least. To some extent, I am a good speaker, but am so shy that I'd rather be a passive listener. Neither do I blend in nor am I able to intercede in conversations. I feel literally detached for no reasons.

I am angry with myself not being able to socialise as normally as others do. If I'm the type of straight A students getting 20/20 for every module, I'd have no problem with being a recluse - sadly I'm not.

I pass through the hall & campus everyday like a L'Étranger. I already made the grave mistake of shutting myself off during UG elsewhere, I'm repeating it now, how miserable it is!
I think St. Andrews has a very specific vibe, I heard lads that were popular struggle to make friends there. I really don't think it's your fault. If you think there's anything you could do better, try working on them here and there, this uni isn't exactly the end of the road.
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I think St. Andrews has a very specific vibe, I heard lads that were popular struggle to make friends there. I really don't think it's your fault. If you think there's anything you could do better, try working on them here and there, this uni isn't exactly the end of the road.
Uni life is everything to me
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Uni life is everything to me
I don't think St. Andrews is the top pick for uni life. I know it sucks but maybe look at your options, whether you wanna stick it out, try to move to another uni etc
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Uni life is everything to me
I’m not sure introvert and what you are looking for go together. Ofc it’s a generalisation but what are you actually looking for. AFAIK St A is more pub life than a proper uni life. It’s a marmite situation
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I’m not sure introvert and what you are looking for go together. Ofc it’s a generalisation but what are you actually looking for. AFAIK St A is more pub life than a proper uni life. It’s a marmite situation
It is hard to tell, I'd say, I'd say introverts struggle everywhere as well & they'd rather wish themselves more extrovert another life
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Uni life is everything to me
Join some clubs next year.
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Join some clubs next year.
I will. Sure!
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